i used to think it was okay for me to say as i'm disabled. what i noticed, though, is that my doing so 1) communicated to my abled peers that it's okay for them to say as well & 2) made me appear as a pick-me; i was perceived as "one of the good ones."

the r-slur has been causing a very visceral reaction in me for years & i will continue to report each & every instance of it.

It communicates “you aren’t disabled, you have no excuse for acting like it, start choosing to use the fully functional brain you have”.

look, if this doesn't make you see how it's a shitty thing to say, i don't think anyone else can help you understand.

please take your reactionary bs elsewhere

It’s a valid criticism.

I rage deleted my 1.5 year old lemmy account for this reason just a few weeks back.

Then I got randomly banned on reddit

it’s the biggest factor preventing lemmy from growing right now.

leftist 4chan

honestly dunno where to even begin. like, you know when you're just in absolute fucking awe of something & you feel like you should be communicating your feelings, but you just can't? yeah, that's where i'm at.

unfortunately my trans balls already occupy an eternal pit of existential despair u___u

hi, am part of said community. i'll gladly punch a fascist in the face for being fascist. it's like a cancer, essentially; you give it any room to breathe & it will take over the whole thing. just look at what happened to the skinhead movement. but, yeah, they want us dead or in camps anyway & civil discussion obviously doesn't work when fascist philosophy only works if everyone involved is actively playing dumb & as such, not playing by the same rules as everyone else.

there's the initial sting, yeah, but it'll subside once my brain remembers the context. when used in a bigoted way, the feeling sticks for a while.

yeah & i'll see you banned eventually, just like all the other prominent bad faith actors here. you're not half as special or clever as you think you are.

e : i love you had to slip in some BLM misinfo there. i'm not even from the US lol

gotta love how they're never too young to be traumatised by the experience of growing up in a rapidly changing body that will never feel like their own (:

i can't deal with this take, i just woke up.

my boobs are starting to show a lil :3 mixed feelings, though, what with the, uh, climate being as it is. guess i'll keep wearing baggy stuff until i can get out of here. not much has changed, face-wise, but i guess my visage has always been somewhat androgynous. oh well, i haven't been on E that long, anyway.

my partner is coming to stay with me for a month ❤ they'll be arriving tomorrow evening. when they leave, i'll be going with them, to stay at their house in Spain for a month. exciting! scary, also. i'm all kinds of disabled, so having to fly back on my own worries me terribly.

i've come to the conclusion i wouldn't mind the body hair i have, as long as i get a body that's feminine enough. guess i'm like... a nonbiney woman? i think that's prolly the best i can do. fuken h8 my facial hair, though, but i'm working on it.

i wish you all the best on your journey, friend ❤

been a long day but we made it!!!

fuck off, you don't get to hop on a high horse here. you don't get to turn it around when you're straight up refusing to reflect on your own behaviour. i'm sure you think you're being very clever, but i can guarantee what you're doing right now is such common bigot behaviour that the people in this thread see right through it.

you feel like you should be allowed to use a slur. extremely weird, but alright. the people around you will, however, react accordingly. you're not special.

it gets better the longer u look at it

touch grass

sit in a quiet, dark room

are you so incensed you forgot how grass works or what

kiitos, kun olet ❤

this is v funny to me as i was just operated on due to a herniated disc earlier this year

my dad is disabled. had a stroke, shaky hands & stuff forever. he fuken h8's these new caps. i personally don't care much, unless i'm drinking yoghurt out of a bottle.

me on a good day

i really wanted to like, type out a long comment about how this is giving me hope, but it's getting all scrambled in my head. i appreciate you & am happy for you, friend.

don't care if it sounds silly, Dark Souls literally saved my life. was going through Some Shit™ & it was easy for me to take the game as a metaphor for depression; it's not over unless you give up.

i don't play it as often as i maybe should, but it's definitely the game that's stuck with me the most.

thank uuu ❤ my partner made that choker actually!!!

aaa thank u 😭❤

🥰

thank u! it's a birb's nest but i like it too haha

people were literally criticising the game so much on all the Diablo-related r/'s that i had to unsub from each one. like, yeah, it got good ratings, but if anything, that only served to further incense the ones displeased.

there was a lot of stupid, toxic bs, for sure, but there were also players dipping out before the first season even began -- myself included. like, this is just me, obviously, but D4 at launch was straight up the most let down i've ever been by a game.

for brevity's sake, i gotta say that season 4 made me wanna give D4 another shot. & you know, it's fun now, but there are still elements to it that make me want to scream & that's not gonna change, because it's all a part of their vision for the core experience of the game.

i want to hug you & never let go.

Neil "Scary Trousers" Gaiman

the userbase of r/detrans prolly consists of actual detransitioners to the same extent that the userbase of r/teenagers consists of actual teenagers.

i get where you're coming from, i believe, but i don't mean the, well, "treadmill," specifically. there were players testing D4 extensively & finding out that 1) some mechanics, while baffling, appeared to be working as intended (necro minion behaviour, for one) & 2) some mechanics were not working as intended (armor chief among them, IIRC). add to this the monetisation, lack of content, dungeon / map design & a whole bunch of other things people had legitimate problems with from the get-go... well. i mean. i know kind of a silly amount of people with a long history with Blizzard / Diablo, some of whom i wouldn't feel weird calling Blizzard fanboys. not a single one picked up the game at all. like, not that my peers are the alpha & omega; i just kinda hadn't thought about this much before, but it's bizarre how many friends & relatives i was sure would eat up anything by Blizzard just straight up ignored the game. again, it's not really about the treadmill as much as like, just old-fashioned word of mouth, i think. it didn't take long at all for Blizzard to post their "so, uh, things are gonna change" damage control video, which to me says they know they messed up (for what it's worth), when everyone & their dog were reporting on the game selling a buttillion copies only a little while before.

i believe i may have been coming on a bit strong. apologies. i don't at all mean to be saying that D4 was overwhelmingly criticised by everyone, just that the reception seemed to be mixed enough where two people could have an entirely different view of it, depending on the environment. you know? there were people who were primed to hate it no matter what, absolutely, but also a veritable mountain of legitimate critique that i don't want to be dismissed, because the game was not ready for launch. the "beta testing" showed as much, but of course, it was already too late to change anything. & you know, what boils my piss is, there were folks saying, "have fun with a year's worth of beta testing you paid for." because they were right. they shouldn't have been right about this. this shouldn't be happening.

we literally had a high-ranking cop running a criminal empire on the side.

Avril is a clone, actually, but they liked her version better than mine. "too experimental & loud & abrasive," they said.

yeah, thoughts & prayers to the cops for turning another peaceful protest violent.

maybe approach the subject again once you're done slobbering on pig pp.

oh, look, it's one of these again.

"it's always midnight somewhere."

just wanted to say that today's been crappy & seeing this reference made me feel a lil better.

glad to be of service, friend!

right. it's not all fake, but the size of the sub is wildly disproportionate to the statistics we have on detransitioners (some of whom will ultimately choose to transition again, which is not reflected by the stats).