Madlaine

@Madlaine@feddit.de
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Joined 1 years ago

she/they, non-binary transfeminine individual based in Berlin

Why are people so surprised?

There is money to be made, and we're not used to seeing cashcows beeing left alone

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Yes, but it's a bit hard to get; even in countries that try to improve trans-care rather than reduce it.

There are just so many therapists; the waiting lists are sometimes simply closed because they stretch years.

For many people, these hormones mean the difference between a livable life and extreme dysphoria, depression and suicidality.

If they could get them on the regular way, they would. But the regular way is often full of problems. So some people have to fall back to just do it themself.

I even heard of doctors who do some medical checks under the counter to ensure everything is done as safe as possible (but aren't able to prescribe hormones themself without prior psychotherapeutical indication)

So; your point would be valid in theory, but unfortunately for many trans-people, it's the only way to get their possibly life-saving medication.

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Didn't check the sub in the screenshot, didn't we?

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I guess it would actually work.

Imagine you're right in the act and suddenly somebody stands next to you and screams fus ro dah. I would definitely instinctively jump in the other direction

And check if the lockpickinglawyer already tested said trigger lock.

It's not my area of expertise; but the ones he tested were far from safe.

before 9/11

Last time I checked V and H were different letters.

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Depends on your region and use-cases.

As fellow german I luckily have an answer for smaller projects, where my non-techy mother-in-law hosts her own business wordpress since years without any issues. It's just a simple webhoster with ssh-login.

https://uberspace.de/de/

Best thing: it's pay-what-you-want. My first projects were 1€/mo because i was broke; nowadays I voluntary pay a bit more.

Not OP, but yeah...

There are a few mental/neurological conditions that lead to a big adversion against ordinary recurring tasks.

(In my case it's PDA; but it's something that I see across multiple neurodivergent spectrums, as well as in people with depression)

  1. I never understood why space should be at premium. A phone does not need to be as thin as possible. 1½-2cm thickness is reasonable in my eyes, and would allow so much more ports and/or buttons. I would have use for 2-3 extra buttons.
  2. The biggest pro of two opposing ports: you could always charge your device regardless of orientation. With just a port on the bottom charging while scrolling in the bed is often uncomfortable
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To prove your point, please dox yourself.

I'd be interested in your full name, address, your phone numbers, your email adresses, birth date and credit information (which is probably in the order details)

Half of my images are around 50% confidence that I look like I'm a man

All other images lead to 98% confidence in me beeing a women.

All of my test-pics were made pre-HRT, and while my style makes it obvious that I don't identify as masculine (or am GNC+Gay) my face (unfortunately) screams was a pre-HRT AMAB.

That AI is totally shit

The problem is more that cumming is the goal for many guys.

I may won't last long when penetrating, but we still have fun for hours before and after it.

And I think that's a point about how to approach sex, not about sexual identity

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formally yes, but most people I know just say "Ami"

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And whoever implemented our garbage collector must have taken it quite literal, without looking up what it means

As a former fan of ulefones:

They're great as long as they work, but I already had two ulefones where something broke internally physically and the IR-blaster blasted non-stop, even after the phone was off. Never had other significant problems, tho.

It's a (opt. Co-Op) Pokemon Survival Craft Base&Factory Building Game with Guns.

While sometimes buggy and rough around the edges, and without offering many original ideas, the ensemble of everything they threw together is really good.

Sure, it's far from perfect, and every other moment, you can see the quite heavy inspirations they got from popular franchises.

But it's quite good.

While not surpassing any of its inspirations in the field they got inspired in, it offers all these other things the inspirations missed.

It's parts may not be that good, but overall, it's the combination of those parts that make it.

Self-proclaimed eggs realize they might be not-cis; but they haven't found themself yet. Or are in the denial phase. Or many other things.

Our shell show cracks, but we haven't hatched yet.

Because he's legally innocent until proven otherwise and therefore has not forfeit his eligibility yet.

There is a legal process, and it should be followed.

Just because many people think he is guilty doesn't mean that the normal juristical procesd can be skipped.

He will lose eligibility early enough (i hope)

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I don't disagree with the point that it shouldn't need to be this way.

But it is what it is; and it's live saving medication that has to come from somewhere.

People are fighting to tackle the problem officially; but they also have to somehow live in the meantime.

Almost all trans people would prefer a prescription and medical supervision above having to pay themself and guesstimate the doses without proper bloodwork. But some just don't have any alternatives.

And to be clear: I will always recommend people to try the official way first. local transpersons that asked me for advice all got a "I can help you get therapy; I can help you to skip therapy and go the indication route; I can reluctantly help you skip indication and go the informed-consent-route without psychotherapists but still medical supervision, even tho I really discourage that unless your transidentity is obvious since many years; but I will not help you to get DIY (without medical supervision) unless you tried the official approaches, sorry".

