RiverGhost

I am really happy when people are quite strict in code reviews, it makes me feel safer and I get to learn more.

Nothing worse than some silent approvals with no real feedback. What if I missed something obvious... and now it's merged.

To be fair, I also enjoy getting my grammar corrected. I'm juggling 3 languages and things can get messy.

For me, I just get an additional urgency, like, if they block these things more and more I may as well download as much as I can while I still can. As a side effect I'm also passively seeding more.

I'm not stating whether he considered it or not, but Brian May being good at one thing (physics) doesn't mean he's good at other things.

I'm an old millennial AuDHD and I have to resist the urge to use bold and italics everywhere for different kinds of emphasis. I'd use even more variations when available (text size, colors).

When I was younger, I used to do the same in analog form with multi colored pens when taking notes.

And people forget that we're also the egg.

My problem is that the "Can you do something about it?" is always unclear, I go back and forth until it consumes my thoughts.

This sounds like a boast but it's actually sad? Like I live in Europe and a lot of people I know seriously have functional alcoholism, but it's normal enough that nobody thinks it a problem until it is. Alcohol is a pretty strong drug. It doesn't matter if you can "take it", it's still doing things in your body.

Yes, the mitochondria and all the other organelles. We're mostly egg.

I do, even if it's a bot, because maybe it's not. I have worked on 2nd+ line tech support, and I'd often see 1st line getting mistreated by customers. I could never do 1st line.

This is such a beautiful comment.

Sweden

I'm on both of those and never got an email, I just tried logging in after a while and it worked.

Wait, I'm not "young people"? (37)

So do I. This has more to do with being an terrifying entitled, out of touch billionaire. Who also happens to be autistic.

Honestly, nothing. No matter how strong my interest is in something, it will eventually shift dramatically and I'll have trouble listening to any other thing.

My problem has always been that I find breathing too boring to ever manage to focus on it for any length of time.

For the uninitiated, what does Dublin have to do with chickens? I searched but I just got restaurants from Ireland.

Logseq is the only note taking system that has clicked with me, by lowering the mental overhead at the time of adding notes. I just throw it in there without any considerations while still feeling like it's not going to get lost. Later I may revisit the day's journal and add tags or connect other information, move a block into its own page, etc.

Agreed about IT Crowd. I watched it for the first time like 2 years ago and there was a whole episode that was awful.

People say that the point of activity pub is federation but to me that also means voluntary federation. The possibility of federation. What I dream for it is an option to opt-in instead of opt-out. You should be able to pick "opt-out" if you want a big, connected place. You can have your cake and eat it too by also keeping an account in a big instance of your choice. Most apps let you switch accounts with a tap or two.

We don't all want to be thrown into the world all the time; complete federation just makes it a safe space for majority populations and marginalizes minorities by default. No, I'm not saying you're all evil and exclude people on purpose, it just happens. It happens to me too.

Some of you seem to think that marginalized people are too soft and want a safe space, but you fail to notice that largely, you also have a safe space for yourself, it's just that you probably belong to the default in many areas (I am sighted and most of the internet is made for sighted people).

I grew up in a small forum; people should be able to choose to keep things small, and open in a controlled way. Because that's the beauty of activity pub, you can still federate with others!

I understand the very practical problem of lack of moderation tools and to me that's pretty much the only reason to leave, for now. Maybe come back if it gets better?

From the thumbnail I though this was a really long cat with a little green hat lying down as if it had a fever.

Then I thought you added the post images onto the cat's body.

Then at last I zoomed in and turns out there's no cat.

I don't see anything mentally unhealthy about what you do, sounds cool.

This is what I live for. :D

I agree with most of that. In formal settings, I prefer full sentences with conjunctions; however, choppy sentences are the ones that often end up in my Lemmy comments.

I was really confused about this apparently nonsensical The Expanse reference until I saw the username of the person you responded to.

Same, it could easily go the enshitification route once they gather enough momentum to become the dominant micro-blogging site.

I was like that but weirdly I was 'adopted' into a group where everyone was a good student and it was uncool not to be. It was even the popular people in the class, full of very well-rounded people (they were social, also into sports or music, friends outside of school, etc).

