I fight people and have opinions!

Really depends on the sport. In non-professional fencing and HEMA, practice tends to be coed. Men and women tend to perform equivalently - really height is the biggest "biological advantage". More reach means more ability to hit an opponent before they hit you, and this goes the same for men and women. Sure, men can accelerate a bit faster and tend to be taller, women can plant their feet a little wider and tend to be more balanced and flexible - but these are just averages. Individual people vary wildly because biology doesn't give a shit about the categories we create to describe it. And strategy can make up for a lot of those things in ways that you really just can't with height discrepancies. We had to give our club's tallest member a shorter axe just to make up for the reach advantage when she fought people she stood a head above.

Dividing strictly based on AGAB is not an even playing field and I feel trans athletes only draw attention to what's already a significant problem in competitive sports. And once you get to a professional level, I understand there's more nuance, but a vast, vast majority of athletes are not professional and the issue is blown far out of proportion for them. Anyone pushing to enforce divisions in kids' sports via genital inspections has lost their goddamn minds.

me n the trans catgirl polycule reading lambda calculus whitepapers like :3

She'll probably be a regular 42 year old woman?

On top of what the others have said: at 11 years old, a trans kid is very unlikely to be medically transitioning, and so their transition is entirely social. With that in mind, what is the actual harm to a kid socially exploring trans identity and then later changing their mind? Why would that percentage need to be 100%?

SPD has "limited value" to the small biased sample of locals I know. They're very unpopular in some communities, especially queer/minority communities around where these inspections took place. But as always, many others aren't directly impacted and so they tend to be quietly neutral or supportive of the police.

Outer Wilds, to my estranged family. I think they could use a new religion and that game's probably a better place to start.

yeah I heard this album, it's ok but personally I just think CD Laser Lens Cleaner has elevated the genre further

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Sure, why not?

Generally, using their current preferred name/pronouns (or neutral pronouns) is best. She's still the same person, so it's true to say Caitlyn Jenner won the 1976 Olympic Decathlon. If any other facts about the event itself were directly relevant to the conversation, that'd be ok - e.g. it would be accurate and inoffensive imo to say she won the men's division.

But name/pronouns change all the time otherwise so it's more normal to use the current ones. If Ms. Jones gets married and is now Mrs. Smith, it wouldn't be inaccurate to talk about Mrs. Smith's car breaking down last summer.

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Personally, it's nbd when people slip up - especially people who've known me for a very long time pre-transition. Oftentimes they correct themselves, and I usually feel worse that they feel bad about it. It's pretty easy to tell when it's intentional or not, and I reserve my ire for people who clearly mean disrespect.

Though, I should say, that's now - early on in transition, it was certainly a bit harder to take. It reminded me of very fresh family abandonment and abuse over my identity. That's not on the people who accidentally called me by the wrong pronoun, but it certainly could put me in a pretty bad place and I'm sure I wasn't the friendliest in those moments. The more that trans folks are supported by their friends and family, the more secure they feel and the less likely they are to react strongly to being accidentally misgendered, imo.

I love gcc but it can't make nested template errors any less horrifying

To be fair, Bluesky does have "blocklists" maintained by other users that you can opt into, and quite a few popular ones exist with active maintainers who take and act on reports pretty quickly. So you still can delegate moderation responsibilities. One advantage to this is that you can opt into a few blocklists based on what you personally want to block - separate lists exist for hateful bigots, crypto pushers, and so on. I gave it a shot out of curiosity and haven't run into any issues yet, but that's just me.

I still prefer Mastodon for broader AP integration, and I think blocklists aren't discoverable enough outside of word of mouth, but I am curious to see how that turns out for Bluesky. Certainly an improvement over Xitter imo.

I've heard this as a sticking point for some people, and I think it's fair. Some don't enjoy putting themselves in the shoes of a complete fuckup main character who's already made a ton of terrible decisions before the game's even started and will continue to do so despite your best efforts.

But, worth noting this is part of the appeal for a lot of other folks, and the game is going somewhere really special with it. It's not bad writing, it's a necessary component of the story being told.

It really depends on the sport imo. Trans women may retain some more muscle and some parts of the skeleton are largely unaffected, but muscle elasticity, hip rotation, flexibility, and endurance all end up being more dependent on hormones than birth sex in the long term. How much these things matter varies a lot from sport to sport, and the current system is not sufficient to balance these traits even among people of the same sex. Multiple leagues based on broad body types sounds reasonable, but I have no idea how complicated the rules would have to be to make it completely fair, given we already accept a great deal of unfairness currently.

They're prevalent everywhere in 3d rendering 😁 my beloved approximately blue squares

like most of these things, depends on context I think. being a furry is technically something different and not inherently sexual, however furries are treated as such and also overlap a lot with other queer communities. so there's lots of solidarity to find there. same goes for lots of neurodivergent folks too.

