Talklittle themself has said that it's actually because they were already working on a tildes app before the reddit API changed. Tildes was different enough from reddit that they felt comfortable investing the time. Then 3rd party apps got booted and everyone started moving over, and at that point it was easier to keep working on the same tildes app than to start anything new.

This is just one perspective, but people-pleasing is when you go overboard with being considerate of others -- to the point that you lose yourself. So like the one friend who will say they like all the same things as you, say yes to everything, never disagree, etc. just because they desperately need you to like them. They don't have boundaries, so even when someone hurts them, they're like "it's okay, I don't mind!" They're missing a bit of self-respect.

There's nothing wrong with being kind or considerate of others! It's really important to have to form deeper relationships. The problem is when seeming 'nice' takes the place of your personality or being honest about your real self, because you value other's validation more. People can sense that and it can put them off because they want to get to know the real person. People-pleasers can play the character that they think others want them to be, instead of putting in the work to like and value themselves and communicate their own needs and boundaries.

I had something similar happen a few years back. I had matched on tinder with someone from a different state that I actually met years ago in high school. I hadn't really been interested in him that way back then, but we reconnected and it was intense. We talked everyday and our birthdays both fell on the same weekend, so I went down there to visit him and celebrate together. Only a couple days in, he told me one night that he was falling in love with me. We built a pillow fort, partied, and went hiking together. I was absolutely smitten and so excited to start something new.

I ended up putting off the rest of my road trip to stay longer with him. However, when I finally did leave, I was driving through miles of desert when he texted me and said that he actually didn't see anything happening between us. He said that he wanted someone who knew when to "leave him the f alone" and wasn't looking for someone who wanted something super deep, but more so just companionship. It felt like such a rejection of who I was and I was gutted. I felt like it was somehow my fault. Since I didn't have signal, it was a rough drive alone with my thoughts.

Towards the end of the night, I ended up texting with a friend about it while I camped out (still on my road trip). It sucked at the time but looking back, he was kind of a prick. He had no shame about leading me on and he picked on me for little things while I was visiting him.

It's usually a bad sign when things feel so intense right off the bat. It's only easy for this guy to leave because he really doesn't know you well enough to know what he's missing out on. It might feel like you missed some chance, but it isn't your fault that this happened and there wasn't more you could do. Be gentle with yourself. ❤️ This guy wasn't honest with himself or with you about his feelings, and he ended up hurting you for it. It's clear to me that he likely isn't mature enough for you. Remind yourself that you were willing to go the distance, right? You did everything you could have. You want someone who will go the distance with you and follow you to the ends of the earth, and tbh, it's much more likely something to do with him, not you. Meaning that even if the distance wasn't an issue, you don't know if it would work either.

And you don't have to get over it right away. It's okay to just kind of drag through the days for a bit. But keep socializing, because other nice (and even attractive!) people will remind you that you still have something left and you're worth kindness from others. And do things for yourself. When I get lost after heartbreak, what has helped a lot is going for walks or hikes, sometimes on trails where the signal is iffy (so I don't expect a surprise text), with an audiobook or some music. I really wish you the most kindness. Feel free to shoot me a message if you need any extra support, I've been there.

Technically correct is the best kind of correct.

Speaking as someone that started with little experience, I love Adam Ragusea and Pro Home Cooks. Both explain things you never thought to ask about cooking and concepts that you can apply across lots of different dishes. I've learned things that I still continue to think about long after watching whenever I'm making up some food :)

Damn, talk about being on a roll!

I was in my early 20s when I started. Wanted the calming effects of nicotine, was into other similar interests, and was dating someone who also got into it. He was actually the second vaper I'd dated, so you could say it took me a while to be interested.

I'd had a couple cigs before but I never considered myself a smoker and didn't take to it. Vaping became a huuuge hobby for me. Learning about different mods, building your own coils, DIY e-juice, etc. I was vaping all day, all the time, pretty much as soon as I woke up (at the lowest amount possible though). It was a nice flavor and chemical pick me up when I was on edge. Sort of like a physical distraction. I vaped for 5 or so years. The lasting effects I've noticed are that sometimes I miss it. That's it. It was pretty hard to quit, mostly because I didn't want to. I had a lot of resistance, because it became a passion for me. But nicotine regulations started to suck, and that same partner quit as well. I got really sick with a flu and didn't vape during it. Then, I didn't start again after I got better. I had dreams about it, and it took a bit for me to want to move on.

