I think this sort of unfulfilled promise has been the biggest obstacle of my full scale adoption of a reddit alternatives.

As a non-typical Lemmy user (No interest in privacy, piracy, Linux, FOSS, Web Dev, SW Dev, Veganism, or discussing political theory with strangers online) finding active communities in topics i am interested in (basketball, football, hip hop and rap, martial arts, boxing, mma, PC building, relationships, kink, and the specific humor and nuance that comes with being a Black person on the internet) has been a struggle.

Many of those communities have two people or less posting in them or don't exist at all.

People are talking here but not about things i wanna discuss and that's disappointing so i have a hard time "sticking" if that makes sense

It varies wildly from person to person, and my wife and I work so well as partners cause we have vastly different lists of what we consider exhausting.

Specifically for me?

• Well-intentioned but unskilled people who insist on helping but don't have the capacity to do so or the self-awareness to understand when their efforts are counterproductive
• Talking to my side of the family
• Checking work emails. Not writing them. Just checking them.
• Code-switching to talk to white people.
• Watching shows or reading books I dislike just for the sake of completing them
• Dealing with zoners in fighting games
• Lingering in silent spaces.
• Following recipes.

Talking to strangers? No issue. High intensity games? Let's do it. Complicated or arduous manual labor? Hell yeah.

I think it's a facet of the largest Lemmy servers feeling (being?) more ideologically homogenous, itself in part because of how niche Lemmy still is compared to Reddit.

Many of the users came here after the API died and so made joining here an explicitly ideological choice.

People aren't here because their friends are here. Not really. Not yet.

They're here cause they want to be, because this is important to them or their beliefs or their identity.

That's totally valid and good and fine. But u should know and expect that when posting here, especially on the biggest or most general or politically volatile communities.

I've got negative interest in trying any Unix/Linux based OS on my home PC and I'm ambivalent about FOSS, but i recognize that being here will mean that putting up with a certain amount of "Windows bad" that i just have to laugh and shake off or stop coming here

Increased rates of neurodivergence on a leftist founded Reddit alternative?

It's less "venture to guess" and more "I'd bet my life savings on that being true."

Shit. I'm here with ADHD.

Yeah i hear you. Reddit was white on average but Lemmy/Kbin feels like baby powder on top of fresh snow

Yeah! I heard that MBin was started as a fork of Kbin when it's main/only admin went dark. I made an account there to try it out actually.

I'm now considering making a new Lemmy account since I'm having trouble finding Lemmy communities from Mbin

Yeah! I remember reading that Beehaw had defederated from a lot of servers; the people who talk about it genuinely have strong feelings one way or the other. It sounds like a planned housing community or gated community but online, and that generates some very polarizing opinions.

It's also the one I have the least interest in exploring at the moment.

Edit: Tied with Hexbear

Wait, you're blocking porn, sports, and anime?

Those are the fun parts...

None. I use none. Kraft Mac is already bad but if I'm in the mood for something nostalgic there are a dozen other things i would add first

This makes sense considering who is here, but I would be very interested to see a Lemmy/kbin demographics survey.

It's like asking "how much RGB is the right amount for a PC" or "Do you prefer Windows or Linux?"

The crowd here is almost self selecting to be the kinds of people to answer those questions in a near uniform way.

"When in Rome..." i guess

Are you talking about Lemmy specifically or one of the others?

Because swearing was strictly forbidden in my household and i picked it up in late high school and early college partially as an act of defiance.

I made friends also more interested in content and quality of thought than on politeness and that was dope AF.

Now it's part of my lexicon, just a casual turn of phrase.

"Ay yo, that shit is fire" conveys the same sentiment as "Wow! That's really cool."

I'm a mechanical engineer and a writer. Words are words. They have meanings and those meanings change over time and with context/audience.

People who don't ever swear feel repressed to me. It's a weird vibe. Not a fan.

Hell yeah. Finally some gaming news i care about.

If you listen closely you can hear every Ryu main preparing to drop him like a hit rock. We'll see if Ken and Luke mains persevere

He looks scary enough but I'm curious how he'll end up feeling to fight against as a Marisa main.

They appear to have nailed the vibe/aesthetic though. That new Raging Demon looks excellent.

Sure! Your reasons are valid and I'm not asking you to defend them.

I certainly don't like everything in any of those categories either. I've got slices I'm into, but yeah, the broad categories are def part of my interests.

