I only joined yesterday or the day before but I have to admit, I'm not loving this place so far. Adding communities that are not part of this instance is a giant PITA. The whole instance getting federated or defederated seemingly at the whim of the instance host is a bit sus to me too. Also, for some reason when I'm typing it just keeps having a popup saying "report created" in the bottom left. This place also is just as much of an echo chamber as Reddit from what I have seen, which is by far my biggest gripe with Reddit.
Is Beehaw less of an echo chamber? Reading their sidebar it seems like it would be even more of one. I'm curious as to why you think I might be happier there. Is it easier to navigate somehow?