I look at it this way: we reveal ourselves by how we treat our helpless opponents.

Perfectly normal to have the emotional response of 'serves her right.' The better person has to stop, set the emotion aside, and ask whether the treatment fits their moral framework. If you can't articulate why a transgendered friend, convicted of some crime, should be cross-housed, then this woman probably shouldn't be, either.

Feeling conflicted is good - it's your rational brain fighting with your emotional brain and winning.

human nature remembers negative experiences much better than positive, so it only takes like 5% assholes before it feels like everyone is toxic.

When her killer walks free, you can riot. I'm not asking for tolerance of intolerance; I'm asking you to treat humans like humans or to justify housing Chelsea Manning or Reality Winner in a men's prison.

I think we really need to know why sports are segregated.

If it's because males have physical advantages over females, then you really want to separate by some kind of size or strength criterion. Weight classes, like wrestling or boxing.

If its because we don't want children titillated by seeing the opposite sex change clothes in the locker room, then you need to come up with some way to address people with same-sex attraction.

If it's just because that's the way sports were when you were a kid, then let the two transgender kids play with the 10,000 cisgender kids.

FINA already bars trans-women who went through male puberty from competing as women, and that seems like a pretty fair compromise. At least until you pile on states trying to ban medical care for transgender youth - i.e. puberty blockers - or other difficulties many trans-youth have in obtaining such care. My understanding is that HRT after puberty doesn't come anywhere close to the biological effects of actual puberty, in terms of strength, size, and speed.

I think the HSA is a big attraction for the GOP - tax advantaged encouragement to get more people investing more money in stocks. Practically, though it also means more people effectively self-insuring. My deductible is $6500, but I'm allowed to put $3500 into HSA, so 2 years' HSA savings covers the deductible. Fine, for individuals that are reasonably healthy, but it reduces the pool of money that insurers have to pay benefits to people who do have claims.

Essentially incentivizing individuals to sabotage the system.

I would not be surprised if this is an experiment to see the effect of killing API on the event. I mean, really, not many accounts have left reddit (a lot have showed up on lemmy/kbin, but a small fraction of reddit), and I remember a lot of complaints of bots in the last place. It's just 3 months since the last one, so they should get great data on the effect of API charges on their bot access.

Another non-marginalized person here.

Restricted spaces are necessarily smaller than non-restricted. Less content. Less interaction. Less everything. If hateful content is really rampant, then that can be a valid tradeoff, but separate systems are never equal, and it is always the minority/marginalized system that suffers. You've described exactly why: "I would find a new instance and continue to be receptive to LBGT+ discussions that come up on Lemmy."

As I look elsewhere in this thread, the comments I see people reference as "against Beehaw goals" are just people being rude assholes, not misogynist, racist, or homo-/trans-phobic. Creating a space where everyone is polite and universally friendly seems a very different objective than creating a space where marginalized people feel safe. If that - universal friendship - is the real goal, then Beehaw very definitely needs to close off interactions with non-vetted, pseudonymous users, and accept that it will look like a virtual ghost town. In that case, it doesn't matter whether it stays with defederated-by-default lemmy or moves to some other forum platform.

The middle ground, where you accept that some people are just rude, but still provide a forum where marginalized people feel they can share their experiences without threats or repercussions, needs strong, active, focussed moderation. Have to be able to block users and communities from other instances, delete posts/comments that originate from other instances, and do local moderation of communities hosted on other instances. Have to have enough moderators to respond quickly to user reports, and probably an automod-like system to catch serious issues before users do. It sounds like that is not within the current capabilities of lemmy. So, I can see why the admins think that the lemmy framework is incompatible with their objectives. Probably, a lot of the people who joined post-Reddit are incompatible and uninterested in those objectives.

I can see where the lemmy framework worked when no one used it, and I can see why it would immediately fail in the face of hundreds of thousands of new users. If millions are coming, it will only get worse. No doubt, the admins are aware that they'll lose 80, maybe 90% of their userbase if they leave Lemmy, but it's not so long ago that their userbase was only 10-20% of what it is today.

