Are you obligate to financial support your relative who is not financial stable with your saving ?

hahattpro@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world – 60 points –

  • I live with my parents (both). I have job.

  • I did my share duty: I help pay family electricity/water bill, pay my brothers tution fee.

  • Currently, my salary is multiple time my living cost, so I can save more than half of my salary (no pay rent, no marry, no children)

  • My mum has a brotehr who is not financial stable. She help him (few time yearly, not one time, but yearly). She is very stress about this situation. => when she ask me and my dad to chip in, we both said nope, then ask her to give up on that money black hole. => really hurt our family relationship, because she refuse to do so.

  • That dude (my uncle) have family he has to support. If I chip in with my own salary, his children living standard will increase, they will have better future. It will cost me my spare salary (i will not able save like, 50% of my salary per month)

  • But I don't want to waste money. That money give away is like charity that I can never get back. I don't want to piggy back few dude on my back for years.

So, how do you think on this case.

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How is he not financially stable? Does he work a low wage, spend beyond his means, etc? Id base my decision off of that. If he's making decent money but spending it all maybe I'd help with building a budget and evaluating expenses to see where all the money is going. If a low age maybe helping update his resume and looking for a better paying job that matches his skillsets

  • spend more than income.
  • have some loan because past bad decicion (got to pay the interest)

Well some of his income is your mother’s gifts. So maybe his income and spending are balanced.