How useless are dating apps?

BlowMe@lemmy.world to Asklemmy@lemmy.ml – 38 points –

... Or useful. Because I entered badoo and it ask for an expensive fee just to talk with anyone.

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Should we examine your profile?

Your username here is blow me, how is your dating app presence?

Are you putting up any red flags, without realizing it?

I'm the boring nature type, I don't have anything in my name, live with my family, but I'm loyal and respectful enough with the people I care. Isn't that enough?

I'm not even physically ugly.

Harsh truth: No, it's not enough. You have to convince somebody that their life will be better with you in it. Loyalty and respect are requisites for a good romantic relationship, not the reasons to get into one.

I guess that is it.

Another harsh truth that I learned from existentialist writers, especially Albert Camus, is that we are cursed with freedom. How we choose to deal with what the world gives us is entirely up to us, and refusing to choose is also a choice. If we choose not to try to be somebody worth having as a partner, well, that is a choice.

I also understand depression, and that making that effort may not be possible. Then, healthy alternative is to affirmatively make the choice not to try, and to own it. Sometimes, people call this, "owning your shit ." Paradoxically, it helps a lot by putting you back in control of your own life, instead of feeling like the universe's chew toy.

So, listen to me or not. It's your choice.

The world is shit and I'm done. I understand.

Do you understand? Do you own that decision as your personal choice? I ask because posts like this one indicate otherwise.

I don't, that's not my decision. I just exist and the world won't accept someone like me. I can't do anything about it.

So your decision is to feign helplessness. I can only point this out, but it is your life and your decision to make.

I’m loyal and respectful enough with the people I care. Isn’t that enough?

Nope, you need to actually meet people, do stuff, talk, go places etc. Simply existing and "being nice" is not enough.