Wasn't really allowed to harbor or express anger as a kid. Now I can't summon an ounce of rage, even when it's appropriate and helpful. It's not ideal, so I spend a lot of time meditating, dropping away other emotions in hopes of finding a spark of something in there. Nothing yet, but I've found a number of other useful things in the process.

Mindfulness is a great skill to build to debug issues like this. It's slow, painful sometimes, and doesn't always feel worthwhile, but it's definitely worth taking the time to try meditating to get closer to your base emotions and how they appear.

Worth remembering too that what you're looking for probably isn't a huge shift in thinking, at least in the short term. Incremental progress over time is all it takes. Some people are shades of tightly wound and that's okay. You're who you are for a reason and it's worth being kind to yourself when unhelpful thoughts appear. Not to excuse yourself of behavior you don't want to maintain, but to care for and guide yourself toward a simple step in the right direction.

Catcalling is a good example. When I was early on in transition catcalling felt uncomfortable, but I'd often walk away feeling like someone saw me as an attractive woman, which was a new validating experience and ultimately that outweighed the discomfort. After some more time, now that that's more common, the validation has worn thin and now it's just uncomfortable.

I crunch it in my mouth and spit it into the pan

MANKIND IS PUNCH

BLOOD IS PUNCH

HELL IS PUNCH

There is the unregulated gambling market running off Counterstrike and Dota etc items that valve technically doesn't run, but does facilitate through its community market and does profit from. Probably the biggest problem I have with how the company operates.

That being said, generally I do agree.

I've attempted to do public-facing technical support for a game and dear Christ you're spot on. I love people for wanting to engage with something I've spent a substantial part of my life putting together and trying to make it run okay, and am sympathetic to people feeling frustrated when technical issues prevent them from fully enjoying an early access game. Early on when the community was small I had a great time shitposting with the players, but once we hit release the environment turned toxic pretty much overnight as the community suddenly grew.

But like, none of them know how hard we crunched to get even a playable version of the game out, nevermind one that's playable on the lowest of netbook specs. None of em know how complicated the system is that's breaking preventing them from logging in, that that's not actually my area of expertise and that I'm just feeding them information from the matchmaking team who are all freaking the fuck out because this is the first time we've tested this shit at scale. None of them know that we were getting squeezed by our publisher, who wanted us to do a progression wipe that we didn't want ourselves, but like they control if the game gets shipped at all so... not really a choice there. And we can't admit any of this because accusations of incompetence come out pretty early, tend to stick around, and leave devs very little room to make bad decisions (which happens a lot!)

And like, being trans now on top of that? Hell no, I'm never touching a public server again if I can help it. Slurs and mistrust were already flying before, I can't throw myself in front of that bus again. I'm gonna miss it because I cared a lot about connecting with people playing the game and for a while found a lot of joy in responding to bugs and fixing individual system issues and integrating into the community. And there were some amazing people who were great to talk to that I really missed when I left. But the inherent abuse that comes with that gets so overwhelming and it drained my desire to even work on games at all for quite a while.

I will say, these days it's more or less impossible to release a game that'll run perfectly on every system and it's a good thing we're able to fix crashes and patch issues as they come up. This has naturally had its downsides as publishers squeeze devs for tighter releases, but outside of that it's a very good thing for devs and players.

I love how divergent those two popular interpretations of AI are, too. One is all Skynet and scary and all-powerful and the other is being refactored for the umpteenth time because navmeshes broke and all the enemies are T-pose floating 10cm in the air.

It's not meaningless, but not meaningful enough for a legislative definition of sex. The law must be consistently applicable to people who aren't "average".

You start out in 2005 by saying "t----- t----- t-----." By 2023, you can't say t----. That hurts you. Backfires. So you say stuff like, uh, parents' rights, bathrooms, and all that stuff, and you're getting so abstract. Now, you're talking about nicknames, and all these things you're talking about are totally superficial things and a byproduct of them is, queer folks get hurt more than cishets... "We want to know about kids' nicknames" is much more abstract than even the parents' rights thing, uh, and a hell of a lot more abstract than "t------ t------ t-------."

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No True Scotsman doesn't really make sense without an effort to define what a Scotsman is in the first place. What feminism are we talking about? Are we so caught up on labeling people as feminists and misandrists that we've stopped talking about underlying ideas or caring about the internal conflicts within that camp?

As someone who's queer as hell, I've seen this play out time and time again - someone who's queer does something terrible, (because we're just people, a mix of good and bad) the media plays up that incident and re-stokes the debate over whether or not we get to exist, then people in my life suddenly look to me as somehow responsible or associated with or benefiting from that person's actions, simply due to the labeled association. Truth is, I only have direct insight into people I'm close to, queer or no. And so when I express my lack of political or personal connection with that person, it's perceived as No True Scotsman, even though the original perceived connection was shaky at best.

