Just FYI for anyone who doesn't know. The "lemmy.ml" instance is "ml" for "Marxist Leninist" and the main dev is a basically self-admitted tanky. So if you don't want any of that, it's probably a better choice to choose one of the other major instances.
That's been my view too. There's definitely a need for moderation, but I've been on the internet for quite some time and the vibe from Beehaw is very much concerning. Any time I've seen a community run like that, it always always ends up feeling like an echochamber run by a dictator. I want an internet that's mostly wholesome, not a "happy fun camp where there's all smiles and you had better not frown!"