I am a woman whose father was an abusive narcissist, the list of what I needed and didn't get is depressing to say the least. So I'll boil it down to its essence: Be there when needed. Remember she is her own person, not an extension of you. Try to make her life better than your own. Let your love be unconditional. It may not be helpful advice, but it's all I got for ya.
Thank you very much.
Jumping on the "get a fucking divorce" train and adding "stop buying prepackaged overprocessed food, feed me some damn vegetables, and stop giving me so much goddamn sugar"
When I moved over I searched for versions of all my reddit communities. Sadly, a lot of them are inactive, but I subbed anyway just in case. Then I went onto all and looked for the top handful that had stuff I liked. Now I mostly stick to my subscribed and flip over to all if I run out.
I think for calling out a sponsorship on a video about greed?
I don't generally begrudge content creators their sponsorships, gotta pay the bills somehow, god knows youtube's going to do everything in its power to make sure videos get demonetized.
This is extremely heartfelt, wonderful advice. I'm glad your story has a happy ending. But I can't imagine a better way to prepare your family. I am going to save this somewhere, for in case I ever need it, because this is exactly the sort of thing I would want to do.
I also totally get what you mean about your wife and you growing into adulthood together. I have the same thing with my husband. If he were gone, I literally am not sure what I would do in many small parts of my life. I'd adapt eventually, but knowing I'd be struggling with grief in addition to suddenly need to consider a dozen crucial but small things is dizzying to think about.
I got the Vampire Survivors DLC. I try not to buy Steam stuff anymore unless it's either a deep discount on something I kind of am interested in, or it's something I badly wanted.
They do! Kurzesgast has a few videos about ants and one of them looks at a slaver ant!
It feels different, but you're right, I don't have any proof that anything's worse than normal. It's just kind of depressing to see. I feel bad for the OPs who aren't doing anything wrong.
I guess I'm surprised because I've never been at a hotel that didn't have a lobby open 24/7. Sure you can't check in, but I'm surprised you couldn't plop down in a seat in the lobby and read or browse on your phone until you could check in.
Let me put things in this perspective.
It's not realistic to expect to be able to put trigger warnings for a large population of strangers on the internet. You're right; when putting it in blanket terms like that, it is silly.
However, there are two things where you could be mindful of others. The first are talking about highly prevalent and violent topics in detail: rape, csa, domestic abuse springs to mind. Things where you probably either know of, or have heard of, someone suffering long term as a direct result of the trauma these events inflict.
But if that's still too broad for you, then you should keep your close friends and family into consideration and talk to them if you know one of them has gone through an extremely difficult life event. If nobody in your personal circle has experienced such things, then like the other commenter said: I'm very happy for you and them. If someone has, then even just saying "Hey do you want a heads up if this topic comes up in our group chat?" is enough. Maybe they'll say yes. Maybe they'll say no. But now you know what their wishes are and can act accordingly with respect to that.
Honestly that's all people really want, I think.
No but Barely Sociable on Youtube did a pretty interesting documentary with some of his own theories on it.
They wouldn't let you chill out in the lobby?
Just finished Unpacking. :) Sweet little game.
What kills me, and it doesn't happen often but I've seen it, is when they can detect the burner card as a 'prepaid' (Privacy particularly) and are like "Sorry we don't allow prepaid cards. Credit or debit only!"
I was just thinking of picking FTL up again. Love that game. Wish there was something very like it out there to sink my teeth into.
Man orange roughy is the best fish, young you had good taste in seafood.
Hey thanks for posting this--both the original post and your own anecdote. I think personal hygiene is something that should be more comfortably chatted about. It's weird cause most people are like "ew TMI" and yeah it can wind up in that space, but at the same time, I think there's a lot of stuff people are lacking in knowledge in just cause it's kind of embarrassing to talk about!
Anyway I think I also had this in my early 20s; at least I hope so. I remember scrubbing harder and harder under my pits and one day seeing something slough off and until recently I've always assumed I killed a bunch of skin and it all came off. But given the symptoms I had been having at the time, I think this might have been it.