If I lose this little window into cultures I would not otherwise see, I will be a lesser person for it, but I can accept that it was not meant for me in the first place.

I mean, if you're a Nazi, the new Xitter is definitely a better experience. He knows exactly to whom he's pandering, which is how you get invited back to Fox. There's going to be a lot of competition for the segment of MAGA that loves the fascism and xenophobia, but worries that Trump is too toxic to win big cities.

I thought Apple was on to something with their cylindrical form factor. It's inconvenient from a mobo perspective, but a central core motherboard, with CPU, GPU, even memory and M2 sticking out like fins. Get the mobo down to segments like 25mm x 250, and stack the whole thing over a massive -like 250-350 mm- low rpm fan would be great for heat management and noise. Heck, put it in a venturi tunnel driven by a 500mm fan.

It's just part of the code. "Globalist" is often especially about Jewish banking families, eg Rothchilds or Soros. Similar to how "urban" in the US is often code for 'black,' even though most of the people who live in urban areas are white. Dog whistles: words that communicate specific meaning within a community without being recognized by the larger population.

Who are these kids under 20 with $14,000 to give out to scammers? Retirees with a spare $35k, I believe, but I'd really like to see the distribution for both. I'm guessing the means and medians are very different.

It sounds like his teacher thinks games should be evaluated for their development of tension and consistent messaging. It sounds like they would penalize a game for having a story with twists and surprises, because those either break messaging consistency or deflate tension. And, of course, quicksaves are evil.

I can kind of see where they're coming from, but it feels like a very academic, navel-gazing place, akin to pretentious art critics talking about color, composition, and allusion to past masters, or a film critic talking about Dutch angles and long takes. Things that may contribute to the artistic quality and even the enjoyment of a piece, but are not components that us rubes actively look for. The fact they try to lump BG3, soccer, and chess all together under one system of evaluation tells me that they're going to use some really bizarre criteria.

No doubt. Enjoy your video games the way you want to enjoy them. I picked up RDR2 again recently, got to the point where you're supposed to break Micah out of prison, and I'm just like, fuck that guy. I'm going hunting and playing dress-up.

6 million registered voters didn't even bother. One could argue that they're just fine with, if not enthusiastic about, the current state of affairs. 4 million votes for, 3 million against, 6 million "Meh."

It's almost like luck and nepotism are more important for success than ability.

10 carrots is something like 1.5-2 pounds/0.75-1 kg. I can eat a good bit of carrot-ginger soup, but a quart of soup every day for weeks? I think I'd have other health effects before I started glowing orange.

I mean, BMI was openly developed, is systematically calculated and described, has been open to evaluation by experts for decades, and has been part of hypothesis development for similar decades. It is, in fact that systematic study that revealed where its use as an estimator or predictor of health had been overstated.

When science falsifies a model, it does not retroactively make the model pseudoscience.

Yes. US elementary school in the 1970s. Can't remember how high they wanted us to climb, but it was a 2 story gym.

It's not just the people in power, though. When I look at primaries, where people actually have some hope of affecting outcomes, they consistently vote for the worst people. I mean, it's hard for normal-ish people to even get to through the party structure to get on the ballot, and then they just get crushed. In 2020, Dems could have had Bernie, Warren, Buttigieg, even Klobuchar, but Biden won pretty handily. That's on people people.

Standard rice cooker uses magnetism to turn off. The steel bowl loses its magnetic attraction when it gets hot - like 400 oC - and it can't get that hot when there's water. Basically, they go full blast until the water boils off, then shut down. As long as the cooker is pretty full, the residual water/steam in the rest of the rice will bring the whole bowl back to 100 oC pretty fast and rehydrate any of the bottom layer that got crispy. If you run a conventional rice cooker under-loaded, you're more likely to get stuck/burned bottom.

I have a cheap, 4 cup rice cooker, but I usually make just 1 cup at a time. Unplug it after 7-12 minutes and it won't burn. I're pretty forgiving. I've used rice cookers from the little 4-cup to big 5-pound commercial cookers. Rice, water to the fingernail/1st joint, go. It's amazing. If you cook rice regularly, just get one.

