Looking for help and advice

Foidi | she/her @beehaw.org to LGBTQ+@beehaw.org – 23 points –

Hi bees. I recently was looking around for info about hip growth and hrt, and read that it may happen, but even if then not really noticible. However for like a week now I feel my hips hurt, like substencialy and they give me trouble walking, stadning and stuff and even sleeping. And I am almost sure it is growth. But isnt it too painful? Should it be that way, and can I ease it somehow?

Edit:

I have noticed that when I walk and sway my hips more it is less painful to walk, but it takes getting used to

Thanks in advace :3

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I am not sure about that, especialy that I am a long way from getting fem voice and no they do not ignore facial hair, like 90% dont, and when I try to present fem they still call me mister when they see or hear me

You’ll figure it out. Good luck!

I hope so. But now my feelings are quite grim

I can tell. Don’t let it make you do anything you’ll regret. Time is all you need.

what do you mean by that?

I mean, I remember when I felt exactly the way you're feeling right now, and that it absolutely gets better. You will figure everything out for yourself and you're gonna feel great. Just please.. keep on keeping on. Don't do any self-harm type things if you can avoid it. Rely on your support network. Remember that you're super fucking strong and amazing too! It's not easy being trans, and you're out here being brave as hell. People often say that but they don't really understand the weight. I do. I think you are gonna be just fine long-term.

right now I am coping with my depresive states by weed and alcohol, but friends are getting worried about that

Practice moderation. The alcohol makes your body suffer and that can possibly actually slow down your HRT.

but its the only thing that brings me ease

That's substance abuse, and a serious concern for your health. Practice harm reduction as much as possible, particularly with the alcohol.

Idk how really

For alcohol: drink fewer than 3 drinks per day, always give your body 2-3 days without alcohol to recover, and drink a glass of water for every drink.

1 drink is equal to:

  • Short 6oz glass of wine
  • 1 12oz can of beer
  • 1 1.5oz shot of liquor

Drink no more than 3 of these units per day and make sure you take 3 days off per week so your body can heal. Drink lots of water.

For cannabis:

  • Use edibles instead of smoking when you can
  • Use an herbal vape
  • NEVER get high before driving
  • Avoid being high while at work or school
  • Don’t smoke right before bed if you’re going to be sleeping less than 8 hours
  • Hydrate!