The thing is, though, I don't feel any different now than when I was vaping constantly. It doesn't improve your life that much. It'd be great if it could be an occasional thing, like alcohol or dessert is, but it's hard to not do it all the time if you're doing it at all. And you get to an equilibrium where it just doesn't feel that strong. Hence the constant clouds.

The most annoying part about it is that it becomes like a security blanket. You have to take it everywhere. Forget it for work? Guess you'll just be late today. Have to sit for a movie? Man it sucks not to vape inside. Flying for hours? What a nightmare, can't wait to land and go outside.

It was annoying to not feel myself if I ever decided to leave my vape behind. And blowing clouds out of my car was great, but it sucked having to wipe down my car windshield all the time due to the glycerin condensation. Same with inside -- no smoke on the walls, but the glycerine would hang around and I'd have to run an air purifier. I'd often worry about the vapor leaving slight residue all over my apartment, belongings, monitors, PC internals and such.

Overall, it was great for a while as it was something I got really into, but it was also a lot of money and stress over something that didn't really benefit my life the way other hobbies still continue to do. Much better to be a free person unattached from adult security blankets. 😎

I've been using Firefox mobile for a few years now too, and the one thing I'll point out is that the addon store is a lot more limited than on PC -- unless you're using Firefox nightly or beta, which lets you use any. But for the average user that only needs ublock or noscript, etc. it's a perfect choice:)

I was just thinking about this the other day. It's weird how Google has become so unusable due to its own practices that it seems to be giving up on being a search engine. I've been getting spam pop-ups lately on mobile search asking me to use AI. Of course people will wanna use it, they can't find their answers normally anymore. You search for something and it'll show you something completely unrelated because it's trying to be "helpful" and corral you towards buying shit, and it doesn't even do a good job at that. Heaven forbid you start to look past the first 3 pages.. I don't have a clue how these websites in the search results are maintained when they're filled solely with spam and nonsensical gibberish. I'm totally with you. We used to actually see communities around and now it seems like they've fallen into the dark web, unfindable except by means of knowing someone who knows someone or, frustratingly, reddit. Paradoxically, it's like the random AI-generated hash from the dark web is now here clogging up the tubes. I feel like everyone else came along and started dumping trash everywhere because we didn't put up any signs or make any rules not to litter.

No, it shouldn't have the same the drive letter. It's sort of similar to how your computer assigns a new drive letter to each USB drive you plug in. Drive letters aren't permanent and are based on the order they're plugged in (except C, which is usually your operating system).

Cloning is extremely easy to do on your own by the way. You can use something like Macrium Reflect Free Edition. Then you just open the program, click on the drive you want to copy, then click on the drive where you want the data to go. Just like if you were uploading files to google drive or something. Cloning just copies all of the files, drivers, operating system, other data, etc. It doesn't literally "clone" the drive (like the drive letter). Let me know if you have any questions, I'd be happy to help :)

Man, we really need better labor laws.

The number one thing I've heard from avoidant people is that perfectly human emotions, albeit perhaps unfitting for the situation, are "clingy" or "too much." They don't know how to ask for things like space and own their own needs. It's much easier to instead blame their inner turmoil and resistance on the relationship by singling out that one thing they think is wrong with it. That way they don't have to be vulnerable and admit they're imperfect too. I'm sure you might know all of this anyway, but just a reminder that it's okay and healthy to be a lil clingy and worried. Not your fault.

Sounds like brain fog. Speaking as a fellow sufferer of anxiety (health anxiety included), I know how it is see something that seems wrong with you and try to pin a cause onto it. Are you being social? Keeping up with sleep, food, exercise? I know those are overstated but it sounds like you're having some brain fog. The more you focus in on the fog the more it may seem pronounced, as brain fog is highly influenced by stress. I've suffered from some myself and have felt kind of tuned out for a while. A large part of it for me has been from the shock of different life changes and the endless stress of work and relationships. The fog in that situation doesn't get a chance to subside because the body is trying to get through sustained stress with little damage.

It could also be from imbalances of vitamins like vitamin d or iron. Just to be clear, I highly doubt it was from the burning cable. It's definitely not good for you, but people smoke cigarettes and breathe road fumes for decades without losing the mental capacity you're describing here. Funky stuff happens when we look back on our past selves too, I feel like it's hard to make a fair comparison to yourself at any prior point when you factor in a lot of things that happen in-between. I don't doubt what you've been experiencing though. Sounds crappy. I hope you give yourself a chance to consider all of the possibilities and be easier on yourself for not functioning at 100% right now -- it doesn't mean it's forever or that it means something big, it could just be your capacity right now.

