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Definitely not wrong! Especially once you've dialed in your routine of anti-malware utilities to run on pretty much everything. It's like an antibiotic cocktail, lol. Or did you prefer the "back up and nuke on sight" approach?

Yep, I did similar around the time. Can't blame people for being mad that the thing they bought is damn near unusable (and was destined to be, but they didn't understand that part). If someone buys a new bike, even if it's cheap, it shouldn't roll like you're on gravel after a couple weeks and become impossible to pedal within months. But damn, there were a lot of horrible machines sold in those days.

And then of course, the least fun part of that era, the guys who would bring their machines back weekly despite very stern warnings to stop visiting "those sites".

I have a good friend that sounds kind of similar. She's historically the most active among our friend group usually, generally the most fit and capable (she did the Alcatraz swim, for example). Eats completely reasonably, at times very well (due to what you're describing). But she's just always kinda large, even at her smallest. It's always struck me as extremely unfair, like you said, and she's really suffered for it.

I don't know your situation, but she's currently living her best life. Happy family with kids, loving kind partner, rewarding job in a stunningly beautiful (if fairly remote) location. And she deserves it, she's a wonderful human.

But boy did she suffer frustration and hopelessness on repeat along the way. Nearly gave up on trying for the life she wanted more than once. And I fully recognize the deck is stacked in some important ways against folks like y'all, so please don't read my "happy outcome" story as contradicting anything you said. But don't give up on what ya want.

What an incredible experience that must have been.

That graphic in the second link, holy shit

My friend, the trumpet, well played, is one of the finest and most expressive instruments to ever grace earkind, how could you feel this way? Can deliver ~every possible emotion, a range of volume starting at "drunken disappointed groan" and reaching "holy shit ouch stop", only got a few little twiddly bits, fits in your hand. Shiny.

Defend your position!

That's the way these things have always gone and probably always will. Retarded, imbecile, idiot, these were all effectively clinical terms (or whatever best approximated clinical practice in their eras) - they didn't hold an insulting intention initially. People co-opted the terms to make fun of each other, as we do, and so professionals had to shift the clinical vocabulary so they weren't using commonly hurled insults when discussing patients. And that means new words people can use to make fun of each other, yay! Which of course they did, necessitating another rotation. Pretty hilarious if you ask me.

The most recent example in my own life - my wife is in her mid 30s, and is pregnant - some medical professionals call this a "geriatric pregnancy"! But because some folks are getting offended by that term, they're starting to use "advanced maternal age pregnancy". Bit of a mouthful, I think they'll get to keep that one.

Anyway. Carlin had a great bit on this phenomena, he's the one who pointed it out to me.

Great comment, sincerely - completely nails it. My only nitpick (and only delivered cuz you clearly care) is I don't think it should be called terrorism.

Terrorism, as hate-fueled and damaging as it is, at least has an ethos, an organizing principle, a (generally twisted, but coherent) morality. These monsters have nothing so human to stand behind. As you know, it's nothing more complicated than "fuck every life on earth but mine, for no reason more compelling than that I want even more stuff". Terrorists actually compare favorably against that.

You seem to be taking an "either / or" approach here. In my opinion the left should do everything possible to avoid violence, and also own guns in case these efforts are unsuccessful. It doesn't need to be one or the other.

It's really kind of a matter of definitions to me. In my view, there exist situations where a firearm is about the only way to prevent super bad outcomes for myself. Those situations are uncommon, there are many good ways to avoid them usually, and I hope to never find myself in one. But by definition, if I find myself in a situation like that, having a firearm available is the difference between having agency and having none.

Some people feel that the likelihood of such a scenario is so small that it's a bad idea to prepare for it. Maybe this is how you feel? I do understand that point of view, I simply disagree. I don't really understand points of view that seem to argue there is no scenario where firearms are useful, or that we're magically "past that" as a society (and to be clear, I'm not sure you're taking that stance). To take one example, just look at the response to Hurricane Katrina as an example of how flimsy our law and order really is. Once a situation is bad enough to overwhelm the existing structures we have in place, all bets are off and rules for behavior evaporate. We've seen this happen, in our country, in our lifetimes, more than once. I don't understand the derision - why eye roll?

That's true and a great example of what my industry needs.

To make an analogy, in the software industry we call 7 different knee-like things "knees". Not to be confused with the product, Knee, which is also knee-like, but due to its name either pollutes the search results for other knees OR can literally not be searched, and is only a very specific case of knee anyway!

My pedantic hill to die on is the word "jealous". For example:

"I'm going on vacation!" "Ugh, I'm so jealous!"

No, that's envy. Jealousy is a weird way of behaving about things you already have, it's not wishing you had what someone else does! Weirdly, explaining this does not cause people to use the correct word. At this point the battle is probably lost and the meaning has officially shifted.

Not excusing the decision-making that led to this - but I've noticed myself that the scarcity of permits for some of these legendary hikes absolutely impacts decision-making. If this has been on your list for years, and you really don't know when you'll get another shot, you'll be more willing to take risks you normally wouldn't.

