Extreme Misogyny in Incels Probably Not Caused by Sexual Frustration

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Why do you suppose dating is worse now?

Globalization and social media

Just read the articles on Tinder, it's a sad affair for the not attractive man

When all men you had access to where the village boys you won't be that picky. Once the whole world can sext you, why settle for the ok dude that looks nice in a suit if you squint enough?

It goes both ways for "not attractive" women as well.

This is purely anecdotal, but all of the "not attractive" men I have known who complain there's no women online for them are only talking about women who are more attractive than them. The ones who don't complain have realistic standards and can find matches. It also tends to help they don't have s shit attitude.

But it's still a numbers game. More attractive people get more matches, but that doesn't mean those are quality matches. I guess if all you're looking for is casual sex it makes a difference.

It goes both ways for “not attractive” women as well

It does not, unless you mean "grotesquely not attractive"? Just read the articles, women are ruthless when rating men, so even "average" men can't get "average", or less-than, women (online dating)

But it’s still a numbers game

You are underestimating the numbers by too much

most online dating apps want you to engage in casual sex and not find success because then you'll keep coming back. TInder, Bumble, etc. are first and foremost hookup apps and it's important to remember that.