As a highly sensitive person, what I've learned for me is:

1. It takes time - years, even - to understand what happened, and why. Which means there's nothing productive to be done except avoid things you'd regret. Be your best self, even if it's hard as hell. If you care about this person, give them the space they evidently need; and leave the door open to reconnecting later in until you've decided, with a clear head and understanding why, that you'll never eant them in your life.
2. Prioritize caring for your basic mental and physical needs by getting enough sleep, food, exercise, and time outdoors.
3. Treat yourself like you're sick with the flu or a cold. Get rest if you can. Find ways to relax. Give yourself time to heal. Mindless things like TV or videogames can be good. Socializing is also good.
4. Partners can ground us; make us feel secure, taken care of, connected to our world, full of purpose and value, etc. In the long term, without them, you need to re-ground and find things that give you those feelings. I had to come up with a list of things that make me feel connected and worthwhile, then take steps to engage in those. It included creative hobbies and dedicating time to good friends. Finding "myself" and things that felt meaningful took work: self-reflection and journaling, forcing myself to do hobbies until I enjoyed them, and becoming inspired by good art (TV, music) I love. Often our roots are in our upbringing, so it can be good to reconnect with things we loved. Once you have a life without your ex, you don't need them. You don't need any partner as much, for that matter, because what sustains you is more within your power and identity. And that's how future relationships can be made safer, and heartbreak survivable.

The implication of "leave a review!" is they want info on quality to improve service; the twist is they don't care about that, just getting information about you for ad targeting.

Passion. The people here care enough to have not only left Reddit, but to have made a new community here.

Can we call communities "lemlets?"

I'm just waiting for my data export request to come through, then gonna hit the shred button.

I loved my course on patterns. It was tough, but I now regularly feel like I can apply mastery of this tricky subject to my software projects. The course used a variety of techniques:

• Read the seminal Design Patterns book by Gamma et al., for an overview of the concepts.
• Every week, we'd incorporate three patterns into a preexisting XML processor project. My final one had like 25 patterns, which was challenging to keep working amidst refactoring. (You don't have to do them cumulatively, but I enjoyed it.)
• We'd have to ask pattern-specific questions of our classmates in forum threads; and occasionally we'd be assigned to answer some.
• We each wrote up our own pattern. (I designed one based on my experiences handling data exchange between web apps and clients.)

Together, this taught us

• How the patterns could concretely look in practice.
• Pros, cons, and other considerations for each.
• Similaraties, differences, and nuances. (We'd joke that everything was the Template pattern if you squinted.)
• The impact of modifications to the patterns.
• How to recognize, create, hone, collaborate on, and share patterns.

I appreciate this approach because patterns are an inherently fuzzy subject.

What, nine thousand?!

Love this idea. I definitely treat most content lists as an inbox; if I've interacted with it, archive it somewhere unobtrusive in case I need to refer to it later.

Some servers have a c/NoStupidQuestions

Bidet gang arise!

It's more like languages evolved to incorporate the most common idioms and patterns of their ancestors. ASM abstracted common binary sequences. C abstracted common ASM control structures and call stacks. Java leaned hard on object orientation to enable compositional and inheritence-based patterns widely used in C and early OO languages. Python baselines a lot of those patterns, and makes things like the Null Object pattern unnecessary.

Crazy to think. But I'll be damned if it isn't still cool.

Ah yes, I must've used ChatGPT to generate the photos of it being sold in a sealed box. And the ebay account listing. And the receipt.

Jerboa's been working for me. I wonder if it's a background battery / processing permission issue.

I could just make up a receipt from an authorized reseller. What kinda proof is good enough? Do these items degrade in a sealed box? If so, why track the warranty from resale date instead of manufacturing date? If not, photo evidence of a sealed box on sale should be sufficient imo.

The reality is, this sort of resale is common, is hardly more risky than with authorized resellers, and deserves greater consumer protections.

By that logic, I should take it up with the delivery guy; both he and the reseller simply passed-through a sealed product.