I still stood up as a "nerd" for reasons that felt inexplicable at the time but later made sense as it turned out I'm autistic. I wasn't as well-rounded as them. I'd hang out with them but I couldn't wait to do things by myself like being at the library, learning languages and computer stuff and playing games.

I don't think any of these people talk to each other anymore because all of us grew in separate directions. I have made good friends since. I like the hobbies I got by allowing myself to do what I wanted. I like the opportunities I got from my grades.

I don't think high school is where you consolidate your friends for the rest of your life. Some people do it, but it's not a requirement.

Your example is pretty amazing, I have seen your username everywhere, assuming it's all the same person.

Meanwhile I have a different one per account. Not even trying to hide my identity, I just can't decide. This is also why I don't have tattoos.

Not the person you replied to, and not a kink, but:

I would absolutely be more willing to clean my ears if I had this straw-like mechanism. I still do it, but it feels like a huge effort. I also end up with drops all over me.

I can't really explain why.

Jepp, for me it is barely a convenience so I don't even have an amazon account. I'm not American; seems like it's pretty important for a lot of people over there, unfortunately.

So this applies to those like me and others, if you can, stop using it. But I also believe these kind of boycotts don't make much of a dent without some serious organization.

As someone who has the option to go full remote but does not do well with it, I'd be happy to at least get extra stuff covered. My public transportation is not cheap, and the food situation is a mess.

I relate very much.

The meds actually make this worse, but without the meds I'm a mass of stress, since stress is what I used instead of an executive function.

I have typically performed highly in what do as a main activity, like school or work. But soon I start resenting the person that hyperfocuses, because that person leaves me with nothing. So far I've burned out of most of my activities and changed careers twice. Lately I decided to get into gardening 'to relax' and it ended up the same.

It feels almost like the show Severance, even though I mostly remember what I did, but like you said, it's as if it had been a dream.

Same to be honest. I was small, weak and also bullied; but some other kids were bullied in a way it feels like I wouldn't be able to get over.

I just watched and even laughed if everyone else was laughing.

I love the kind of mangoes I used to get in the tropics. Small, very sweet, yellow skin with soft fibers. I'd plock them directly from any tree around me. The skin itself was soft and sweet so no peeling needed.

There's another kind of mango that locally we called "manga". It's bigger, often with reddish and greenish colors mixed with the yellow. It's more fibrous and significantly less sweet. I really don't like these, but it's all I can get where I live now, possibly because the ones I like are harder to preserve and export.

I can get a vague sense of "something is wrong" and no amount of querying my own body will make it clearer. I have to find out in a more deliberate way (could I be hungry? How long has it been since I last ate?)

I agree, but I think I understand why I do it.

TL:DR Maladaptive behavior that is however ultimately harmless since I don't bother people.

I was a "gifted child"; was always like 2 school years ahead, started uni at 15 and every single person I met would praise me for being the youngest. I was immature so it got to my head. I also have always looked much younger than I am, which also invites comments. Finally, I also have AuDHD and I'm constantly anxious about not acting my age and being too immature. So I try to look at other people's ages to guide me in how I'm supposed to behave.

All of this is maladaptive and I've gotten a lot better with time, and I'm still working on it, but I'm not particularly bothered about the actual fact of having an interest in people's ages. I make sure I don't ask them about it or bother them about it, but many just offer this information on their own.

A quick test for this is, are you good at making a good first impression or short time of friendship and then it kinda falls off with time? If yes, masking is likely in play.

Can confirm. This is my entire life.

I think people say Google results are superior due to inertia. Google was really good at some point, many years ago. These days it's laughably bad.

I was very confused until I realized you mean flat elastic bands which I'm not so familiar with (the ones I'm used to, have square cross sections).

All the time. My life has been pretty good when it comes to external circumstances, but I have a severe lifelong mood disorder.

So I'm constantly feeling bad and there's never any 'reason'.

Yes, Mastodon is microblogging like Twitter. Usually has longer character counts, my instance has 5000 which helps because I tend to get long-winded.