Depends on your use case. If you like the content or communities that exist here, then obviously stay. Lemmy/Kbin/Mbin feel fairly stable about what communities exist and which get actual traffic, so make your decision based on your interests and interactions, as well your beliefs.

I'm on Reddit way more often than I'm on here cause my favorite subreddits don't exist here in any capacity oe have minimal activity

Wanderer's Guide for Pathfinder 2e character sheets Liberation Martial Arts for a leftist understanding of martial arts And half a dozen (mostly NSFW) artists

Thanks!

That Mastodon opinion is fascinating to me. Mastodon is the one i know he best by far, which is why i left it out.

Mastodon might function similarly, but as a user the community feels nothing like Twitter, for better and for worse, and its users and devs seem proud of that.

I also notice a strong communist/anarchist presence.

IMO Mastodon's flaws are from trying to hard to not be Twitter the 2nd, not from being too similar to Twitter.

Fighting games, easily. Where you have 2 people you have a scene, no matter how old or obscure it is.

Lol I woke up to 2 deleted comments, some vitriol directed at their writer, and your comment here.

What happened?

Yeah, i think that's a very helpful distinction. Something like Beehaw or Hexbear is defined more by its rules than its software.

I added Bee as a fourth item because people described it as a separate item/entity/community/experience than the others. Its limited federation somewhat corroberates this sentiment IMO.

What do you mean by "actively surpressing a community?"

Do you have any articles on the origin of Reddit? It came out of Digg, right?

Actually, I'm kind of curious:

What do you mean "because of the nature of the reddit migration?"

That's what i thought you meant. Thanks!

in my case, the diaspora didn't change me so much as it displaced me.

Now I'm here and there. Much like Twitter and Masto where i do more content viewing on the legacy site where there's more content, but more posting on the FOSS alternative because of ideological imperative to see it grow even if its content doesn't serve me (yet?)

The mod history you posted definitely makes it look like they have a clear idea what kind of bikini/community they want and you don't fit and neither of you were gonna change.

I've got negative interest in Beehaw. I'm not defending them or calling you a malcontent. They might be actual fascists for all i know. I've had 0 interactions with them.

Just saying that it's clear who they want and it's not you

Damn, that's fucking awful. What female-centric communities existed? I know what ones my wife follows on Reddit but not their analogues here

Edit: Nevermind. The Reddit communities i found with analogues here are dead AF. Even the big pooular stereotypical topics like Fashion, cooking, weight loss, wedding planning, cozy games, skincare, hair styles, TV shows, romance books, dating, are all dead here.

Goddam, Lemmy users literally scared all the women away.

A real life example of "Stop scaring the hoes"

I am increasingly unable to take this place seriously.

"Scaring the hoes" is a catch all term for when the things men enjoy in private or with other men create environments that are inhospitable to women.

I've always heard it in a comedic context, said with nearly the same tone as when Eustace berates Courage the Cowardly Dog.

Mastodon. The people are kinda weird, in different ways than I am weird, but if I post consistently enough I'll build a community or something. I bounce between there and Twitter cause neither community is 100% satisfying

MBin, cause I want to be able to access Lemmy without being on Lemmy

I'm rooting for a Sean return in a later season

Blocking regional communities is one thing, sure.

I was partially joking, but anime, cartoons, sports, and some tasteful/ethical NSFW are all topics I'm hella interested in but don't get much play here. There's basically no boxing/MMA/basketball/football here.

Each day i feel too normie for this place

I'm not into the skinny models that most porn features and a lot of irl porn comes with a host of ethical issues,

Are there people discussing comics or pro wrestling on here with any frequency?

I think it's this in large part. Lemmy's users are by and large migrants from Reddit for various reason.

But also, this place exists as an ideological alternative to Reddit more than a technical one. The API-pocalypse (API-calypse?) and enshitification and shameless money grabs to inflate stock prices were the final straws for a lot of people but it's no secret that there are a series of positions and interests that are (assumed to be) shared by all the current Lemmy users.

As Lemmy grows its instances will continually have to determine who, what, and what beliefs and practices are welcome there

But also some people are just jackasses and need to argue, and they come into contact with people who want the same thing.

YouTube Shorts have been pretty good at recommending content from games i play (Street Fighter 6) or from martial arts/Boxing/MMA accounts that i am actually interested in

30 seconds is short enough for an SF6 round or a cool KO

With that said, you've asked this in the wrong place and are gonna get the most curmudgeonly answers from people who dislike videos, let alone shorts