What's the biggest "Green Flag" that could be misinterpreted as a "Red Flag"?

Lanky_Pomegranate530@midwest.social to Asklemmy@lemmy.ml – 152 points –
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I guess it feels magical to be someone's first.
But as @otp said - experience brings knowledge of yourself and others and can make stuff more enjoyable and easier to do.

True, prior experience does bring prior knowledge of yourself, but for me, exploration has always been a key factor in a relationship, in all aspects. Like, what new memories did you make together, what unique things did you do together, etc.

Exploration of the self should be a constant thing, and while it's certainly no bad thing to have some basics checked off, that kind of discovery should be happening in meaningful relationships whether it's your first or your hundredth.

exploration has always been a key factor in a relationship

Nothing wrong with that.
We have new things to experience in other stuff of life too.

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Exploration of the self should be a constant thing

You can do it in many different surroundings and variables. Another situation teaches X better than another. Some situation might not teach anything.
So, you can learn things about yourself in a relationship or after that never occurred to you before.