fka u/the_itsb, aka the_itsb@beehaw.org, the_itsb@midwest.social, the_itsb@lemmy.world, the_itsb@sh.itjust.works 41f artsy ADHD married to 42m machine whisperer, teen son trans & also ADHD. We do outdoor equipment & small engine repair at our home just outside Athens, OH.
My kid is in high school, and they communicate about emergencies through text, email, and automated calls. There are lots of jobs, especially low-paying ones, that will not let you check your phone during your shift, and they're certainly not going to be okay with you leaving early to go pick up your kid. If the choice is "leave to pick up kid (who you know is safe with teachers), get fired," versus "leave kid (who you know is safe with teachers), keep job," it's pretty simple math.
Am I the only person who is insanely turned on by that sentence??? I'm going to make my husband whisper it in my ear tonight 😂
conservative apologist
Isn't he just a conservative? I know he likes to pretend that Trump gave him serious distaste for some of the more extreme parts of modern conservatism, but - considering the blood on Frum's hands - I'm not buying it. Am I getting him confused with a different Bush speech writer or perhaps a different Iraq war cheerleader?
I'm a simple lady; I recognize the vague outlines of a joke, so I upvote.
Anybody else flatly refusing to learn more about kissing bugs? That name combined with the death toll gives me thorough heebie-jeebies.
His ex-wife did ask him to buy and kill Twitter:
"Can you buy Twitter and then delete it, please!? xx" Riley allegedly texted Musk on March 24. "America is going INSANE."
🤷
This is a really impressive paint job. I zoomed in to look for evidence of pitting on the metal because the shading and distribution of the "rust" is so convincing. I love it!
feel less anxiety and am less prone to anger
This is a huge one for me, too. I managed my transition to a new provider poorly and am consequently out of medication, and I have so much less tolerance for other people and their bullshit. It took conscious effort to not be cunty with a store employee the other day when he had the temerity to interrupt my search of a shelf for a thing to offer to help with my search. 😂 It wasn't until I was relaying the story to my husband that I went from "can you fucking believe that asshole" to "can you fucking believe what an asshole I am omfg." 🤦
I very nearly replied to his second, "What are you looking for?" with "None of your fucking business!!" 😂🤦 jfc. I just ignored him instead, which I'm sure was also offensive.
I just can't go out into public after mid-morning until I get more medication, I am a menace. 😂
Clean towel, foil potato, can't lose?
According to this informative video about the "super El Niño" we're heading into, next year is going to be worse. Less easily dismissed, not that it'll help. If we get any kind of extreme weather this winter before next year's even hotter summer, that'll be fodder for them, too. As we all know, anytime it snows, that proves climate change is a myth. 🙄
I love that you found your ikigai!! 🥰 I helped my husband find his in small engine repair and vintage garden tractor restoration, and I'm working on figuring out my own in the administrative and creative stuff I do for our business.
A few years ago, I found this ikigai diagram, printed it, and hung it up in the bathroom where it's visible from the shower, and I think seeing that every day has fueled our shift to self-employment and community engagement.
They’re called a kissing bug because they tend to target the lips and face, as they’re active at night and that’s typically what’s exposed when people are sleeping.
This is the second-worst news you could have given me on this subject, the first-worst being "and they're in your pillows right now."
I hoped to get some "fuck yeah, let's never learn about those bastards TOGETHER!" in response but feared I would get informative replies like yours. I pine for my ignorance.
They also only got the Supreme Court to agree to their extremely sketchy August date for the election along party lines.
Really rich, lovely quote from the article linked:
In fact, the Ohio Legislature explicitly banned August elections (except in very limited circumstances) in its omnibus election law that was enacted earlier this year. Ironically, the Legislature did so at the behest of LaRose who stated that “August special elections generate chronically low turnout because voters aren’t expecting an election to occur. This is bad news for the civic health of our state.”
It's fucking gross. My husband and I went in person to the Board of Elections to vote early, and we were heartened to see the steady trickle of people coming in mid-morning on a weekday.
I don't dispute for a second that Elon's an idiot, but his ex-wife did ask him to buy and kill Twitter:
"Can you buy Twitter and then delete it, please!? xx" Riley allegedly texted Musk on March 24. "America is going INSANE."
Maybe it's not 3D chess but just transparent - yet effective! - stupidity. Buying Twitter was fiscally foolish, but it does seem like he's gonna kill it, so 🤷
My mom was in the hospital over Thanksgiving, and I cannot fathom the devastation I would have felt if I had come home from all the stress and difficulty there and discovered my beloved little buddy was gone; to say my heart breaks for you sounds hyperbolic, but I've got tears in my eyes typing this. I am so sorry.
