Oh believe me, there are definitely people from either extremes on here as well. What's different on Lemmy/kbin is that server admins can just straight up block and defederate these servers, which means for the most part you won't be seeing these posts unless you specifically look for them.

On a related note, if the bill already has a “gratuity” entry on it, am I still expected to tip on top of that?

How heavy is it to run? I am waiting for GoToSocial to mature slightly before jumping on to host my own instance, but the only reason I'm choosing it really is because of its lightweight-ness.

I'm guessing (hoping) the difference at peak will be larger. All we can do now is wait and see, unfortunately.