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This isn't related to the article, but I wanted to pick at the 'benefits of slavery' question.

I think it's important to acknowledge the 'benefits' of slavery, because it's important to remember who it benefitted and at who's expense. To claim that it benefits no one would be to deny the greed and callousness that spawned these human rights abuses.

Slavery in the past has brought massive advantages and benefits to many people today through the accumulation of intergenerational wealth, at the expense of minorities who are still systematically denied access to this wealth. To claim that these benefits don't exist would be to diminish the scale of issues slavery has brought, and is still bringing, to modern day.

This isn't just a liberal issue, it's a political climate issue that everyone plays a part in. Liberal 'smugness' is a reaction to conservative anti-intellectualism. When their feelings are as good as your facts, there is nothing left to debate.

No matter how simple liberals try to explain things, it doesnt matter. Conservativism has stopped having substance worth debating over when it is no longer about policy, but all about taking the opposite side of every liberal stance.

Liberals are not at fault for the willful ignorance of rural voters. No one starts off being smug and condescending to people. This happens after they've tried to explain with civility a thousand times and nothing worked. When ego and pride, not empathy and understanding, are the only things of value to conservatives, liberals resort to contempt. There is nothing left but to resent these people for being pigheaded and small minded. Their world views are set in stone by fox news, and any attempt you make at showing them the truth is deemed as a personal attack.

Bra cups are relative to band size. For reference, a 36C is roughly the same volume as a 32E. These are call sister sizes.

I'm tired of guys saying 'uwu G-cups' without any context. A 30G is the same as a 42B. Start asking what their band size is ffs. It's like saying 'she weighs 120’. 120 what? Bags of flour?

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Leave it to Lemmy's 77% male userbase to discredit the entire feminism movement because some self-proclaimed 'feminists' are misandrists and TERFs in sheep's clothing.

Women are always held responsible for other people's behaviors. Holding the vast majority of normal feminists who just want to be treated like people accountable for the actions of a crazy minority of men-hating folks is just another example of this.

This may come as a surprise to you, but people often deliberately mislabel themselves for credibility, or believe themselves to be something that they are not. For example, so called 'leftists' in the US are actually centrists and by international standards.

You are holding all women feminists accountable for the actions of a few self-proclaimed women feminists. That is not infantilization, that is pointing out the impossible standards that women are held to by anti-feminists and how some women will always be blamed for the actions of others.

Lemmy's userbase is problematic because often times people don't think about whether or not their experiences are relevant before speaking. Judging by your condemnation of feminists because of misandrists who claim to be one, you don't seem to understand that feminism is fundamentally about equality and bringing men and women up to par with each other. This goes beyond just women's rights. Feminism is just as much about making safe spaces for discussions about men's mental health, male sexual assault victims, paternity leave, custody, and so much more. The reason why these things are not accessible to lots of men is the same reason why women aren't being treated as people. It's because of systemic patriarchal barriers that force men and women alike to conform to certain detrimental behaviors or be ostracized.

This isn't reddit. People actually get tired of the 'what's the sexiest thing you have sexed?' questions.

Christ can you not understand that most feminists fundamentally disagree with TERFs? I don't know why you are so insistant to lump them with actual feminist. Maybe consider listening to feminists, like me, instead of perpetually mansplaining about what feminists are.

It's not a 'general perception' that all feminists are TERFs. It's what your perception and the perceptions of other anti-feminists. Hell most normal men, who are feminists with or without labels, don't share your perception. You seem to have this warped perception that all feminists are out to get you and hate on men, when the reality is so far from the radicalized scheme that you think it is. People like you perceive the existance of feminism as an attack on you. It's not. It's not even about you, because you don't seem to care about men's issues either. It's about everyone else who wants to lift men and women above the patriarchy.

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Good is not the enemy of perfect.

Good for yourself and all, but just as a reminder that Christmas can be secular and anti-capitalist at the same time. You don't need to exchange gifts, be religious, or have any beliefs or traditions about it.

It can just be an excuse to get together, cook, and have dinner. It doesn't need to be elaborate either. Christmas for many people just means a time of the year you set aside to appreciate family, friends, and loved ones.

Whenever I'm dumbfounded by how people here conflate individual homeowners with corporate lanlords, I have to remind myself the average Lemming is probably 14 and doesn't understand the economics of renting. If you want to start somewhere, look up the 5% rule.

Blaming individual homeowners instead of corporate landlords is like blaming global warming on people who use plastic straws while billionaires take hundreds of flights in their private jets per year.

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I am the feminist movement. You are speaking it right now. This is the image of feminism. If you don't like what you see, don't shuffle around and just admit that you are an anti-feminist.

The feminist movement isn't some men-hating caricature you see on Fox news. It's normal people caring about those who suffer from the patriarchy, men and women alike. It's people over at Men's Liberation community. It's donating to the local women's shelter because over 90% of SA victims are female. It's donating to men's suicide prevention charities because over 80% of deaths are from men. It's understanding that the men's mental health crisis is a consequence of patriarchal structures. It's understanding the pervasiveness of systemic oppression on women's lives. It's learning to empathize with the different but real struggles that the other genders face.

If you simply 'don't care anymore' because you are concerned about image, that's not good enough. You should care. And that starts with embracing the idea that feminism isn't a dirty word, and it's not defined by extremists. It's 2023 and it's what everybody should strive for ffs.

Inb4 some people say 'women voted with their wallets', no we did not get to vote.

