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How did you tell your wife? I think I'm in a similar spot, really feel ya regarding being hit with a truck if emotions, but I've no idea how to tell my wife (Technically just gf but of 11 years - starting to understand why I've never had a desire to pop the question )

Not necessarily trans fiction, but an incredible book with an amazing deconstruction of gender, highly recommend.

Have you read The Dispossessed?

This is inspirational

Yea I just know this is some catalysis chemist having a bad day

That sounds shit. No advice here I'm afraid but I'll pour out some eggnog for you. I hope you get through it all right xx

I'm in a not dissimilar position to you, right down to the childhood karate, and really resonate with your post. Except I'm 4 years older and my relationship has been going for 4 years older. It's always weird and scary to understand these things, and can be very hard to share with your partner. I've been talking to a therapist about some of this stuff recently and they recommended reading the work of Meg John Barker, particularly the material on plurality. They have a lot of material available on line for free and it's all short, really worth a read. The guist of it is that as a person you are likely plural, made up of multiple different "personas" that can be thought of the sources of various emotions/feelings, and it's likely that one of more of them are not the gender you're assigned at birth. You can embrace this at times without fully transitioning, or use it as a way to experiment 5o see if you want to live full time as a woman. I have so much respect for the girls here who have done it, but it looks like a challenging ordeal, even once you're passing, and it is further complicated by already being in a cis het relationship with someone you love, means there is a lot more on the line. Wish you all the best in figuring all this out (and maybe when you do you can let me know xD )

Really appreciated you sharing that. Thank you. Xx