Ifera

@Ifera@lemmy.world
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Joined 11 months ago

According to the article, not really closeted but confused. Kinda sucks that you're getting demonized by people who didn't read the article or under context.

And a mod assuming intent, not very pretty.

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Good, and I am sure as fuck glad to see I am not the only one taking notice. People love to bitch about groupthink, but they sure love to bleat.

Dumb fuck! (I also don't get it)

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Men and women being victims of sexual abuse, perpetrated by both men and women. It is not a genderlocked issue.

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/sexual-victimization-by-women-is-more-common-than-previously-known/

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And if you add how Steve Huffman(Reddit's CEO, AKA u/spez) lied and manipulated information about the API talks, painting the third party developers as greedy, money hungry assholes, then got caught with his pants down when the recorded call was made public, shows how absolutely planned that move was.

Nah, if it was only the stupid doing it to themselves that would be fine, but as someone on the medical field, you have no idea of how many cases I saw of little kids and elderly patients who were fed those pills by their loved ones.

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Funny how ready you are to claim a random person you don't know is an abuser for making a good point.

And completely failing to comprehend that what YOU are doing is abusive behavior. Real gold star child behavior.

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Damn, I sort of feel like saying "Thank fuck he isn't president of MY country", but then I remember how even my local covidiots felt validated by the giant cheese puff, and how Trump is offering carte blanche to companies, for them to pillage and destroy the living conditions of the whole world.

All I can do is shake my head, hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

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Because it serves a genuine function, because the process poses an unnecessary risk, because there is no way to know how big the penis is going to get when the kid grows up, and that is part of the reason for the foreskin, to have a ton of give so it doesn't happen like it did to my ex. He got circumcised as a newborn, and by the time he finished puberty, his penis grew far more than the leftover foreskin, so he wasn't even able to have full erections without a tremendous amount of pain and sometimes, even tearing.

What a woman. Shining beacon, strong example and such fortitude. I hope she gets to live a long, happy life after this media circus is gone, she has done wonders for raps victims everywhere.

Honey, the fact that I am a programmer doesn't mean I have a job doing that. I am currently earning more as a technical support agent than the best offer I got, after searching for months, ever since my last programming and database management position became redundant thanks to AI.

Plus, the world where programmers work as you say "like, maybe 3 actual hours a day (from home)" has been nearly extinct for almost a decade for most of us.

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Same, I am bi, and that is the reason I stopped trying to date women, or anyone who behaves like that for good measure, because some guys try to pull that same stunt.

I want a partner who is as interested and as into dating me as I am into dating them, someone who puts the time in and makes an effort, makes me and my time feel valued, and is also willing to to invest themselves and their time on me, and I don't know if I was just unlucky, but I never found a woman who was into that. But then again, I pretty much only dated teens and women in their early 20s, as I liked dating people on my own age group and it was at those ages that I was actively dating women.

But from an outsider's perspective, now on my late 30s, the straight dating market looks awful, I think I'll stick with men.

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Allegedly, they didn't. Multiple men were contacted through a swingers website, and allegedly led to believe she was a willing participant pretending to be asleep, instead of what she really was, the victim of a disgusting monster, drugged and undressed without her knowledge, for the pleasure of a sick monster.

To the point where one of her abusers, fully aware of what he did, wrote to her to apologize from jail, realizing what he had done under false pretenses, and aware that by not doing his due diligence, he raped her in the literal sense of the word.

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Worked for me, turned gay. Five stars/zero kids.

Men's rights, but not like the piss pitt that the Reddit one has, but one that focuses on real men's issues, like how rampant prison rape is in male prisons, parental alienation, forced military service and such.

And before anyone says that "It is men who mostly commit prison rape", well duh, that is obvious, but prison should be a rehabilitation tool, not a punitive one, and especially not a for-profit business like it currently is.

And add the fact that prisoners should be under the care of the government, and the fact that so much abuse, sexual and otherwise is ignored and not prevented is nothing but appalling.

