victim blaming

Can't tell if this is sarcasm, but corporations are not people, they are soulless, for-profit enterprises that will, for damn sure, abuse and exploit any one and any thing they can in the name of profit. They don't get the defense of "victim blaming".

If they open themselves up to malicious actors through improper security, or lawsuits due to improper practices, then that's their own fault.

I made the mistake of visiting the transfem fashion subreddit, and saw page after page super cute girls in pretty dresses, with flat tummies, and perfect makeup, and no awful body hair like mine. So I’m kinda struggling today.

Plan an exercise regime, if you don't have one already! Of course every transition is a little different, but from what I've seen weight gain can be common.

It also has another benefit: as you become estrogenized fat gained will be distributed differently, so a good diet and exercise plan can help work off any fat in boy places ready to become the new, beautiful, feminine you! ❤️❤️

Oh wowww, that does sound super pretty and satisfying, I definitely need lots more soft and lovely layers!

Thank you for contributing, everyone's unique brand of femininity is valued and appreciated ❤️

Gosh now I regret forcing myself not to buy thigh highs or skirts or anything until I lose weight hehehe~

The comfy warm bath and shaving session does sound perrrrfect though, all the steam and soft girl smells (:

I do understand why this decision was taken, but I think this could become very messy without some explicit method of requesting (or rejecting) engagement. Lemmy is a very big place, and its unlikely even the most well-meaning individuals will check the sidebar for every single community they enter when they only want to contribute to a post. This is just exacerbated by the subjective, loosely defined requests for engagement as the system stands.

Even aside from outside users, I can imagine it creating issues when moderation is enforced. We've already had enough drama around this instance regarding the way we protect our users and defend our right to exist, the best thing we can do moving forward is make such protections as clear, unambiguous, and explicit as possible. For the safety of our transfem girlies and the health of our community discussions.

I would definitely vote for a set of community agreed tags in post titles to state engagement preferences, where any post without a tag should be assumed to encourage engagement from any reader.

Something that helped me a little is that, if anything, these feelings are an exhibition of our sisterhood with all other women. Even as much as they wish they didn't, 99.9% of women regardless of gender at birth, wish they could change their looks in some way, wish they could remove that thing they're most insecure about. All we can do is the same that all other women do, find the version of ourselves that makes us the happiest.

But inside that there also has to be some realism. The ladies we envy, the models and movie stars and idols and influencers and who ever else, they are a statistically tiny portion of the population. There's a couple of billion women who will never, and could never, look like that and that's okay. We are probably one of them, and that's also okay.

America is even worse than I thought if so! I pay a third of that for estrogen, finasteride, and progesterone! And that's in the UK, which is its own special hellhole...

"Is she an inspiration or do you just have a crush on her?"

Me: Yes.

In this regard I am fortunate in that I am still very early in my transition, my girl voice is very bad and embarrassing, I can't really present feminine yet, I still have a very long way to go. So it's uncomfy to pretend nothing is going on, but it's not gonna really hurt me.

I don't think I'll be visiting them again after this time though.

Yeah, I started with TransVoiceLessons too. Her beginner's video on weight vs pitch helped a lot.

I assume you already played it but since it hasn't explicitly been mentioned I definitely have to call out Celeste, basically one of the most iconic transfem games out there!

Terraria can be pretty comfy if you're in the mood for it, and Clone Hero is the perfect rhythm game if you have Guitar Hero nostalgia!

It's their own fault if they didn't take the reasonable precautions that anyone should be aware of when going in to business for profit.

Notice how in my original comment I added "through improper security" and "improper practices".

If you are running a business and get robbed without security cameras, insurance, and other reasonable protective and preventative methods, then you are at fault.

All you need to start with is something that gets your heart rate up and gets you breathing hard for 30 - 40 mins per day!

I am fortunate enough to be in a position to buy an exercise bike and a rowing machine, so I alternate between the two, find a tv show with long episodes and watch one per day as I exercise.

It’s their own fault if they didn’t take the reasonable precautions that anyone should be aware of when going in to business for profit.

Yes I did.

Do you have an epilator you could recommend? Once every 4 weeks sounds like a dream...

Oh gosh... I didn't see the question was for trans characters, I was thinking of lots of cis ladies!

• Inara Serra from Firefly (since it was mentioned)
• Margery Tyrell from Game of Thrones
• Kristin Ortega from Altered Carbon
• Rosa Diaz from Brooklyn Nine-Nine
• Elliot Reid from Scrubs
• Deanna Troi from Star Trek TNG
• Lucy Chen from The Rookie

I don't have a problem I swear ;_;

Personally I bought an IPL device. Attempted to use it all over but that wasn't so successful, but it's still good for the face, and taking the money saved to help with laser on my chest and back.

Since we're gonna be shaving anyway you're always in the perfect state to use IPL, pretty easy to fit in to a routine and has a bigger effect the longer you use it, and it'll combine with HRT once you start.

gosh that skincare routine does sound super comfy! I definitely need to add that to my to-do list, thank you! <3

I was gonna suggest this but I couldn't remember the name! Kept getting Palworld in my search results -.-

Although tbf that might not be a terrible suggestion either.

Really well written, exactly how I felt, and still feel sometimes.

My point is that corporations cannot be victims because they're not people, they're a legal construct. They cannot be victims any more than a table can be a victim when I spill my drink over it. The term "victim", whether intentional or not, is an emotive word that invokes ideas of injustice and suffering.

Marketing teams and corporate executives convinced people and legal systems that corporations are people in an attempt to engender sympathy, personification, and to avoid responsibility for their own failures, like the case in this article where managerial and procedural failures by those in charge led to the ability for this ex-employee to be able to do what he did.

Gosh yes, I'm having lots of problems with resonance, I can't stop sounding hollow :(

I still can't really tell if I'm doing something wrong or if I just need more practice! I guess I'll just practice until the new year and then maybe look for a clinician!

Thank you very much, this was super helpful <3

I'll settle for being a cute, comfy mess hehe~

I am super looking forward to corsetry though, but I am a bit worried about my tummy, I'm slowly starting to see the effects of extra exercise but I'd really appreciate any suggestions you might have to help there!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whataboutism