But for some people, there is no other option than DIY. Getting a place for therapy can be really hard, and some countries have no alternative routes to get a prescription with medical supervision without going through years of therapy first.

(Btw, I don't know how the laws are in the UK. I'm from germany. But the problem is the same everywhere. I got lucky to be able to get a prescription, tho; but I know a few people that weren't)

ENM relationship cluster enters the stage.

Tip for people without urgency for a new job.

In your application call (not the letter!), make it clear that you are neurodivergent. Make it clear that you can be brilliant if you can do things the way you need to. Make it clear that it can backfire badly if they expect that you can be handled "by the book". Make sure your future team knows this. And try to get to know the whole team first in a 1-2h call.

In many cases they will reject you on this basis. But there are a few, if rare, companies that will accept that. And these were the best jobs I had. Because the people know what to expect, and especially know what to NOT expect.

(May won't work for all Jobs. I'm in IT, so neurodivergent people aren't that uncommon. Maybe other fields look drastically different)

To further expand at least for samsung:

  • the mic will be re-enabled for regular phone calls
  • the mic won't be re-enabled for other calls, e.g. WhatsApp, Telegram, Whatsoever

I love derivate-browsers; using vivaldi (based on chrome).

As much of the site seems japanese and I don't want to dig deep this morning: can you please give me 2-3 reasons what makes floorp so good?

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Fuck you for hurting the most vulnerable, disgusting decision by disgusting people.


Kann übersetzt werden zu:

Fickt euch dafür die verletzlichste, abscheulichste Entscheidung von abscheulischen Leuten zu verletzen. (weird weil wörtliche Übersetzung; kann auch Beschädigen o.ä. nutzen. Geht mehr um den Sinn als das Wort)


Ist vermutlich gemeint:

Fickt euch dafür die Verletzlichsten zu verletzen; Abscheulische Entscheidung abscheulicher Leute.

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"Funnily" we don't even need to ask if it's Celsius or Fahrenheit

Just do it.

There are many large people that look beautiful. You have to search for the right clothes.

I assume from your comment that you're maybe a bit chubby; that's no shame. Many chubby people look wonderful in fem clothes.

You maybe should go for something more comfortable than the sexy secretary look, but (unless your suuuuper overweight) there will be something that's suiting your figure. Just google some guides for transfeminine clothing and try some stuff. Many of us wanna wear feminine clothing while having similar issues. A love for food is not depending on the gender ;)

Btw: My personal recommendation are long black skirts from the steampunk/goth/pseudo-victorian niches. They often have enough accessories and other highlights to distract; and they don't look all that bad if one is a bit larger

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There are four types of people:

  • "S.Q.L."
  • Sequel
  • Squirrel (seriously, I met 3 unrelated people saying squirrel. Why?!)
  • Who cares? You should use [another tool] anyway
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I'm hery sure tvey are...

(actually tvis works quite good, I tvink I will use tvis for a hocal quirk for a dnd-npc)

And it can also burn people.

Someone tried to convince me to lemmy in 2022. And until the Reddit-thing this single message was the whole reason I didn't even thought about joining lemmy. It was weird to me back then.

how would you quote...

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Just put a ">" in front of the quote

When I was younger (and it wasn't about drinking but smoking):

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"Where is this going. Debts? Companies? Did I miss some huge lore dump? Wait ... are they talking about the lands outside?"

Can confirm this.

I visited several concentration camps in different countries with my school (not mandatory on curriculum; but visiting Auschwitz is something that really brings home the horrors and that's why the school offers it to older students (together with psychological staff))

I learned about Nazi-History for 2, maybe 3 years in school.

Therefore I can say that in general we are not afraid to learn/teach about the time; to prevent that it happens again (which seemingly didn't work as a significant parts goes towards the right again... but I digress)

That said: There was never a focus on german companies. Sure, here and there you will find some references and images as a sidenote in a school history book; but nothing that was talked about long enough to got stuck in my brain.

So I wouldn't deny that some of us are a bit blind in regards to the still-running businesses that were involved with the nazis. And if someone brings it up it's often just dismissed with sth. alike "Well, at that time you had to cooperate with the nazis or ceise to exist".

But saying we're "uncomfortable" about the history is wrong in the way it was said; sure, we (at least those with my opinion) are not proud of what happened and it's not our favorite topic, but it's not like we just pretend it never happened

Maybe slighly off-theme, but:

Cucumber and spring onions

They are great on lunch-sandwiches (e.g. salami, cheese, cucumber, a few spring onions) and multiply my satisfaction with just 20seconds of extra work.

It's surprising how 2-3 slices of a tasteless thing can increaae taste so much.

Bills Gate

That said I had to really try hard to deliberately missunderstand it.

But well, we seem to have the same native language and therefore maybe intuitively misstranslate it the same way? ^^