As with all groups of people, take feminists as a mixed bag of people with varying ideas, who aren't all responsible for what everyone else thinks. We're all better off expressing ideas one-on-one rather than playing to these tribal labels. I think you are absolutely correct in that some rhetoric employed in service of feminism has alienated a sector of young men, but we can't forget how media paints persecution narratives out of single tweets and snappy hot takes and holds everyone who labels themselves a feminist responsible.

Yes, of course, the "violent trans community" best exemplified by literally one person on TikTok posing in an "antifa super soldier" shirt. Don't forget the unspecified crowd of protestors... somewhere... chanting an obvious joke exaggeration. Fear us!!!

Talking in broad strokes all about balancing "freedom of identity/attraction" and "religious freedom" makes for a decent-sounding empathetic viewpoint prioritizing individual liberty. I understand where this is coming from, I don't disagree myself, but then again who would?

And that's why we have to get into the specifics of "forcefully spreading their belief system and values to others" because that's what happens to queer people as status quo. We're legally and socially discriminated out of a lot of aspects of public life and often carry deep trauma from wrath and abuse incurred on the way. Conversion therapy is still legal in many places for fucks sake! The hell is that if not forcefully spreading a belief system?

Often times, the term this is justified under is "freedom of religion" - but really it's freedom to control and abuse others due to religious justification. The two freedoms are not equatable, therefore the balanced center between is not a neutral position.

Corporate pride advertising is super forced and very few queer people are actually on board with it. The term is "rainbow capitalism" and it's pretty derisive. Unfortunately that's all of what some people know of us - they don't know us as people, as communities, just like them; they know us as a rainbow flag on a TV screen and as a Tucker/LWT/[whoever's got opinions about us today] talk show segment, and so that's all they think we are. Nobody likes this, queer people least of all.

While this is true to an extent, from experience this line of thinking has its limits and is very easy to misapply. On the one hand, yes you can tell people their ideas do not gel with the vision of the project, and sometimes that's the right call. And sometimes doing this a lot is best for the project.

On the other hand, even if a majority of the work is coming from one person, not only does your community learn your project, they also spend time contributing to it, fixing bugs, and helping other people. I feel it's only to a project's benefit to honor them and take difficult suggestions seriously, and get to the root of why those suggestions are coming up. Otherwise you risk pissing off your contributors, who I feel have the right to be annoyed at you and maybe post evangelion themed vent blog posts if you consistently shut down contributors' needs and fail to adapt to what your users actually want out of your software. And forking, while freeing and playing to the idea of freedom of choice, also splits your userbase and contributors and makes both parties worse off. It really depends on the project, but it pays to maintain buy-in and trust from people who care enough to meaningfully contribute to your project.

As much as I pretend to be one, I'm not really a fighter. I think this war may not need me to be one. The time to respond has already begun, and while front-line protests aren't my strong suit, supporting protestors in my community is the place for me right now. If a greater conflict escalates, I'm probably not like doing the active fighting, but I can sure as shit help with supply lines as well as helping people who need to recover in the backlines. If I ever need to be in a fight I intend to be prepared, but there's a lot more to do in a war than fight. And by the time anything like that would happen, I hope to have a resilient community around me who can support each other through hell. The fight's already begun to an extent, and it's important to remember that our best place may be "back-of-house" so to speak.

It feels like a sequel honestly. Kind of incredible how many of the core mechanics from the base game they threw out in service of telling a new story differently.

Escapism is a valid reason to enjoy music, but catharsis is a thing for some too. Sometimes it's helpful to hear someone artfully articulate something I feel but haven't put words to. When I'm frustrated with the world I put on some Against Me, rage about things for a bit, and then feel better.

I'm still the same metalhead as ever, hah. Transition doesn't change your interests, passions, and hobbies. If transfems are into some traditionally masc things as a product of being raised as boys, that'll tend to stick around after transitioning. That doesn't make them not women, but it does make them more likely to be in traditionally masc spaces than cis women.

And ultimately, I feel that's a good thing - there's really no reason women wouldn't be interested in metal outside of cultural norms, and if more trans women are in those spaces I hope it makes cis women more comfortable to explore those interests too.

Not on OF, but I've got nudes out there. I really don't give a shit who sees em. I'm not ashamed of them. Where do you get the idea that irreparably damages women?

Is math in the room with us right now?

That's been my experience with GPT - every answer Is a hallucination to some extent, so nearly every answer I receive is inaccurate in some ways. However, the same applies if I was asking a human colleague unfamiliar with a particular system to help me debug something - their answers will be quite inaccurate too, but I'm not expecting them to be accurate, just to have helpful suggestions of things to try.

I still prefer the human colleague in most situations, but if that's not possible or convenient GPT sometimes at least gets me on the right path.