What would you do in this situation

Deathtaco@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world – 35 points –

Hello fellow lemmy's , A bit of back story. I'm currently stuck with a decision and don't know what way to take it , I've moved back to my home city a month ago to be close to family and friends after a 3 year relationship ended, now that I've settled in I'm starting to regret the choice in moving , my job is based back where I moved from and friends have offered me place to stay until I get on my feet.

There is a lot I miss about where I lived and finding it difficult to see a future here, would you guys stay and ride out the feeling or go with your gut ?

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When I look back on my life, I always regret things I did out of fear or anxiety or any other emotions.

Trusting my gut, however, always led to the best for me in the long run.

In your case, did you follow your gut when heading home?

Also, your gut feelings are maybe muddled by emotions about the breakup, which is logical.

So give yourself some time to weigh your options and let your family and friends help you as well?

Can I ask what the difference is between a gut feeling and anxiety or fear or other emotions? Seems to me that a gut feeling is your emotions talking to you.

There definitely is a difference. A gut feeling aka intuition comes without emotion. It just is like a knowing something for sure but not knowing why.

I trust my gut feelings implicitly. My emotions? Not so much. Emotions are always fleeting. There one minute, gone the next. Anxiety replays old fears time and time again.

When I think about or see rollercoasters for instance, I immediately am afraid. When I ask myself why, I remember instantly what I felt when I had an asthma attack in the middle of a rollercoaster ride. That fear replays as something new but isn’t.

I’ve read a lot about emotions and emotional wellbeing, I guess that’s why I’ve learned to tell the difference