It wasn't that you didn't believe her, its your complete dismissal of everyone who disagreed with you as "making it personal". You behave like a stereotypical conservative. You act as though you're the only person who can see it clearly and objectively, when it's pretty obvious from the outside that you can only imagine the situation from his perspective.
I'm referring to all conservative communities as abusive. You can't find one that isn't hateful because that's what conservatives are.
If you wanted to lay out some of your beliefs I could tell you generally where you would align stateside, but you seem to not want to actually discuss what you believe.
Since you were unwilling to be open or direct with your beliefs (a hallmark of conservatism), I did you the favor of looking through your comment history to try and find the disconnect. And I did.
You seem just as insufferable as other conservatives, just more sexist than racist, which is not an improvement.
At the end of the day, the right is about abusing people infavor of financial gains and controlling their lives. Whatever justification they apply to it is irrelevant. In every country all over the planet, they use different reasons but the political right is always about controlling people.
So you're looking for a community without hate, but your only willing to look at abusive communities. You're not going to find it. You need to ask yourself, why are you a conservative and why do you still want to be part of them?