This is just an extended rationalization for apathy. I'm sorry to say, but government is boring. Politicians are boring. An exciting politician is probably trying to sell you a line of unrealistic, unachievable bullshit, and in the system the US has, by the time it gets down to the general election, your choices are Donkey, Elephant, and several flavors of Don't Care. You can have more excitement and a greater sense of choice in the primaries, but voting twice in a year is too much work for even many 'political' people.

If positive messaging got people to the polls, I guarantee you would see positive campaigning: even 10% of the non-voters would be enough to swing any competitive race.

There's definitely an arms race - if it's cheaper to pay an SEO to get your pages shown, then you pay the SEO; if it's cheaper to pay Google advertising, then you pay to play. I'm sure Google is constantly tweaking their algorithm to filter SEO techniques to get better, authentic results, but it seems like a losing battle at this point.

Got a cabinet in similar state: got the doors cut, fitted and filled, just need the hinges. But the doors will stay if you lean them and maybe a little wedge. They've been like that since July. 2002.

Yeah. https://www.educationnext.org/remembering-nation-risk-reflections-politics-policy/

Abolish the Department of Education. School choice vouchers. Standardized testing. All these memes started with Reagan. Not Regan, his Secretary of Treasury, but a lot of people confused Ronald Reagan and Donald Regan, even at the time.

No sweat, friend. I was just using the opportunity to extend the "It's all Reagan's fault" train. And Donald Regan was a real guy appointed by Ronald Reagan. They didn't have the diversity of names we do now, so a lot of them repeated, rhymed, or required a middle initial to differentiate. Like all the George Bushes - GWB, GPB, GHWB...

Recently saw a video where the boss of a contracting company, apparently a good guy, looking out for his employees and honestly trying to help everyone prosper from their shared work, explained that he hired new people at the 10th percentile wage from BLS statistics for their job description, raised them to median after six months, and eventually worked them up to 90th percentile over a few years.

On the one hand, making sure his people are paid a fair wage for their work. On the other, participating in an information sharing scheme to fix wages. BLS data is generally a year out of date, so he's actually paying people last year's wage, but the sense of implicit collusion only increases as the data becomes closer to real time.

Glad the Biden administration is closing the loophole, but I'm skeptical that it will really work in today's information-rich environment.

Dunno if I qualify as a problem drinker, but was a daily drinker for decades. I've cut back a lot lately, but there's some things that just go better, as a whole experience, with beer. Spicy noodles. Pizza. Whether through actual aesthetics or years of training, it's hard to imagine a nice slice of pizza without a beer. NA beer is a legit substitute, for me, and I can have one NA beer without immediately wanting a second.

Onion & carrots, anywhere from 1:2 to 1:1 by weight, boil in just enough water to cover, grate in some fresh ginger, salt, puree. Add more water if it's too thick. Throw in some chicken bouillon if you like.

If it's the control you find clunky, Kodi does support LIRC, and USB infrared receivers are like $20. You should be able to convince it to listen to your TV or universal remote for menu navigation, volume, etc, which will make it feel a lot like a normal/smart TV. I use the Kore app on my phone.

But UI is the Achilles heel of most open source software.

People who don't realize they're trans until adulthood aren't really the target for people making rules for high school sports. Even college - if you're a competitive men's athlete, only to realize in your junior year that you're trans - do you just give up on the men who've been your team mates and peers for years and try to form new relationships with the women's team (if there even is a women's team in your sport)?

We're whittling down what was already a small minority of trans athletes to essentially unique hypothetical individuals. I don't really think it's possible to make rational rules to address every possible set of circumstances with such a poorly understood phenomenon. Best you can do is offer some guidelines, and minimizing distortions due to sexual dimorphism is a decent guideline. If there's a male not beyond the size of competitive females, then that trans-woman seems fair to play with cis-women. If she's the size of Jason Momoa because she's been playing football as a man for 20 years, I doubt that a course of HRT will make her any less overpowering to competitive cis-women.

