Don't tell your family what to do at your funeral, because you'll be dead. It's not for you, it's for the people left behind. So let them do what they feel is right.
Besides, how could ever know or care? You're DEAD.
It seemed apparent, to me at least, that the person you replied to had the intention of telling their loved ones not to spend on OP's account. Not that they're forbidding the family from any course of action.
I guess if you take it super literally, okay, whatever. But the smallest amount of thought seems to make this obvious.
^- this right here is the right answer.
I have a song I'd like to be played for the 5 people who'll attend, but that's more about the message it convey - if I don't get to use my death to influence people, then I guess I don't really have a choice. I have a preference with regard to burial vs cremation, but that's it. For the rest, you figure it out. Don't want to maintain a burial plot? Fine, don't want a tomb stone? Fine. You have to deal with it, so you get to decide.
Funerals are for the living.
Don't tell your family what to do at your funeral, because you'll be dead. It's not for you, it's for the people left behind. So let them do what they feel is right.
Besides, how could ever know or care? You're DEAD.
It seemed apparent, to me at least, that the person you replied to had the intention of telling their loved ones not to spend on OP's account. Not that they're forbidding the family from any course of action.
I guess if you take it super literally, okay, whatever. But the smallest amount of thought seems to make this obvious.
^- this right here is the right answer.
I have a song I'd like to be played for the 5 people who'll attend, but that's more about the message it convey - if I don't get to use my death to influence people, then I guess I don't really have a choice. I have a preference with regard to burial vs cremation, but that's it. For the rest, you figure it out. Don't want to maintain a burial plot? Fine, don't want a tomb stone? Fine. You have to deal with it, so you get to decide.