Why would your best friend or someoneyou mutually considered a good friend suddenly ghost you?
Is there a way to figure out if they blocked youon Signal if you can still technically message them?
Edit: he seems to have blocked me or hasn't used Signal since a single emphatically non-controversial/non-hurtful comment so he either blocked me or hasn't opened Signal for >month. He's not responding to anything else either so he's either depressed or blocked+done with me.
Edit: I'll know when it comes birthday time. I'm not a Bridezilla about birthdays but it would be unusual for him to not wish me one. He's never not done so. I'll have my answer when that happens 🙏 (namaste) If he wants to be a dick about it and leave me in the dark totally those days are fortunatley numbered :/
Edit: we're white and very (North)-American.
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I would say that there can be many reasons for a persons absence in you life. But in this absence we can also see our own fears.
I am literally slightly ignoring someone whose uncanny birthdy is today. A person from the comments said it.
some people reduce their circle when it gets tough. For me, i find it hard to be person right now. Every single day is the make or break of my life. Massive debt, constant house of cards feeling.I recieved a message, she said it's her birthday. I look at my personal calender, i reply, yes it is, what you want me to do about it.
I was rude. I know that someone really cares and it's her birthday even, why not just be nice?
Then again if someone is willin to force quit a friend just because they are absent is just having trust issues. And as someone who is still my best friend to this day once said. "you don't just throw this away."
I honestly hate when people try to nudge you into recognizing their birthday. Its like "we can't upset the Beavis" and its like, fuck off. If I feel close to you and you're in my program, I'll prolly get around to it assuming you haven't ruined it by soliciting.
People who do that get a wish at 11:59pm lol and next time they do it I stop completely because they got it covered for me so well :) People who obsess about dates like that are an enormous turnoff to me, whether its family or friendz
U took away your own upvote eh 😇
that is always my instinctual reaction too and why i was harsh in my reply to her, however i recognise it is much more complicated than that.
again why someone tries to remind you of their birthday can be because of many reasons. Maybe it is a male, and you are the only person that remembered it last year and accidentally he let fear take a hold of the keyboard. Maybe it is someone that is always used to getting best wishes and let audacity take hold of their keyboard.
It is spoken expectations that sour a relationship, but fulfilling unspoken expectations is a the relationship.
when you expect people to not break contact you might not be compatible with people who expect that they can come and leave.
But it is okay to have different types of expectations for different people.
It is okay to adapt to someone elses unspoken terms somtimes, you will find that many beautifull people can be very hard to communicate with.