God I know people like that, the most normal social behavior gets interpreted as hostility and is met with aggression.

oh no, i should have been specific. i was talking about the popular @lemmy.ml instance & its communities, lemmy.fmhy.ml seems to be a different instance just with a similar name/url.

What do those cartel blogs look like?

Looks much better but tbh I still just don't super like that Lemmy face in general.

I'm not going to stay here if there wont be reliable news feeds for my interest on here.

Yeah your suggestions and a few more are absolutely necessary to make this a viable platform. I don't think Lemmy or any other alternative is in a reliable enough state right now and almost everyone will just go back to reddit soon. But maybe in a year or so, who knows, depending on the devs (who seem to have questionable takes so I'm not too optimistic).

I can't fathom setting that possibility of some negative encounters as a higher priority than lemmy becoming a viable platform in general. Users can still block people. I totally get that welcoming diverse communities don't want to get brigaded, and sometimes it's fine to want a retreat or friendgroup where you don't get questioned too much and people have your back. But this just looks like unreasonable levels of fragility and inflexibility to me. Just for a couple of weeks mod more people and encourage users to block quickly instead of making the whole fediverse look like a joke.

Ending this on a little confused rant. In general I don't even understand wanting a full safe space version of every aspect reddit, a couple of identity or politics or friendly-chat focused subreddits should be enough for "recharging", but afterwards it's time to go back out in the real world with different people and some disagreements.

these are the main things I care about, until a reddit alternative can provide this I'm going to stay mostly or frequently on reddit.

-somewhat reliable news headline feed from relatively neutral, serious center-right to center-left sources with little to no bad reporting/framing.
-reliably hear about social trends, but with some distance to them
-news discussion with some degree of different perspectives, some expertise, so it's not just all left to the popularity of the headline.
-discussion of movies and tv that is neither too fanboyish/popular leaning nor too indie/arthouse exclusive.
-collections of helpful pro-consumer information and resources, up to date megaposts in hobby communities
-a search function that will often enough lead to some helpful comments for most topics, googling "reddit xyz" was my go to for many years
-feeds for some types of videos, like publicfreakout, livestream clips.
-some communities that are more personal to me, like from my country or a political meme community, for venting and in-group discourse.
-control over what i see in my feeds, most recommendation algorithms and trending tabs just don't work for me
-control over where I engage with content and in what form it's presented, often I take a break from scrolling social media except for seeing some top posts in my rss feed. at some point I just want AI to read out summaries of all that stuff to me and actually visit website interfaces way less often myself.

random default instances would probably need to follow some neutrality and diversity principle.

also it should be easy to clone your account and preferences (even comment history) to another instance.

No proof, I just heard about it. A buddy and someone on reddit told me about "tankies on lemmy" which I dismissed as drama at first, then I heard it's actually the main devs too, then I did a quick google search and search on lemmy here, it seems universally agreed upon at least in those threads from what I can see.

Not sure about any censorship happening either, I'm just wondering even just what rogue devs could do once lemmy gets bigger, and I do worry about the social capital they get, afterall they promote their servers prominently on the main lemmy site. I can somewhat tolerate far right or far left on my social media (well not directly, but in the other room next to mine) as long as it's contained, follows ToS in good enough faith and doesn't spread too much through cryptic messaging and memes. I wonder if this crosses that line for me already, I'm not sure, and not sure what the facts of the situation actually are, hence the post.