You know, if you think about it, there are a ton of inventions that have been created as a means of that same process of experimentation with divergent thinking. Who knows what you could end up finding out :)

I'm not the person you responded to, but I'll throw my hat in with them and say that running helps my mental health too! I've had a terrible history with exercising consistently, but I've been running at least a couple times a week for over a year now and the thing that helped a lot was getting away from "my goal is to run X number of days" and focus on rather "my goal is to make the idea of running less painful." I didn't want to get super active, I just wanted to lower the bar for action so that it was something I would continue to want to do. I never shame myself for not going, it's always an open choice for myself to help me feel better, and I let myself even just "go for 60 seconds" or "down the block and back."

And one thing that helps a lot is if you can figure out a time of day that works the best for you. I have a harder time going on weekends because I normally run during my lunch at work. On the days I don't run, I walk, because I sit a lot at work and it drives me mad to spend lunch sitting around too. Plus running is a lot more fun if it's literally taking you farther away from responsibilities, lol. Also, if you tend to do better forming habits with the buddy-system, don't be afraid to look into trying to use that as a motivator too! :D

I can't tell if you are asking in jest or seriously, but if you really are wanting to know, the phrase comes from Louis Rossman's video about his encounter with the creator/previous lead dev on GrapheneOS. The dev was flipping out at Rossman and threatening him despite his product being advertised for free. So Rossman publicized the conversation and called the whole interaction "unfortunate and informative." It's become a bit of a meme phrase for the people who watch him and within his ongoing videos.

It could be depression. It also sounds like the very common experience in ADHD I've heard of where your brain just doesn't have enough dopamine to do anything. So you might try to get yourself to do stuff, but you literally can't get yourself to do what you'd like (even though you feel like you should be able to). You might even just stare at a wall and get mad at yourself for not moving. Maybe this video might have some tips?

But I mean, it's also possible to have comorbid depression with ADHD. There are a lot of places they can overlap (low motivation, low energy). Outside of medication, you might just need to find ways that work for you and help you to feel motivated or even just happy and accepting of where you're at. It's okay to have off days too, I hope you know. People with ADHD have a lot of shame so it's important to make sure that you aren't struggling with that on top of the lack of motivation. To learn to be easier on yourself. And to learn about ways that the rest of society may have not properly taught you how to handle the unique struggles you deal with (so you can stop pressuring yourself to accomplish or act to neurotypical standards).

I really enjoy the podcast Deeper Dating. The host, Ken Page, is one of the most emotionally in-touch men I've heard from. More so than a lot of women, honestly. Also, therapy and men's groups are a great start too. Consider poetry, talks from Brené Brown, books on attachment styles, and engaging with more emotionally intimate people in your life - even just as friends, male or female.

My guess is that it's more social than biological. Women have a tendency to form closer, more emotionally available, and more plentiful relationships with others -- I believe partially due to hormones/brain development and partially due to culture. They've done studies that show that having strong social relationships is important to lower stress and loneliness, which can lead to a longer life. I'm not sure if that's all of it but it definitely couldn't hurt to work on those things :)

The book "Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall Rosenberg has a lot of wisdom to offer this issue. The author moderated and helped to resolve political tensions between countries, for example. His work honestly changed how I view talking to others with opposing beliefs.

I haven't used it outside of Windows Firefox and Android but it works great for me as well.

For mobile specifically: Rarely do I have any issues, and when I do, I have a quick panel button for Bitwarden (top drag down menu) that lets me manually trigger it. I can't think of any apps that it doesn't work with. My one nit is that autofill credit card info doesn't work often, but obv that's a secondary use, and the info is still with me if I ever need it on the go. And adding new login info can be a little tedious on mobile -- much easier to create it first, then autofill. Highly appreciate the 2FA feature too. The auto copy feature feels really seamless regardless of if I'm on my phone or not.

I'd be curious what issues you seem to be running into with it.

There is now Neocities.org so I'd say you're spot on :)

I was just playing split screen multiplayer on PC a couple days ago. Not sure where you heard that PC didn't have it, if that's what you're implying. Seems to be working fine.

Just moved off lemmy.world. Comments and posts weren't loading before and I had to keep refreshing. Now 100 percent faster with no errors.

