How long have you gone without being in a romantic relationship?

SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world – 54 points –

How much time have you spent being single?

If you're currently single: is it by choice or circumstance?

Do you / did you enjoy single life?

What are / were the pros and cons?

Is / was partnership a goal of yours?

If you're currently not single: Did your goals change after getting into a relationship?

What are the pros and cons?

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Currently somewhere around 10 years single.

I struggle with social cues, anxiety, etc.

It's lonely.

I've been single for about 7 years myself & struggle with the same thing.

Would you say that you're confident in yourself or not so much?

Confidence? Not so much. But it's less a fear of rejection, and more a fear of upsetting someone.

In short, my thought process goes like this:

  • Approaching women can make them uncomfortable.
  • I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable.
  • Therefore, I don't approach women.

I basically limit myself to online dating, but as we all know, that's a shit show unless you're in the top 10% on the scale of attractiveness. And so I've been single 10+ years.