The permits need to be limited of course, I'm not suggesting otherwise. The only real solution here is internal. One good idea for situations where you may have to make a decision while emotional is to establish the go/no-go criteria before the emotions hit.

So for example, if pursuing hikes that have killed the unwary time and again, set some rules for when and why you ditch before you ever get the permit. Of course, then you have to stick with that pre-made decision for it to work.

I think another factor about some of these is how many regular (as in, not-outdoor-athlete) people do them every day. It gives an illusion of safety. I've done this hike - I'm a former rock climber, very comfortable with heights and exposure, and the cables felt recklessly unsafe to me. I really can't believe more people don't fall, and I'd recommend everyone use a harness and clip themselves to the cables.

Honestly between those two factors, the way our brains respond to scarcity / FOMO, and the illusion of safety caused by so much traffic...I think there are many people who believe they'd make a better call who would've actually done the same when it came down to it.

Holy shit. My life is a lie?!

Completely agree, and I have watched a ton. The quantity of ads is outrageous, and the "ongoing coverage" streams make you watch a pile of ads before you even find out what's playing.

The video was always stuttering and just shy of unwatchable on the "live" streams, the ads were out of hand, commentary audio was super inconsistent, even the camera work was pretty shit overall. Like, missing critical moments when that was the only thing going on.

I thought NBC / Peacock did a pretty bad job.

LOL just a devoted nerddom out here making even the Olympic Village look like a buncha prudes by comparison, and no one knows because the participants are too busy fucking to communicate with the outside world.

Thank you for fighting the good fight.

I wish we had a dialect or subset of English that was intended to be more like computer code, and would be used for precisely specifying things. I have no idea how we'd do such a thing, and it'd never be adopted (and probably it's been tried!). But trying to write English in a way that can't be misinterpreted can be a real chore.

Thanks for this, really enjoyed it :)

I write myself little lists of tasks, even when I'm entirely clear on what needs to be done. It may not feel like a hack, but it sure works like one for me - it's a simple habit that makes a dramatic impact on the flow of my day.

Advantages I notice:

• mental shift in the perceived effort - instead of a full day of indeterminate stuff, instead it feels like a list of small things
• provides clear places for breaks (which also provides an easy way to say "I'd like to do X to relax a bit, but I need to get Y small thing done first")
• helps me avoid getting distracted and working on something low priority
• makes it clear what's getting done (one less cognitive task, also harder to miss items) and kinda fosters a sense of satisfaction as I go

I dunno, really feels silly that it makes such a big difference, but here we are. I don't do it every day by any means (overdoing it "roboticizes" life to an unpleasant degree), but I use it most work days at least, and sometimes to keep up with chores and personal life stuff when I get real busy.

I completely agree that Git has some great use cases outside software, and I like the one you suggested. If git is a bidet, random untracked edits (by anyone with access!) to documents are the TP we should have left behind as a society by now.

I wonder about that too. For context, I've done it, and I wouldn't do it again without a harness and clipping in. It's just such a trivially easy thing to do to protect yourself and the cables are not at all adequate for safety.

For me, I didn't use one because I didn't realize I'd want it. I knew a ton of people do it daily, knew there wasn't a lot of discussion or use of harnesses, and I assumed I'd agree with everyone else. And I think for a lot of others there's that element, plus not even really knowing how easy it is to use one. You certainly are stuck with your decision once you finally make it to the cables, lol.

I was simply pleased by your comment, to see how much you care about helping folks and moving the community forward. Seems like quite a lot of effort to me, far more than I'd be able (willing?) to contribute, and I'm just forever grateful for folks you like you and wanted to say something about it :)

I appreciate the invite. I'm not at a point currently where I can put sincere effort toward much that's non-essential, but if that changes, Rust is on my short list of targets for ways to spend some spare effort and time.

Just want to back you up here and say the deeper ethos sometimes DOES matter. People need to stop acting like a piece of generally good advice applies to every situation ever. The "stop gatekeeping" pendulum has swung a bit too far (although the principle is great and, incidentally, punk as fuck!).

When did we decide everything has to be for everyone, and everyone has a right to participate in everything, just by virtue of existing? What would these folks say to someone who walks around in - e.g., Sikh cultural accoutrement - but has zero interest (and even a snobbish disdain) for the underlying religion? "Good for them, we shouldn't gatekeep"? Fuck outta here.

On the one hand, all culture and art is syncretic, full stop. I'm not saying punk rock is off limits in any way, that'd be absurd. But at this point it's got what, like 40 years of maintaining a broadly consistent ethos or spirit? That's remarkable, it's valuable, and it's only been possible because of gatekeeping - passionate community members putting forth effort to maintain the community identity. In a time when every damn thing of cultural significance is being hollowed out and commoditized for profit, we should all celebrate punk rock staying punk.

FWIW cold brew coffee is extremely easy to make, gives a different flavor profile than brewing with the same beans hot, and I find it super refreshing in hot weather. My only complaint is the extraction is inefficient so you go through a lot more beans for the same amount of beverage, which irks me. But then again, sounds like you've got the situation sorted, that tea sounds great.