Oh yeah, making the list is going to be a pain in the ass! For mine, I started a little note for it in my phone, and every time I came across an ADHD thing while internetting that made me think "omg me too!" I would put it on the list. I also sorta "cheated" to get started by looking at lists of symptoms and problems and coping strategies and copying anything that was relevant to me. I think it helped that I didn't set out to get it all down at once, I just added to it here and there as I thought of things while doing other things, and it grew.
Here's some of mine, maybe this can help you get the ball rolling?
Symptoms in Adulthood:
Attempts to help self:
It's like I have to fight against my brain to be able to do the minimum necessary effort at the things I *need *to do for work, at home, etc. And all of the things I want to do but don't strictly need to, like hobbies, passions, career aspirations and such, there's simply no mental effort or focus left for most of them most of the time. I constantly feel like I'm not able to focus on anything, I can't perform at my best, always procrastinating, always having to focus all of the little focus I have on simply managing to stay afloat, always drained, always stressed, always overwhelmed with everything. Always feeling guilty for slacking off and being "lazy". Feeling like I'm wasting my life, unable to do things which I really, really want to do but for whatever reason can't bring myself to focus on.
This is classic ADHD and is obviously taking a toll on you! I relate so much. I was able to kinda keep it together in that same way until I got pregnant a little over 16 years ago, then the hormonal changes and the mental burden of caring for a child absolutely wrecked my ability to mask at all, but I didn't get diagnosed until a few months ago.
If you felt like you generally had a good rapport with that doctor, it might be worth going back to emphasize these aspects of your struggle and the toll they're taking on your life and health, but if you didn't have a good vibe from the doctor, see someone else.
I found it very helpful to prepare a list of all the ways I was struggling, including anything I was doing to mask my struggles. I used to be late for everything and forget appointments, but now every event in my calendar has 5 notifications in the lead up so I can't forget (1 week, 1 day, 12 hours, 4 hours, 1 hour). I bet you've developed similar systems that seem excessive to outside observers but totally sensible to your fellow ADHD'ers, and talking to your doctor about the ways your coping strategies cause their own difficulties and burdens might help them realize that you're genuinely doing everything you can but still need help.
"ran out of medication" me sneaks up on "functional and medicated" me
They live in most of the US
THIS IS PRECISELY WHAT I DIDN'T WANT TO KNOW 😂
dammit
the_itsb = the Ill-Tempered Sea Bass, and though it's a batfish and not a sea bass, I've always thought this guy conveys the ill-tempered part beautifully.
Who I actually am as a person is a little more like some kind of crab. There's the strawberry crab, who is "small, brightly-colored ... known to be quite toxic," which sounds just like me without medication. 😂 And then there's the black-eyed hermit crab, who "often inhabits shells left by massive moon snails ... often covered with colorful pink anemone-like hydroids, making this critter even cuter."
That's beautiful work!! I love that you used paint with texture, it really sells the aged look. Great job!
I suspect you might be joking and I just didn't get it, but just in case - do your ducks actually respond to verbal cues??
I have friends with ducks, and another friend who tried to have ducks this spring and lost them all to predation, and I know they would all love to be able to get their ducks to get to bed on time.
The original Rice Krispies Treats cereal was the best. The current is a pale imitation and lacks the depth of flavor the original had - it wasn't overly sweet, and it had a perfect balance of vanilla and puffed rice flavor that is hard to explain.
This is genius! I'm so excited to tell my friends, thank you so much for this tip!
Those ears! 😍 I wonder what it's like to be able to hear mouse farts and bird burps?
There's something tricksy about their faces, like maybe they're the kinda guys who might try to hide extra rows of razor-sharp teeth behind the cute front ones. Big chaotic neutral energy!
🤗 I hope it helps, and even more, I hope you get the care you need. Diagnosis and medication made a huge difference in my life, most importantly in how I think of myself. Doing anything I can do to help anyone else on that road feels really good, because it's as much an act of self-compassion as it is an act of service.
The fail whale!! 😍 What a cute and fun way that was to get an error! I had forgotten all about that but knew this image reminded me of something.
OP, this is awesome! The color and texture of the balloons, the expressive pose - it all adds up to something really special. Great work!!
They remind me of Flareon! 😍
(double posted but getting error when trying to delete)
It's not a wall of text when it has paragraph breaks, and I read every word of that comment.
Communities are better when we're respectful and kind to each other. Idk what's going on with your day to make you lash out here, but if you need a friendly person to talk it over with, I'm here.
Can you even imagine how anyone involved felt?!? The exultation and relief of the researchers when they not only didn't accidentally kill their patient but fixed him, the mind-blowing reality that he can move again as it sinks into the patient's brain.... !!!! I cry about every overwhelming emotion, good or bad, and I don't think I'd be able to stop crying for weeks.