What is smth toxic in a relationship you should not like but did/do?

SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com to Asklemmy@lemmy.ml – 69 points –

We've all faced aome toxic traits in partners in some relationship. They're supposed to be warning signs but its easy to misinterpret them, what’s yours?

Could be anything from possessiveness or jealousy to argumentativeness or bossiness.

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Part of me enjoyed them making every little decision for me. I think it's why I ended up in that situation in the first place.

I was burnt out and just didn't want to think anymore, they came along and just controlled everything. For a little while it was nice.

But once I started getting better, they didn't want to relinquish control and it was hard to escape.

After 2 years I did escape, but I had to relearn what my likes and dislikes were. They had done such a thorough job of deciding everything I had forgotten even little things e.g. if I liked chinese food, or if that was just their preference.

Hope you've rediscovered yourself ❤️. I know faaar too many women in a similar position.

And I've known men, too. No indicator for OP, but its easy for anyone to fall into this trap.