Please help: What's your take on woman drinking guy's beer without asking after he starts dancing with her?
Please be kind with me as I am new to this platform. I was at a club when a very handsome guy, totally my type, started dancing with me. I don't know what gave me the courage to take the half finished beer from his hand and take a sip of it without asking. I then gave his beer back to him, and he said he had to go but will be right back. It was an excuse to stop dancing with me since he just stayed put in his friend group without going anywhere. I've been feeling really bad after that happened and would have danced the night away with him if I could. And now I have no idea what his name or phone number is, just keep replaying that night in my mind.
What is your opinion on a woman taking a man's beer and having a sip without asking? Is it such an awful gesture that his sudden rejection was warranted? Was he angry, scared off, or just thought I was easy? I am not that type of person and had no ill intentions whatsoever. I just acted on natural impulse and was trying to be flirtatious. Thank you for any advice and comfort.
It's gross. I don't want to make you feel insulted, so I'm going to try to be gentle with this, but if a girl drank my beer without asking I'd think that she has poor boundary recognition and that her... hygiene preferences, are incompatible with mine. It would be an immediate and massive turnoff.
I'm sure some people like that, but even if I did like it, it would be a red flag that you did it without asking.
If you're flirting with her, chances are you're going to end up kissing anyway, which is a lot less "hygienic". If you don't feel like doing that, the interest would probably not be mutual?
I kissed my partner once and it was super gross. I needed to wash my mouth right away. I only did it because it made my partner happy, and I'm glad I did it, but ew. I like sex much better than kissing because I know how to have sex without involving any fluids. Anyway, if a girl kissed me without consent I would be equally concerned.
Really? The things I like about sex the most involve my mouth too 😅
I didn't realise some people don't like kissing! I always assumed everyone liked it. For me it's always a huge turn on.
I have kissed my partner on the body lots and lots of times, and I'm okay with that because the only fluids involved are mine. My partner isn't allowed to kiss me back unless I'm really feeling strong and hardy that day, and not on the mouth. It's allowed to bite me, though. Biting feels a lot more natural and a lot less violent.
Do you have your partner do a proper scrubbing before that? Because otherwise, I have some bad news for you... but not sure you'd want to hear them.
I agree to a point, I think if there were clear indications such as: eye contact, glancing at the drink and smiling and making more eye contact, gently reaching for it, maybe hand contact then glass contact.
That said, I think having it be offered rather than taking would be generally more receptive