HaveYouTriedCats

It's a thing. There's nothing less attractive than having to play parent to an adult who can't pull their own weight in managing a household.

Can't recognize that a full trash can needs to go out without being told? Can't realize dishwashers that are full need to be run without reminding? Can't find where clothes need to go when they're clean?

If that workload is falling on one person most of the time, over time it can become a source of resentment.

When both people have full time jobs, it's like coming home to a second job.

Eh, time to go to sleep or get ready for bed? I mean same concept, different words.

Bias of? I've read the indictment and it seems pretty straightforward.

So, I'm on a different instance - https://sh.itjust.works/ - and as the name says, at least for me, it has just worked. It's been very easy for me to understand with the interface. For looking for communities (that are not on ours or that may have more people/interaction/more established to join I have used https://browse.feddit.de/ and I have successfully joined ones that are on other instances (apologies if my terminology is not right!). I have set it to "all" and it shows me posts from all the other places that are on our list we are associated with, as I understand it.

I have also used Jerboa for mobile app browsing (I believe it is Mlem for iOS)

Aaaaand then I mess up, so still learning!

Thank you for the tip about undetermined! That explains all the German posts I'm seeing. I'm not -that- fluent!

For me it was the sign up process and the questions (I am much more lurker inclined) and the "We're overloaded, please look elsewhere." type messages and I admit, my first post was in the low stakes cats community to minimize discomfort.

I suppose I was trying to show support that yes, there are others of us here that are still learning (I deleted my post accidentally and was delighted to find out that clicking the trash can again brought it back!) as well as to pick up knowledge as a new user also.