I hadn't heard of this before, interesting. Here's the link to wiki if anyone else is interested in learning: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_Internet_theory
Helping me break down annoyingly long/poorly formatted code segments so I can think more clearly about how to troubleshoot them.
Generating meal plan ideas (I generally do my own thing but having it pick out proteins for any given day of the week helps me to mix things up)
Assisting me as a GM in games for the reasons other people have already mentioned. I also have my hands on a module that lets an LLM pose as an NPC and give dialogue when spoken to that is absolutely fantastic when my players want to talk to some random NPC I don't give a shit about.
Those are the biggest and most every day things.
It's not much but I attend the Farmer's Market as much as I can, and I've become familiar with a lot of people there. It's nice, being recognized and recognizing others in my community.
Same hat. Now on the rare occasion my husband has to go somewhere for his job, I'm like "Damn the apartment's so empty."
Friday morning breakfast. Lately I've been making fancy pancakes. Last time was apple cinnamon pancakes with real maple syrup and a honey-vanilla compound butter. It was divine.
Respect and politeness, preach. You love to see it.
Over 11 years at least.
I've never been so interested, so fast, as when you combined those two names.
I thought a rear/backup cam would be nice. I don't know what other options there are that are worth going. If the answer is 'none' then I'm glad I asked :)
Thank you!
Oh bummer, those latter things ARE what I was wanting. That's too bad. I'm not very interested in Android Auto, I'm perfectly content with having my phone on a mount with an aux cord.
It looks like the remote starter and a rear/dash cam combo might be it!
Wow thank you for the comprehensive write up! At this time we won't be getting a new car--my husband and I are squirreling away our money for a down payment in the event we ever find a house, and since both our cars are still in fantastic condition, that takes precedence. But I will save your post, just in case!
When I was a young teen, one of my friends gave me a floppy disk of midi song files she liked a lot but they mostly had names like "ANIME 2" so I had no idea where they came from. There was one on there I was particularly obsessed with but could never find. Then one serendipitous day, I did. It was The Destruction of Laputa from Castle in the Sky.
Edit: Or it was Sora from Escaflowne. There's been a few times I heard an instrumental or non-English song with no source to go off of.
Interacting with local people is definitely a good one. If there are any community events, especially recurrent ones, go there!
Shoot I have a LOT. Documentaries and educational youtube channels are my JAM. If people like my top picks here and want more recs, let me know and I will spill out my list of followed channels.
But the top ones that spring to mind:
Most of Barely Sociable's work (especially the two parter on bitcoin) but of all of his, my absolute favorite is The Dark Side of the Silk Road.
Again, most of Lemmino's works, but particularly Cicada 3301: An Internet Mystery
and honorable mention to Summoning Salt for The Quest to Beat Matt Turk a documentary about the history of Mike Tyson's Punchout speed running.
Oh, good song!
I remember the early internet days when the rule was "don't feed the trolls." Feels like that definitely got lost somewhere.
Chef John's recipes are always spot on; it's rare for me to make something of his I don't like. Sometimes they require a bit of extra effort, but he always tries to make his recipes as accessible as possible, talking about what shortcuts are appropriate.
That's super traumatic! I'm so sorry that happened to you.
If you're talking about users, Salesforce you toggle active/inactive. You actually can't delete them, unfortunately. If you're talking about Contacts, there are probably a number of standard, out of the box fields you could use, but a good setup will have a picklist or a checkbox or whatever you want. You can also delete contacts, but it's a good policy to keep data around for a while and then archive it instead of just deleting stuff straight up.
Am Salesforce admin. Happy to answer any Salesforce related questions.
I am so stupidly addicted to Vampire Survivors right now.
Definitely not now, but before, no. Before I moved out, I was mostly supporting them, using the credit card I opened when I went to college. Took me a long time to work that debt off.