The argument is just about how the known probability of existing in a simulation goes up the more intelligent life we know to have existed in a simulation. Keyword being "known" as it's the knowing, for a fact, that the odds exist that makes for an interesting thought experiment, especially when the odds of simulation are higher than not.
The actual probability is inherently unknowable for the reasons you've pointed out.
Procedural doesn't mean random, just generated from a set of rules. These rules can have inputs that lead to different results and you get randomness by randomising those inputs.
What's Intresting is this this exactly how most random number generators work because computers can't be random. They take a "seed" value and will always produce the same list of "random" numbers for a given seed. This means you can randomise all kinds of numbers in your procedural generation code but always get the same output if you give the random number generator the same seed.
So in No Man's Sky, for example, each planet basically has a set seed so the game will generate the same planet, on the fly, for everyone one who visits it in game. Which is why them tooting their own horn about having a whole galaxy to explore was a bit of red flag. All it meant was they generated a massive list of seeds which would have results limited by the tooling next to none of which they'd have been able to review etc.
Which is a long winded way of saying they'll basically create the world using procedural tools and save the inputs used so the game can generate the same fixed map for everyone that plays with out having to store/load a world's worth of data.
The obvious suggestion is Destiny 2, it's a coop Bungie shooter with emphasis on movement. The expansion campaigns are fun and challanging on Legendary difficulty. Only thing it's missing is the physics sandbox.
Epic is currently giving away the the Legacy collection for free which has three of the four current expansions. Absolutely worth grabbing and giving a go as I'd recommend to anyone starting the game to just focusing on going through the campaign as you'll probably have a good, if confusing, time. The big downside is the fact you get thrown in half way through the second game in the serise so if you want to understand the story you will need to look things up.
Unity was sold on no revenue share, just paying for your dev seats. That they not only tried to weasle out of this by inventing an "runtime fee" but also applied it to already complete games is a fundermental break in trust. There's no ammout of walking it back that can fix that unless they're going to fire anyone who thought this was a good idea. Which of course they're not going to do meaning things like this remain in the table.