Maybe it's just a sacrifice she will have to make, to postpone her medical transition and keep playing football, or begin her transition and accept that it will cost her the starting position on the men's team without access to an equivalent women's team. I mean, few of us can have everything we want, and most competitive athletes have to sacrifice some other aspects of their identity to be competitive.

Not to mention the subjectivity of what "7" means. I've tallied enough judges ratings to know that some people treat 5 as average, some people treat 8 as OK, and some treat anything below 7 as failing.

There's mythtv, but it's significantly more complicated than kodi and doesn't have the streaming plugins. IME, mythtv makes a nice backend for Kodi, especially if you want to capture live TV OTA/cable. For just watching stuff, Kodi is great. It doesn't really honor any file hierarchy you might set up under its "Movies" or "Music" tabs, but you'll find that structure preserved in "Browser."

I've found OSMC, which is just a dedicated OS wrapper around Kodi, a little wonky, but that could be just me. I'm used to ssh-ing in to systems to maintain them, and it took me a long time to understand OSMC's connman network manager. I think it's probably fine if you intend to interact only though Kodi's on-screen controls, but osmc feels like a 'weird' linux. Doesn't even log to /var/log/syslog

In the 4(?) days since I got my first anti-adblock popover, I've completely stopped watching random videos. My few favorite channels I've watched in incognito without harrassment, and the only thing I've noticed is having more time for other things.

If those content providers were on some other platform, I'd go there, but that's honestly asking a lot of them for a small slice of their subscribers.

Car insurance is to pay for the damage your accident does to other people. You probably have the optional coverage that also pays for damage to your own car, but that's not why insurance is legally required. You can get repair insurance, but it's generally 'not worth it,' because no one gets it, leading to a small premium pool and minimal risk spread. Kind of like low premium, high deductible plans do for health insurance.

I think it comes down to whether a game's mechanics are satisfying and whether the game is open enough to continue. Sandbox games like Stardew or NMS you can fire up, tend your machines or crops for an hour or so, and stop, like watching a rerun of your favorite show. Skyrim isn't technically a sandbox, but similar, you can jump in, run a couple dungeons or repeating quests, and it's just nice. No new controls or mechanics to learn, no wishing I had better gear. Like noodle soup on a cold day.

Skyrim's been out for 12 years. 250 hours isn't even a half hour a week. Not even 2 hours a month. Stardew Valley is 7 years old. 250 hours is barely 45 minutes a week. It really doesn't take that much to rack up some serious hours.

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Also love this post, but I can't help noting the irony of a thread begging people to 'sell' a product on a platform that famously opposes advertising. In fact, thinking about it, there are a lot of "what are you playing now," "what should I play next," "what's your favorite..." threads on most of the gaming c/'s I've seen. Like, in the absence of advertising, people are just begging to be told what's new, exciting, and available, as though it's more meaningful coming from a pseudonymous internet stranger than a declared corporate minion. Real opinions or astroturf? Who's to say.

Lean in to that, fam. I'm visualizing a flag sporting a toucan beak with a red dot in the middle over the word BEEXIT. Every revolution needs a flag.

This only gets worse as you move up the org chart and the duties & skills become more nebulous. If your job has "mentoring" rather than "training," then it's really hard to build skills remotely.

It's not a hardship, though. I'm healthy with no chronic conditions, and I've made the specific choice to go with a HDHP to get the HSA, which I treat like a pre-tax Roth IRA. If some catastrophe happens, it'll be easier to pay for surgery out of the HSA than a real Roth, but I don't expect to see doctors until Medicare. I don't even pay for glasses out of the HSA, because its future value is too great.

This is a perfectly rational individual choice to maximize my personal benefit, but it is terrible policy at the population level. It means there are less resources available for the small minority of people who do have expensive health issues, because I'm diverting my insurance premiums into a retirement fund. This is a recurring theme in right wing policy - it's fine for people whose lives have no major complications, and people with special circumstances are too few to consider. You have to look out for yourself, and a few people will fall through the cracks, which is a borderline sociopathic attitude.