Okay I gotcha. I definitely think its easy to get caught up in the battle of the sexes, I definitely grew up with intense messaging about generalizing both sexes, so I sometimes have to catch myself before randomly thinking X is doing that "cause they're a man/woman".
I still sometimes fall into it but i eventually met so many different/interesting men and women that I stopped being able to assign expectations to them based on the sex I saw them as. Took a long time though/i think its a lifelong journey. I like that you can identify that it is something you are projecting onto them because you want to but don't understand. That's a great foundation to build understanding on
I dont know if i should follow your advice and keep scrolling or come here and complain about reddit and idk its fun to complain about reddit
okay so if you make the mistake of going on reddit rn (i was trobleshooting a specific issue get off my back) its like a school at night all the lights are off except for some and they're blinding bright if you make the even WORSE mistake of going on r/all its like a noticable shift has happened and also where it used to be significant bots, now its VERY many botposts. its fun if you like chatting with bots!