For non-smokers with friends who smoke, does them smoking make you sad?

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I'm a former smoker, so, I might not count, but if I do - no. Quitting smoking was the hardest addiction I ever managed to stop. If a friend wants my advice on stopping, I'll give it to them, but, I know how hard it is to stop, and for most people the pain of going through stopping just isn't worth it. Anyone who smokes for long enough with other smokers knows that there is no shortage of people who are embarrassed by the addiction, and worry about being looked down on by others. Making judgements on others for consequences of a choice they made when they were most likely a kid is just not something I want to be a part of.

I haven't smoked in 15 years, and I still have times where I miss it. Hell, I have a dream about once a month where I take up smoking again. I am really glad I stopped, but, I really got super lucky by what was going on in my life when I successfully quit, I had the support of friends and family, and everything was going right for me at that time. Had things not gone "just right" for several months in a row I am pretty sure I would have convinced myself to go to a gas station and torch all of that progress.

Im a big believer in not shaming others for their short comings (mostly), including smoking. Like you said, change a few things and I could be in the same place.

I got lucky through strategic planning. The day I moved into my new house in a new state was the day I quit. I never missed it at all. The paradigm shift in my life and basically removing all my usual triggers at the same time was instrumental. I'm a little over 2 years since that day and haven't smoked once. Don't even have an urge to. My partner and her GF smoke around me and I don't care or have any interest in doing it again.