If you think we get to choose what size of pockets we get for pants that fit us without being uncomfortable, you have not shopped for women's clothing as a woman, ever.

When women buy pants, it's like bringing a random metric screw to an imperial hardware store hoping to buy a nut that fits and also all the labels are written in some alien language. The words 'size 8' never mean the same thing on any two pairs of pants.

Here are some common issues we encounter. It's not as simple as 'oh women are just vain and want pants that are a tight fit'. Women don't get the nice 33"x34" measurements that men get in spite of needing standardization more than ever, partly because it's nigh impossible to standardize the wide variety of hip and waist sizes women have and how it changes throughout the month. It's always 'these pants are perfect except':

• My hips are to big to pull these pants up
• My hips are too small and now I have to wear a belt with 2 inches of fabric uncomfortably bunching up in the back
• My legs are too long and my ankles are cold
• My legs are too short and the pants are touching the floor
• My waist is too big so the pants are choking me when I sit down
• My waist is too small and now the same belt problem happens
• There are no belt loops for jeans
• I have PCOS belly and belts hurt to wear
• I have sensory issues and I cannot stand belts of the feeling of bunched up fabric
• The cut is too low and my bum is showing
• The cut is too high and my abdomen is choking
• My thighs are too fat and so I can't sit down in these jeans without discomfort
• These jeans are too inflexible or small to accommodate days when I am bloating
• There are no pockets
• There are tiny pockets
• There are fake pockets

So please, I beg of you, don't commit bullshit about how 'women chose this'. We did not.

Slavery still affects many people today. Here is a link to many examples worth looking into.

I retie both about half the time because often times when one side comes loose, the other side is close to being undone. That way I don't have to bend down twice in a short time (I have chronic pain).

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You're clearly looking at the wrong place because all I see is an 'oink' bag and '⎵' bag

I think the misconception that you might be having is that the stress is even manageable at all. When people go through trauma at this age to this degree, there is little to no chance of managing it.

It's like watching someone get injured in an accident and saying that if they had the opportunity to manage themselves better they could recovery without any lasting effects. Some accidents, no matter how well it's managed by patients or doctors, will still render the patient paralyzed. Not to mention that a worse but more likely outcome is that they don't make it out alive at all.

There is a survivorship bias here that is not seen on the surface. The reason why I am chronically ill is because the alternative in my situation is that I would be dead. You don't see the people who had endured trauma and died, because they don't come on Lemmy and comment.

The best possible outcome from the accident I was in that is my childhood, is that I came out of it alive, albeit physically and emotionally damaged.

Girls hate it too!

Ugh genders are stupid! /s

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I have a condition called musical anhedonia. There are lots of us out there but we don't show ourselves because of social stigma against not being able to enjoy music.

I imagine these sorts of messages get attention because they can be very validating

That's a pretty big slap in the face speaking as someone who grew up with chronic stress. I'm in my 20s. My thyroid has gone autoimmune on itself. I developed PCOS before puberty even fully set in. I have fibromyalgia, a condition that renders my entire body up in a permanent state of pain and suffering.

I didn't get to where I am because I didn't 'manage my stress well enough' or 'didn't look at it positively enough'. It's not as simple as bad genetics either because people my age don't typically have these conditions.

I don't want to gatekept for not managing stress well enough, so I'll just put some statistics out there: I've moved 26 times growing up, went to 14 different schools, lost 13 pets consecutively, sexually abused before I was 10, called the cops due to life threatening situations 4 times in my life, and went no contact with everyone I was related to. The fact that I made it to adulthood alive should be proof enough that this isn't a stress management issue.

When you live in chronic distress, not eustress, your body will eventually pay the price. There's a book called 'The Body Keeps the Score' by Vessel Van Der Kolk that does a fantastic job of explaining this. As a result of my body breaking down in pain and no longer being able to exercise, live, and function the way I used to, I will most likely die sooner than I would have if environment conditions didn't trigger all these latent health conditions. And that's ok.

What's not ok is being told that I could have better health outcomes if I had just look at my stress more positively. Buddy, if I look at my stress any more positively than I did I would no longer be managing my stress I would straight up be in denial that anything bad even happened.

Whatever you think feminism is doesn't change what feminism actually is. I don't think you see the irony here of how you are explaining what feminism is to a feminist.

If you are not a feminist, you are anti-feminist. It's that simple. You think you are criticizing feminism, when in reality you are criticizing misandrists and TERFs who are not accepted by feminist (ask me, a feminist).

Can you just stop and think about the optics for a second? You are explaining to me, a feminist, what feminism is. You are explaining to me how i support misandrists and TERFs when everything I have written couldn't be further from that. You need to take a step back and start treating me, a woman, as a person with valid thoughts and opinions that exist independently of your narrow world view. And you need to stop putting down men who are feminists because doing so makes you just as much of a misandrist as the people you claim to hate. If you have any respect for yourself and other men's mental health issues, start accepting that feminism is the solution.

Sure. I don't listen to music anyways. Nothing against music, just not my thing.

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Sure, it's her fault for making a scene about being weighed.

But when it comes to stigmatizing weight, fat shaming, and creating an environment where fat people feel humanized, many of which are fat because of medical conditions and not the other way around, suddenly it's no one's fault.

Not saying that she was in the right, because I don't think she is at all. I'm saying that the rest of us need to get off our high horses and look at how we treat fat people to begin with.

Edit: Read the sentence in bold again. Christ the fatphobia on Lemmy is real. Hope this triggers enough people to kick start a fat people hate community.