Would you mind sharing what you shot this with? I love it! It's so unique :D

I haven't been yet personally, but I have a lot of friends who go every year. Some of the things that they love about going are the big cultures around consent, the random awesome and unique things that you find everywhere, spending time with friends, a lack of money economy, being your completely human self w/o any judgement, and basically stepping into a world that's separate from the rest of society. You'll find a lot of these things at local burns as well. If you are getting curious, I would really encourage the latter. Regional or local burns are like mini burning men with a similar vibe, but a lot more conscientious and tight-knit. The best way to get into one is to find a facebook group for the one closest to you. Sometimes they'll meet up outside the events, and you can go to ask questions and to coordinate. Since there's a lack of money economy, everything is done either with trades or with shared responsibility. There's something at burning man called "radical responsibility" where each person is responsible for their own wellness and contributions. So you can't go expecting there to be vendors or other people with food or water or what have you -- it's important to figure those things out ahead of time so that way you're not a burden on others (which allows you to be a contributing member of the community and show up fully). Like I said I haven't actually been, so I don't know the full details, but that's most of what I do know! Most people I've met that go are some of the most interesting people I know and really know how to party and what life's about for themselves, so I recommend finding out more :)

This was written by Cory Doctorow, science fiction novelist, tech activist, and original coiner of the phrase "enshittification of the internet." I'm guessing this one was a longer and wordier piece because it's meant to be a commentary, not your typical article or editor's note.

Sounds like an interesting yet terrifying concept for a novel 🤔

This is adorable 🥰

I thought you were being funny :D

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I've found that learning about and practicing DBT has offered me more of a skill to do this myself. I know what you mean about wishing you could see outside the frame of your emotions and past. In DBT, we have something called the "emotion mind" and the "reasonable mind." But we need both in order to make decisions. Rationality is great, but emotion provides direction, desire, goals, and a "why" for everything we do. The idea is that when you use emotion and reason together, you can use your "wise mind" which can help you see outside your experiences and gain perspective in new areas. I think I know what you mean because I also crave further neutral 3rd party understanding on my past too, and use ChatGPT a lot for that myself. Thought I would just throw in a couple more cents if you hadn't heard of the concept. :)

Not that I'm recommending anyone give reddit any more traffic or leverage, but I've been using Stealth app at the recommendation of someone else on here. It's downloadable through f-droid and specifically is meant to keep you anonymous and avoid any trackers and other trash normally found when opening reddit links. You can't even log into an account. I use it on the rare moments I'm looking for stuff on there, it makes me feel a bit better about it.

Please write for black mirror!

When I mentioned Windows, I meant that Adobe also requires Windows 10. And I don't believe in using edge or chrome because they're both anti-privacy. I feel like a huge company like Adobe aim to be compatible on most browsers and shouldn't limit their website visibility because of the browser you're using, especially with something like Firefox which is well-known. It sets a bad precedent for other websites to do the same, which cuts off the freedom of the web.

This is why I chose to go with kobo over kindle. You still have overdrive/libby access, but can also import and organize all of your books via calibre.

I'm sure there are some people on here that might have read it, but I haven't met many, so my pick is the Ender's Game saga. There are currently 19 books and I've read at least 10 of them. It's a really easy read, as someone who struggles to get into more complicated writing styles. Some people might be so-so about it due to some of the author's personal beliefs, but I really adore the lore itself. It offers a ton of different flavors to future visions, alien relations, psychology, and humanity.

Depends. Is the loneliness a byproduct of choices made for happiness in other aspects of your life, like moving to a new city or being picky about your social circle? Are you choosing to stay in and not interact for certain reasons? Or is the loneliness caused by things you can't control, like people leaving or mental health issues?

If it's the former, I say embrace it and work on focusing less on how you think your life should look. Pay attention to the things that you love by yourself. Take in the moments any moment where you notice you're having a great time and don't have to stop due to someone else. Imagine you just got done with a 12 hour road trip with someone who talks too much and breathe in the silence and peace of the moment. Listen to rain or cars rushing by. Sometimes, I find that loneliness can be caused by feeling like you're missing out on something but maybe wouldn't even make you happy. There are lots of people who feel lonely in their families or friendships or relationships.

If it's the latter, I'd work up to a more comfortable and satisfying level of socialization. It takes time. In that process, you'll hopefully find yourself leaning pickier and finding out what works and what doesn't. Be selfish. Learn to spend time with people and then decide for yourself whether you want to keep spending time with them. Treat your energy and presence like precious rubies. They are! Invest in who matters most to you and keeps you feeling good after you leave. This will build your confidence and belief in your worth and motivate you to keep working on the things that keep you from happiness. Ending loneliness isn't a goal you get to, it's a side effect of choosing people who see the real you and doing the self care of letting others in. :)

I am amused :)

I'm ashamed to admit I do the same thing!! Both of those. Lol. If I'm putting out a bunch of boxes in the recycling I always worry people will think I've got valuables or something nice and target me. Also identity theft is no joke. It's annoying that credit card companies send so much semi-sensitive stuff via mail.