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This very precise statistic comes from a single study made in bad faith, over 20 years ago. If you want to read a more recent study, with linked sources, feel free to check https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/sexual-victimization-by-women-is-more-common-than-previously-known/

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Fuck me, I had not thought of that. Wow.

Rule of thumb, when asking about stuff, it is good to give a couple of examples.

I thought it was just Pocahontas with robots, but I had just watched the animated version around a week before I saw the first blue Avatar.

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Same for "lost media" kinda stuff. I would usually find Torrents with seeds for obscure bands from my dad's old country, that he loves listening to, but nowadays, all that stuff is gone, and no way to purchase the bootleg of a concert in Eastern Europe, in 1992.

Hell, even official albums are hard to get, with being out of press, the rights being lost to the ages and stuff like that. Even with music from when I was young, and I'm not even 40.

Last time I ranted about it, people told me to just find the stuff on YouTube and download it from there, it was atrocious.

No kids, ever. I can hardly take care of myself, can't even be trusted with a plant, and I find them disgusting. Who will care for me when I am old? I have worked long and hard with the elderly, and knowing how many of them were abandoned by their families, it is easy to see that my odds are better investing the money I would use to raise a child, in a retirement fund instead.

But with how broke I am, I am not even getting to do the retirement fund thing, so yay. Glad I didn't let an ex change my mind when I was earning a lot back in the day, because those jobs got "optimized" and outsourced.

Swear to god.

Bob Belcher, from Bob's Burgers. Gods, what I would do FOR and TO that man.

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We all have our tolerance thresholds. Some people can live in a shared apartment with multiple other people, I can not. My health conditions, night terrors, PTSD and a few other things are reasons why I would probably not last long living like that. And I can't burden my elderly parents, they are barely above the poverty line as it is, plus my dad is still working into his 70s just to make ends meet.

But since I live in a place where the official treatment for drug resistant depression is telling you "You're just lazy, go pray and stop wasting the state's resources", there is not much I can do.

Between the apathy and ridicule from people like you, and the manufactured scarcity and famine the people is living, no wonder the suicide rate is steadily rising pretty much everywhere.

Bitch, you don't know my life to say I am not oppressed, and I only covered a couple things, because it is not like you are going to read this and change your mind.

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For them, abortion is extinguishing a life. In this case, the fetus, although no longer viable due to mechanical impossibility BUT still connected to the umbilical cord and inside the placenta, gave it a heartbeat. Any human intervention that would cause that heartbeat to go away, such as inducing labor, manual or physical extraction, or even manual dilation of the cervix, since the fetus being way too young to survive outside of the mother, would end up being the cause of that heartbeat going away, and thus, murder, in their eyes. All they "can" do is "Let nature run its course"

It is beyond stupid, cruel and horrible. Those laws are actively killing people through neglect.

Edit: Miscarriage does not mean the fetus "died", it merely means failure to carry to term or to point where the fetus can survive outside of the mother, which is usually flagged at 20 weeks. When labour started, at an unsustainable pregnancy length, it is counted as a miscarriage because the fetus can't survive on it's own, however it was not a spontaneous abortion because there was still a heartbeat.

It is pretty easy to tamper with a condom in invisible ways, from poking holes or letting it expire, to stealthing. Hell, you can even cook the condom at low heat for a while in its package and you will cause significant structural damage to it, without even bruising most packaging.

Even a freshly bought condom and a little sleight of hand can go a long way into tampering. No birth control is trust free.

Honestly, I agree with you and with them. They chose said painting because it is incredibly expensive, so it represents how much people are willing to pay for a painting, while not doing an effort to care for the world we live in.

According to my sources, another reason was that the painting was encased in glass, so they saw it as a great target for the stunt, to get attention, while not causing any damage to the actual work of art.

So, the message being "Look at how much you people's care about us "destroying" a work of art, but nobody gives a shit about the people who are destroying the world".

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That "(yes there is a phenotype)" is just like when people say that the covid vaccines are poison and follow with "yes, there is proof". Produce proof that doesn't stink of confirmation bias, make me a believer.

Because honestly, I have seen so many confirmed pedophiles thanks to my former line of work, and most of them would shatter your view for that so-called phenotype.