That's interesting and I hadn't realized. It's not surprising, I guess, we people tend to latch onto the salacious bits (see the joke about "if you build 100 bridges do they call you Johnny the bridge builder?..."). And frankly "people like to dress up as animals and LARP as them" (and apologies if that's overly reductive to someone) just isn't all that interesting lol, like any other hobby I don't happen to be into.

Bit about the dentists makes perfect sense, haha. Bet the lawyers are about the same.

What a dismissive, reductive response. As if your point of view is the only one with any merit.

They never took that position at all, deliberately said so even. Quit with that antagonistic, unnecessarily hostile Reddit-style garbage.

Excellent work, and thank you for sharing. What a win! I'm always heartened to hear about straightforward open source wins against leeches 👍

Cool! For the cold, are you just saying you put water and grounds together in a mason jar overnight, then use the Aeropress with the metal filter in the morning to strain? Cuz that's pretty close to what I do. Mesh strainer (like for rinsing fruit), then through Aeropress with paper. Maybe I should try the metal instead, paper gets pretty gummed up and impermeable.

Interesting! I definitely see the advantages you mention. I'm curious about the strength, though, my understanding was that the cold brew just needs much more extraction time (which makes sense intuitively from a physics and energy standpoint). And you're not using a particularly strong ratio, I actually use 1:8 for my overnight "steep", slightly stronger than your 1:10.

With that said, you seem experienced. Works out to pretty "normal" strength coffee (whatever that means)? I guess something I'm vaguely remembering about the Aeropress is that the pressure itself helps it extract efficiently even with lower heat, but I'm not even sure how much pressure there would be with the metal filter.

I think it depends a lot on the people using the words. People who don't believe that the systematized slavery as practiced in the US produced long-lasting generational effects, for example, might say that treating people equally moving forward is best. Under that belief system, everyone starts on ~even footing and gets the same opportunities, so actually it's less fair to make special cases for folks!

In my view those folks are starting from a deeply flawed premise (and usually one they've arrived at in order to justify the worldview they already hold), so their conclusions are worthless. But I think they'd meet the criteria of advocating for equality and against equity, and sincerely mean it. It's not hypothetical either, I've met people like this - depressingly many, in fact.

Do you feel like elaborating any? I'd love to find more uses. So far I've mostly found it useful in areas where I'm very unfamiliar. Like I do very little web front end, so when I need to, the option paralysis is gnarly. I've found things like Perplexity helpful to allow me to select an approach and get moving quickly. I can spend hours agonizing over those kinds of decisions otherwise, and it's really poorly spent time.

I've also found it useful when trying to answer questions about best practices or comparing approaches. It sorta does the reading and summarizes the points (with links to source material), pretty perfect use case.

So both of those are essentially "interactive text summarization" use cases - my third is as a syntax helper, again in things I don't work with often. If I'm having a brain fart and just can't quite remember the ternary operator syntax in that one language I never use....etc. That one's a bit less impactful but can still be faster than manually inspecting docs, especially if the docs are bad or hard to use.

With that said I use these things less than once a week on average. Possible that's just down to my own pre-existing habits more than anything else though.

Wait, this is news to me. My understanding was that it began as effectively a kink with its associated community. Like, I think I recall it being pretty much strictly sexual in every way I heard of it for a long time. And then lately I see that it's more broad than that - the most clear example I have is when my kiddo's friend recently named it as one of the cliched "kid archetypes" at their high school, e.g. jock/goth/furry/etc. Maybe it was just never specifically sexual or maybe it's been through some evolutions.

I just don't agree that most folks mean the middle panel. It really depends who and where you ask. A lot of people have - for example - a big problem with Affirmative Action because it looks like the middle panel - different help given to different people.

I like it, very succinct way to get the point across.

Ohhh. I see. Using the Aeropress to make concentrated coffee, letting it cool overnight, and then deciding how you want to serve it by what you add to it in the morning. Makes sense to me.

Analog Zettelkasten! You're rad.

Welp, YOU'RE frickin cool, kudos!

I do plenty of technical writing just documenting software I write, and that's definitely what has me pining for something a little more prescriptive. Even just reordering some words can suggest different meanings and it's very difficult to step outside my own understanding of what I'm writing about to see it with "fresh eyes", how someone else may interpret it.

I have to acknowledge that legalese does meet the criteria! Someone else mentioned that too. It feels very far off from what I had in mind though. Maybe just because I don't speak it fluently!

I'm not ready to recommend others become gun owners, that's too personal a decision, but I do think it's unwise for only one side of a major political rift (manufactured / artificially maintained as it may be) to be well armed. Especially when law enforcement is also overwhelmingly on that same political side that's already well armed. Especially when that same political side is the source of the folks who said "we better storm the capital to make sure elections turn out how we think they should".

I'm okay with brief compulsory service, in favor of "sensible gun laws", and firmly against any approach to full disarmament at present - that solution could only be remotely feasible after maybe a full generation where firearm ownership was not a hot button issue. Any approach to disarmament in the US without a long quiet period would be received as hostile action by ~half of the country and rejected categorically, along with any good will on other issues. We need to drop that and find people to elect who will cooperate on issues of broad popularity.