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What the actual fuck?! When I read this story a month ago I was furious because they claimed he was out of the car and lunging at them with a knife when they shot him through a closed car window. Mistaking someone for being out of the car and lunging at you when they are inside the car with the window rolled up is not the same as (claiming to) think a knife is a gun. So, you get to lie about what you were scared about and then revise your lie to something more plausible later on? So much fucking bullshit.

Also, it should be noted that the police only "walked back" the statement about him being out of the car when the family went door to door and found ring cam footage that he was in the car. And they had to do this because the police wouldn't share body camera footage with the family.

We have to keep repeating this: These people are terrified of reality and think that it is everyone's job to protect them from the real world. I don't know if it's helpful to use the term "snowflake", but it is apt. Queer people exist in the world. There is no doubt. Trans people exist in the world. The Civil Rights movement occurred and was a big part of US history, as was slavery. If someone's religion says that ham is a sin, we don't ban it from school cafeterias. That, as we say, is a you problem. We have got to start hammering home that these people are afraid of reality and want big government to protect them from it. And we also have to start saying "Tough shit. Grow up. Learn to deal with the rest of the world or hide in your basement. I give zero fucks."

This is one example of how the current criminal justice system prioritizes capitalism over public safety. People who live paycheck to paycheck don't have resources to remove themselves from situations where they know they are in danger. Most people are murdered by people they know, not strangers. This is especially true in terms of women's pay inequality, where this systemic failure makes it harder for women to separate themselves from abusive partners, who often end up killing them. If you want to reduce murders, you need some wealth distribution, not more policing.

You think that you're saying something clever, but you're not. The suffixes "philic" and "phobic" are used in scientific contexts to denote when things are attracted or repelled. Yes, colloquially people use "phobic" to mean fear, but it doesn't always mean that in science. For example, when scientists talk about https://chem.libretexts.org/Bookshelves/Physical\_and\_Theoretical\_Chemistry\_Textbook\_Maps/Supplemental\_Modules\_(Physical\_and\_Theoretical\_Chemistry)/Physical\_Properties\_of\_Matter/Atomic\_and\_Molecular\_Properties/Intermolecular\_Forces/Hydrophobic\_Interactions they aren't saying that the molecules are literally "afraid" of water. They aren't wrong in their language. You are. Homophobic people are repelled by gay people, and so "homophobia" is exactly the correct term.

And, in addition to that, I gather from your replies that you are a straight person. If you consider yourself an ally, or just not a shitty person, then please refrain from reducing a homophobic murder to a semantic game. It's real life for gay people, not a thought experiment for you to exercise your contrarian rhetorical skills. You are not helping.

Editing to add: And, of course, people DO claim fear of gay people as a defense for murdering gay people. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay\_panic\_defense

"A defendant may allege to have found the same-sex sexual advances so offensive or frightening that they were provoked into reacting, were acting in self-defense, were of diminished capacity, or were temporarily insane, and that this circumstance is exculpatory or mitigating."

So, even if you're junvenile semantic games were valid (they aren't), you're wrong. So, again, please take a seat.

The only thing I care about is: Will this be enough to pull critical mass from Twitter? I don't think I'll ever join, because twitter life made me very unhappy, but the sooner journalists and high-volume celebs move off twitter, the sooner it can be relegated to Truth Social 2 and that, I think, will make the world a slightly better place.

Maybe therapy could help you answer that question.

I didn't say they were scared of gay people. I said they were scared of reality, which includes gay people, America's history of racism, global warming, and scientists who know more than they do. These things threaten their identity, which can feel like actual physical danger. Certainly, the powerful and sleazy opportunists have used demonization of out-groups to manipulate the masses since the beginning of time, but I don't think these maniacs screaming about pronouns at schoolboard meetings are pretending at gay panic as a clever ruse while they calmly and knowingly execute a fascism. My husband recently peeked at the facebook of one of his MAGA cousins and she is a maniac. There is nothing strategic about her behavior. She is wrapped up in an ecstasy of hate, driven by fear. It's an old joke, but she is literally terrified that trans Muslims are going to sneak across the border to forcibly inject her with 5G. Literally.

And to be clear: I don't care what is going on in their heads. It is unknowable. What I care about is how they are understood and defined by the ambient culture, and my recommendation is to relentlessly portray them as scared diaper babies desperate for their government daddy to come and save them from the big scary world.

Here's something you may not know: When you are gay, you have to come out constantly. That's why famous people "announce" that they are gay. And let me assure you, gay people do not want to be the constant subject of public debate. We are the constant subject of public debate because people hate us and want us to die. And because people who maybe don't hate us or want us to die are really obsessed with making sure that those people have platforms on social media and other mainstream media platforms. So, if it's really wearing you down to hear about all these different kinds of people, maybe go yell at some bigots and the people who platform them?

I love the line about "we have 30 tools for [preventing this thing that keeps happening from happening] ". It's marketing-speak all the way down. Like, wow! Thirty tools!

We all know what to call you.

People are weird. But also, as an old, the influencer economy is so funny to me. Either they're accepting money/gifts/promotion to "influence" on behalf products, in which case they are just going to stop taking the money? Or they're editorially pure and they're just going to stop supporting a product they have previously genuinely endorsed because more people can enjoy it? It's all dumb.