And if we are just going to point at men with no chin, lack of facial hair and an androgynous/somewhat effeminate body fat distribution, we might as well just incarcerate people for being born with Klinefelter syndrome, dumbass.

In the context of this comment section, and the image that was chosen to lead the article, it is not disgusting and it simply makes sense.

She is a fucking hero, she is brave and she gives hope to us rape victims. But if on the same breath you praise her and the people who support her, and dismiss a fuckton of rape victims just because the perpetrators of their particular rapes were women, then that is bound to raise a significant level of discomfort and take away from what the story should be, giving support to the victim of The Beast of Avignon and all rape victims, encouraging them to come forward.

Like hell, still living with my ex, and the guy is doing everything in his power to rob me of my peace. Coke binges in his room with his mates, drinking, loud hookups, eating all the food with his mates, and since I don't have WFH, hell knows what else.

I can't wait to get a divorce and honestly, I wish he didn't know me so well and how to get to me. I don't do drugs, not even alcohol since I had a troubled youth and allegedly he respected and liked that about me.

I didn't sleep at all, and I don't know how I will stay awake at work.

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I would prefer to say, nobody deserves to be raped, and as long as people keep giving that flawed statistic that harms both male and female victims of rape, I have no reason not to share it.

That kind of disregard is what keeps most female child rapists out of jail, or nets them far lesser sentences.

Personally, I would imagine that the real issue with THIS ARTICLE is the picture they chose to forefront it. Why would they choose that one? Rage engagement, to drive engagement and ad revenue, because it has been proven time and time again, that divisiveness brings money. There is a lot of coverage about her and her bravery, as it should be, because she is a massive hero.

If we choose any other posts about the case, that don't drive themselves on such divisiveness, and and consider the top comments, we can see that the focus is where it should be, on her story and his conviction, yet they rarely get as much engagement as this one.

It is manufactured ragebait to feed the algorithm, using divisiveness as its drive. And it is both succeeding, and taking away from the real point, her story and the support and help that she, and all rape victims deserve.

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Indoctrination is a very powerful force. I am glad he broke free from some of the chains and saw the error of his ways, but he has a lot of work to do to make amends, especially after being such a hateful asshole for so long, having such reach and such a voice.

Some people manage to break free and it should be celebrated and supported, because often times, especially for teens, trying to break free leads to excommunication, and becoming a pariah, and after your teens, changing becomes way, way harder.

Sincerely, a formerly indoctrinated homophobe, now an atheist, gay and fierce defender of many rights.

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Sorry, I don't understand what you said.

Edit: Oh, you meant that it should be on one of the posters protesting about The Monster of Avignon, then certainly. He is a disgusting human, completely atrocious and his wife is a massive hero, for standing up to such scrutiny and to the public eye, I wish I could bake her a pie or something for being so brave, and an inspiration to abuse victims everywhere.

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I don't know that there aren't any deities, but if there were, they owe us all some very large apologies, that I am simply not going to accept.

I might go out with some work friends, hook up with a guy I have been wanting to meet for a while, and go to the gym. And talk in silly voices with my cats.

One of my biggest concerns about the woo is that they rarely only damage themselves. They try to spread their "enlightened knowledge" to others, and force it upon their kids.

Far too many times during COVID I had the displeasure of having a parent pull their child from proper medical care in lieu of bleach enemas and horse dewormer, after a concerned family member brought the kid to the ER.

Is this aneurism posting?

For an exercise, check out other articles posted about Gisele's case, and look for comments about male victims. Most people just post in support of her, or in hatred of her abusers.

The reason why this conversation exploded on the topic was the picture chosen for it. It is meant to be divisive, drive engagement and thus, ad revenue.

We're all being farmed for engagement, which takes away from what is important, seeking justice without looking at genders.

That picture is very triggering to the many, many victims of rape with female perpetrators, especially if the victims are male, hence the outrage.

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Yes, the one protecting rape victims no matter the gender, and the one against people like you, who call people you don't know abusers, just for having a penis. I hope you grow some empathy one day, and figure out what you did wrong here.