When I was in the end of my PhD, everything except writing my thesis made me feel guilty. I ended up learning to find joy and peace in doing laundry and washing dishes. They became my guilt-free breaks — I had to do these things. FYI - I didn’t enjoy washing dishes before.

Washing dishes has become a really powerful part of my day, haha. Not only is it still a guilt-free break but it is a daily reminder to be mindful. I’ve noticed that whenever I drop and break a dish, my mind is not present. In fact, in those moments my mind might actually be drifting somewhere negative.

Maybe not so much a “hack” as a … lesson? Or something? But yeah, the whole cliche about having the right attitude and being present and mindful. I try to apply it in other parts of life, not just the dishes.

I’m new here but I’m here precisely because of the enshittification of Reddit.

Honestly though, now that I think about it, a huge chunk of my digital experience has been enshittified. Technology and software that used to wow me still wows me at the surface but frustrates me at my core. Some UI elements and design seem outright hostile.

Maybe I’m just misremembering the past or was more patient back then. Reddit certainly has enshittified though.

This whole thing reeks of “I came here, acted perfectly reasonably and logically, and everyone else, astoundingly, was illogical and mean to me. I’m so smugly innocent. I’m the victim. This makes no sense!”

Not one bit of self-reflection.

Is there an archetype or myth about this behavior? There must be. Some type of ironic “innocent” contrarian? The little brother who provokes then runs to mommy to tattle?

X gon give it to ya

mid 30s guy also learning from most of these comments

This is the digital equivalent of walking through an open air market and having salespeople harass and follow you trying to sell something

Like the Neil Peart of internet surfing!

A “friend” started a company and hired me. It was pretty fun for a year. Then it became pretty bad — real bad. I quit on the spot after a verbal abuse session where I demanded more respect and my “friend” / boss literally said “no.”

It’s been a little over a year since I quit. Lived in my car for some of it, otherwise took odd jobs here and there where I could rent a room temporarily.

I’m at the end of this insane journey — starting a new job in a couple months. It’s been rough but I still think it was the right decision. Curious to see myself in 6 months to a year.

Anyway, felt like this was somewhat similar to your case.

I invested in my sleep this year. Bought a white noise machine, comfy percal cotton sheets, ear plugs, eye mask, mouth tape, try to go running consistently, implemented basic sleep hygiene stuff like no phone in the room, and… I still have trouble. I went on a 50km bike ride over the weekend and still had trouble. But… the reality is that it has gotten better on average after implementing all of this and fuck it, I’ll take it.

I drink a cup of coffee only once a day. It’s extra strong though. Maybe that has something to do with it. But I really love that one strong ass coffee in the morning.

Top tips: consider cooperative living and take group classes for one of your hobbies

I feel like the below is one of the greatest lessons I have ever learned. Actually, I’m still fully learning it. Seems so simple but, to me at least, it’s been evasive.

Translated from Portuguese from the song “A Vida É Um Desafio” by Racionais MCs:

Tomorrow is an illusion
Because it doesn’t exist yet
The “today” is real
It’s the reality you can interfere with
The opportunities for change
Are in the present
Don’t wait for the future to change your life
Because the future will be a consequence of the present

Original:

O amanhã é ilusório
Porque ainda não existe
O hoje é real
É a realidade que você pode interferir
As oportunidades de mudança
'Tá no presente
Não espere o futuro mudar sua vida
Porque o futuro será a consequência do presente

I also feel like it’s aggressively trying to not come across as a bot. It’s got a really intense whimsical energy that’s kinda creepy and… not human lol

Is it weird I kind of like the tears?

The true "no fucks given" app is the one that only existed as a thought for half a second before being shrugged back off into the void.

The law of conservation of fucks: a fuck given means a fuck taken since fucks cannot be created nor destroyed. Basic fuck physics.

Reminds me of that glue on pizza thing: https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cd11gzejgz4o

One time I made pasta for myself and a friend (also roommate). The sauce a bit spicy, with herbs, simmered for a while. One of my favorites. We sat down to eat and he said “yum this is so delicious.” Then he got up, walked to the fridge, grabbed the ketchup, and squeezed it all over the pasta and sauce.

I once heard that dark matter is just the consequence of using approximations and then having equations not balance out further down the line. So we inject dark matter in there so that the math maths all right.

The current paradigm assumes a uniform probability of mutation across all genes. But maybe there are mechanisms that say “keep this part of the genome under tighter control” and “make this other part of the genome more susceptible to mutation.”

We’re like fingers who don’t know there’s a hand

Lord have merci

This is a good answer. Bernardo Kastrup argues this; check out his very eloquently titled book Why Materialism is Baloney.

Don’t rat us out to the trisolarians

Yeah, I guess that's the point: if you see a pattern of giving a fuck about something minor, it can become easier to work on not giving a fuck about it. Sometimes not giving a fuck can take fucks.

This sounds wonderful.

Honestly, I still haven't fully solved the problem. I wish I could give you a great answer.

Sometimes I have no struggles working and taking breaks, other times I fall into this same trap you've just described. I think it amounts to a lot of different factors — some weird paradoxical mix of procrastination, fear, insecurity, passion, displeasure, and overconfidence.

I've learned, though, to accept certain tasks as completely necessary in life (like doing the dishes) so that I am able to do them guilt free. At least I can do that. I feel you though. In a general sense, I still struggle with the problem.

I think part of it amounts to making a decision and sticking to it rather than being on the fence. Maybe that's discipline? E.g., "this morning I will go on a run, make a nice breakfast, wash the dishes, get started on laundry, read or play music for a bit, and then finally I will sit down to work." Then, when actually executing the first part of the plan, just ignore the ever living fuck out of any feeling of guilt. But, again, I am still putting that into practice.

Good luck to you and me.

That evolution is purely randomness + fitness landscape rather than that DNA guides the process at least somewhat. Don’t burn me alive guys

Contains one (1) big bean

Hope for whatever, or for nothing… or something. Sometimes what we hope for is stupid or will have unexpected consequences that will harm us. So, want less and accept more — work with what you got. But you still gotta give a push sometimes.

Keeps me up at night lol

I’ve been wanting to watch it and your comment makes me want to see it even more.

I don’t live in the US anymore and Max doesn’t have English subtitles for some of their shows in my region, which is pretty annoying. Including for the Leftovers! That’s why I’ve been putting off seeing it. Haha. Ugh. It’s funny because I check it again every once in a while to see if there are English subtitles, which is how bad I wanna see the show.

I’m personally not a fan or alcohol. But I do think it’s just a “people are gonna want it” kind of thing. I think it should be regulated in a way that discourages abuse and boosts local economies.

I see modern alcohol companies just funneling money out of communities (especially on weekends). Stuff like wines coming out of vineyards might be one thing, but global conglomerates selling cheap beer worldwide is definitely another.

I wonder if it would be beneficial to regulate tobacco and alcohol products so that they were produced locally and thus harder to get, with lower marketing budgets, and limited supply. The added perk is that the money stays in the community.

And get your eyes checked once in a while. For a while I would get massive headaches by early afternoon. I thought I had a nutrient deficiency. Bloodwork came out ok. Turns out I needed stronger glasses.

All I know is that I would often wake up with a dry mouth and that I was definitely breathing through it all night.

I’m for it

Wearing those silly cartoon eyeball glasses doesn't work but other people probably won't notice you're crying

Yes, people often want things that work. If there are good reasons why there is clunkiness, then, if these reasons are commonly understood, more people will be more patient. Knowledge is power. That’s the point of this entire thread.

Maybe the point is to increase sass in AI