Someone set off a bomb close to my house. Police asked me questions about it (time, what it sounded like, etc). They noticed I had security cameras and inquired what I had. The dumbfounded look when I said Ubiquiti (they've never heard of it) and that all footage was recorded locally on a hard drive. Like they didn't understand what that meant - obviously they were looking for an answer such as "google" or "amazon" so they could just circumvent me.

Proton and fastmail you can use custom domains. I only have experience using fastmail. They provide great instructions for the settings in cloudflare (mx records, etc). My domain is purchased through namecheap.

I can receive mail on *@mydomain.com and I can send email from any thing I want ad-hoc (anything@mydomain.com or anything@anything.mydomain.com)

I thought about selfhosting as well, but the internet concensus was it can be a hassle with your email getting rejected.

"Net send" message to every windows PC in the school. IT was not happy about that. Guess they should've disabled that exploit. I think it was before windows xp had (SP2?) disabled it by default.