dumptruckdan

Yup. Also applies if you're diagnosed but having to rawdog all of it because your body can't tolerate either ADHD meds or antidepressants. So you're stuck trying to kludge together solutions with behavioral, cognitive and lifestyle changes and it's like trying to build a sand castle with powdered sugar. Maybe you can make something stick together a bit, but one big sneeze and it's all gone.

Only reason I can think of is to get in on the ground floor of the fediverse and eat its lunch.

Depending on who it is, I either ask them how they've been, apologize for who I was back then, or turn 360° and moonwalk out of there

My phone has been a lifesaver for remembering things. I grew up in the days of paper planners, so it's a real treat to be able to set up reminders etc. Prior to that I used lists and post-it notes. Post-it notes are tricky because if you use them a lot they become part of the scenery, so getting an assortment and changing to a different color note helped me to notice them.

For developing habits, instead of "do it for 30 days and it'll stick" (lmao) I try to shoot for progressively more consistency over time. So when getting back in the habit of flossing, every day was overwhelming but I could do once per week which was better than nothing. Then every other day. Now I do it daily. Does this work with everything? No but when it works it works. In other words don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Some > none.

Mindfulness is not a cure-all but it is a good building block. I practiced just being present and noticing my thoughts. Noticing thoughts allowed me to start observing my train of thought to see where exactly it derails and keeps me from getting things done. If I can figure out where I'm getting distracted I can create workarounds for those. Sometimes I have to literally make a diagram of the thought pattern, like a flowchart, to see what's happening.

I also made a list of my main goals in life including the pedestrian ones like eating healthier and doing creative things, and posted a thing on my fridge to help remember to do something towards those goals every day that I feel up to it. That cuts down on the amount of time I spend in neutral gear wondering what to do with my time. If I don't know wtf else to do then at least I can do something small that will advance a life goal.

The last thing I'll say is give yourself some grace. Nobody has their shit together. Some people just fake it better. Reward yourself whenever you make progress and go out of your way to point out to yourself when you accomplished something or successfully used a cognitive tool. That voice in your head that says you're dumb and can't do anything? It's a jerk, don't listen to it. Go out of your way to rub your successes in its face.

That's all I got, hope it helped.

Face scrubber. I was given a small crocheted dish scrubber - sort of like these - made from very soft tulle. It's too soft to be effective on dishes, but it works perfectly on my face.

Somewhat. I still have some of the visual images in my head, but the memory of how I felt at those times is gone or very faded. Often the memories feel, not exactly dreamlike, but like I am looking at a diorama or one of those paperweights that has a scene encased in resin, forever visible but inaccessible.

I've started to forget my dad's voice a bit and it scares me. I don't want to forget anything about him ever.

My therapist said that you don't really remember things, you just remember the last time you remembered them. Like a copy of a copy. And that's how memories get distorted over time. So it's like, am I ruining those memories by remembering them, like a tape you play over and over til you wear it out? Or should I play the tapes anyway in case I hit my head or have a stroke or something and lose a bunch of them?

slim down

Welp that lets me out

Sometimes it is, but that's part of why it's so valuable.

Just gotta get creative. First U Cuddle Kittens, Second Pet Every Zebra

Unsurprising. $78k/yr comes out to $2194/mo take home pay per Smartasset's calculator. Average rent is well over $1k/mo with no signs of going down any time soon. Landlords frequently demand potential renters have an income of 3x the rent. Gotta live somewhere.

Apparently I'm stupid but I'm too tired to fix it rn so I will just leave my shame up here for all to see. My point is being alive is expensive and bad math or no I'm still not surprised to see this.

Edit again because I'm also too stupid to do a strikethrough correctly even with a formatting bar right there. FML and F this phone too, I'm going to bed

Hey, almost everybody has a butt. That might be one of the few things we can unify around.

Captcha comics and especially Inglip

I looked it over and it's all stuff I'm familiar with. I've been working on my weight for a few years and made some progress. I have disabling mental health stuff that sets me back. Not using it as a reason not to try, just that it makes it tough to do anything consistently enough to see results.

Tom Waits - Christmas Card from a Hooker in Minneapolis

Turts

Serious question for you OP and I ask it in a spirit of... possible solidarity? Anyway: I tend to word things clumsily, flub delicate social situations, and just generally put my foot in my mouth at the worst possible time. It's worse in high pressure situations. Are you like this too, and if so, do you worry a lot about unintentionally sabotaging your livelihood or relationships?

Com Truise

swimming upstream

I know you didn't mean it this way, but the context made me chuckle.

Also I commiserate with you OP, as I am part of a fashion community whose name we can't really change due to circumstances, but which attracts certain kinds of unwelcome attention online.

Edit: gahh I meant to reply to socialjusticewizard's comment

And when you first get in, the water is noticeably warmer by the time it hits your feet because you're so warm. When your feet start getting the cool water, then and only then are you done.

Tell me about it. My brain shows up at 3am with my life's blooper reel full box set on Blu-ray and a bucket of popcorn but is nowhere to be seen when it's time to remember where my other pants went.

Because with porn you're watching it, alone or with a partner, for a specific purpose. When I'm watching a regular movie I don't want to sit next to my brother or my mom and watch that. Even if I'm alone I don't want to get all hot and bothered and then it's like, do I pause for a minute and go deal with it or sit and watch a car chase like this? Just imply it and cut to the next morning or something. Only time I'm cool with it is watching with the spouse.

"Well if I were doing perfect I wouldn't be here"

I've never used it before but so far it seems slower than just typing with my fingers. Too used to using two hands to type I guess.

I'd totally forgotten about this. Used to see posts about it on /x/ several years ago back when I still went there. Always wondered if it was just a couple sickos or what. Turns out it's a whole bunch of sickos. Disgusting but sadly not that surprising.

I do for certain local mom and pop places because then they remember me and give me extra fries/rice/extras and orders seem to go a little faster. With a chain, nah.

I prefer to journal by hand, mainly because journaling on the computer feels unnatural somehow. But I can't write more than 1-2 pages before my hand cramps up.

If you're not home and the neighbor notices something suspicious happening at your house, they could call the cops/call you, or they could just pretend they didn't see it because FU. If your mailbox is on the other side of the street in someone else's lawn, they could weed whack carefully around it or they could """accidentally""" damage the post every time. They could pick up their dog's shit or they could send their dog over to use your yard. While all of those negative outcomes could be solved with security cameras and at worst a trip to small claims court, it's still a hassle. Just depends on what's worth more to you.

The Cure - The Same Deep Water as You

Or just listen to Disintegration all the way through

The entire album The Final Cut by Pink Floyd

Yesterday When I Was Young (Roy Clark version, Glenn Campbell did this one too)

Tom Waits - Soldier's Things or Christmas Card from a Hooker in Minneapolis, or just throw on any Waits album and you'll find something unbearably sad among the bangers. Same with Nick Cave

Last Podcast on the Left

Pod Save the World

Crime in Sports

I was late to the cell phone game and never got a "nice" dumb phone. I had a crappy TracFone. Reception was okay. Texting was torture. Bought an HTC Droid around 2010-2011 and never looked back.

When the going gets weird, the weird go pro.

Of course he did. He was on the sea for years at a time with no internet. Probably brought a whole trunk full of downloaded games and media with him.