Depending on where you are located, many activities have "with" alcohol options available. Sometimes starting at a place with drinks may allow you to ease into a second activity that does not. Like dinner before a movie. One option I like is bowling. Most bowling places serve drinks but you are kind of forced to be tentative to whose turn it is and some places will bring your food and drinks to you. Find a balance with people that drink cause unless everyone else goes sober you'll always have to deal with it.
How does one simply incite viral popularity of an alternative like Lemmy? And what is reddit doing to hinder that?