Really wish we could stop with the "openly gay". If you know somebody is gay, then they are out. If they aren't out, you shouldn't call them gay - with an exception for anti-gay bigots who should be called "probably gay bigot". It's minor thing, but I feel like this terminology fuels the right wing propaganda that gay people could just not exist if we weren't so stubborn.

What is the distribution of athletic performance in volleyball between 14 year olds and an 18 year olds? In high school volleyball, it's perfectly possible for a team made of all 18 year olds who are 6 feet tall to play a team that is all 14 year olds that are 5 feet tall. The idea that without the participation of trans girls, high school volleyball is completely equitable is ridiculous. High school sports are for fun, learning teamwork and discipline, and fitness. Who wins a high school volleyball game is not important. Certainly it's not more important than the health and safety of trans girls - and non-gender-conforming cis girls who have been and will continued to be tortured by laws like this.

In competitive youth swimming, which I did as a child, the age groups are like 11-12, 13-14, 15-16. So, it was possible for someone who was 12 a week ago to swim against someone who turns 15 next week - a HUGE difference in terms of physical development. And if your birthday happens to fall in the weeks before the big championship meet every year, you are always at the bottom or middle of your age bracket for your entire childhood, never at the top. But the specifics don't even matter. Age groups and grade classifications are to try to make things a little more fair so that little kids aren't swimming against basically adults. But it's not in any way perfectly fair. And also, it doesn't matter! Let kids play sports and get the benefits of that activity. Your kid's team winning - or losing - some sports game in 10th grade doesn't matter. Keeping this girl from playing volleyball isn't fixing any problem. In Utah they made a ban and there were literally 4 trans athletes in the entire state. It's culture war bullshit. And people who start quoting bone density studies or whatever are either falling for it or willingly participating in it.

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I don't care who fucks who UNLESS you are trying to make it illegal to have a book that just mentions that gay people exist in a public library. Then who you fuck becomes relevant. And I still don't care who you fuck, but I am only interested in the limited strategic political value it has to embarrass these shitheads. And, yes, conservatives do not care about hypocrisy, but I still think it's good to publicize this kind of thing in case it just subliminally diminishes some of their supporters' enthusiasm, even though it they won't ever actually withdraw their support.

It's a record of birth that you use to verify your identity. Gender doesn't need to be on there at all - "Oh, it says on this birth certificate that you're a boy, so I guess we know for sure that you are indeed Steve Smith!" But if it's on there, it should match the gender that the adult identifies/presents as. There's no reason the DMV needs to know what your genitals were (or, really, what the doctor thought your genitals looked like) when you were born. Imagine any other private information about your physical body being a public record - "We'll start processing your home loan now, Mr. Smith, sorry that you were born without nipples. That's gotta be rough!" It's stupid. And, of course, it's also cruel. But you seem pretty unbothered by that part.

I just happened to be in that Ballard target for the first time last week to get my Covid booster and it was weird. Besides the pharmacy, there were basically no employees. No cashiers, one person who ushered you over to the self-checkout, and two greeters (aka loss prevention). It's just anecdotal observation, but there was no visible sign of, you know, crime problem, i.e. nobody camped out on the sidewalk. But there were also zero customers. That store is tiny for a Target and seemed to have basically the same amount of inventory as a Bartells. For example, we bought a laundry basket while we were there and they just had one style and color (ugly as fuck!). And there is a CVS and a Walgreens basically a block away. And the Target has paid parking. So, I feel pretty confident that this Target was a loser due to bad business decisions.

At my urging, my husband tried making miso caramel and it turned out amazing. Great on ice cream. But also: miso latte

Why would the cops get to decide how quickly people have to leave the stadium? Do you think there is a law that the stadium must be empty exactly 23 minutes after the game? Do you think the cops are experts that were trained on the amount of time that people can safely linger in a stadium after a game? The cops wanted to go home so they abused their authority and then violently assaulted a school band director in front of a bunch of kids.

What made you previously decide not to buy it?

It's sounds like we're fundamentally in agreement, but I don't even see the big deal if every once in a while there is one trans girl playing in a competitive youth league. Sure you could argue that there's only so many spots on the team, so maybe some cis girl who would have made it loses out. But if you're the 20th best player and you get cut because there's one trans girl? I mean, you're the 20th best player, you're probably not going to be at the top of the recruiters list. I just feel like this time is so fraught for trans people. There are so many powerful forces literally trying to destroy them, I really don't think we need to worry about hypothetical potential future slippery slopes in kids athletics. Once trans people feel safe, and ideologues aren't using sports as a wedge issue to promote anti-trans panic, I'm sure we can come up with equitable solutions for these edge cases.

"Speech code" lol. Calm down, Mary.

I don't know anything about the legal details - besides what I've read on the internet, aka RESEARCH - but I unfortunately watched the clip of Junior getting interviewed about his knowledge of GAAP and, in my opinion, the prosecutor laughed and played along with his "jokes" and he of course loved the positive attention and let his guard down. To some degree that seemed like a pretty good "set-up", but just like everything else, in a totally legal and normal to court proceedings way.