Why do I get a strange, yet comforting feeling when I stop in quiet places

DreitonLullaby@lemmy.ml to Asklemmy@lemmy.ml – 108 points –

I find it extremely difficult to articulate what I mean. I've gotten this feeling throughout my entire life, even when I was a child, and I'm sure there must be many others who've experienced it; I just can't find any mention of it online.

I'll give you an example. Sometimes you might be going from place to place, doing your own thing. When you're done with whatever you were doing, you just... stop ... and take in your surroundings. Suddenly the quietness around you seems to give you a tingling, comforting feeling that's quite honestly a beautiful feeling.

I'm 22, and I've been getting this throughout my entire life; and heck, I even get it when playing videogames (particularly open-world games), if they're immersive enough. The most common place I get this feeling in the real world is when I've been travelling in a car for a while (I don't drive currently, usually it's my mother driving me), and we reach our destination: The car stops; the engine turns off; the music on the radio goes silent, and I'm in no rush to hop out. For some reason this feeling rushes over me; it feels similar to butterflies and goes through my upper legs and stomach; even in my upper arms for some reason, but is all very comforting.

My earliest memory with it (although I know I had it years prior to this), was one day when I was 7-9 yrs old. I remember it quite vividly, actually. I don't remember where I had come from (probably school or something), but my Mum had been driving me for what felt like quite a while. She pulled into our front driveway and stopped. The engine shut off; the radio went silent. It felt calming, and I didn't get out of the car because I was just appreciating and enjoying the feeling of sitting in the quietness, with the subtle ticking sound coming from the cars engine you tend to hear when turning it off, just outside. My Mum said to me, something along the lines of "Why aren't you hopping out, Liam?". I don't remember what I said in response, but I definitely had no idea how to explain the reason to her; I find it difficult to even explain now as a young adult.

Now, I've managed to learn where and when to just "stop", and have this feeling come over me, like second-nature, but I still find that I can't well explain when or how it happens with words; that's why this post is so long.

As I said earlier, I also sometimes get this feeling when playing videogames. One of my favourite games of all time is The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild (The sequel, too). It's an open-world game where you can travel to almost every single nook and cranny of the land of Hyrule, on foot or by horse. One of the things I absolutely love the most, is just walking around the world, exploring, and taking it all in. I don't care about defeating every single monster in every single enemy campsite across the world, or getting from place to place in the shortest time possible, or finding the most powerful loot or weapons; I just like to immerse myself in the world, like I'm actually there. And that feeling I described: I get it around almost every single corner, especially in out-of-the-way places like the top-edges of cliff-faces, where people in Hyrule never visit. In fact, I can give you an example: I was watching IGN's video of the game from 2016 when it was still in development (video link is timestamped to where I want to show you), and because I had been watching this gameplay video for the past 20 minutes, I was very immersed and relaxed in the game world. As soon as the player climbed up to this rock that was protruding out of the cliff-face, he immediately turned around to stop and take a look at the view in the distance, due to being so high up. I immediately, immersed, had that feeling come over me again, and it felt so nice; as it always does.

Is there name for this? If so, what is this called? There has to be some kind of psychology behind all of this.

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Your description is consistent with frisson and/or ASMR.

As an example, if I am trudging through deep snow, especially during a windless snowfall, especially in a wood, and especially at night, I can reliably trigger it by standing very still and breathing in the silence.

It's not the same thing as this, but frission and ASMR is nice; they just produce a completely different feeling to what I'm referring to (usually tingling in the actual skin)

The feeling I'm talking about feels similar-ish to butterflies, but it goes through the legs and arms too, and feels calming rather than nerve-racking, and it leaves you wanting to remain in the moment and continue to appreciate it.

The feeling I’m talking about feels similar-ish to butterflies, but it goes through the legs and arms too, and feels calming rather than nerve-racking, and it leaves you wanting to remain in the moment and continue to appreciate it.

That is how many describe certain types of asmr, and that’s how it manifests for me in moments of silence and serenity. I would add radiant warmth in the extremities and the feeling that my senses are reaching out into the darkness.

Regardless asmr (and to a lesser extent, frisson) is an overarching category of a variety of sensations one may experience given different external or internal stimuli, rather than a single isolated sensation one experiences while doing a particular thing (e.g. listening to asmr yt videos). These sensations are characterized simply as forms of pleasurable paresthesia with some element of euphoria or eudaimonia (sense of wellbeing).

I understand, but that's not what my experience with ASMR is like. I don't get anything like butterflies from it, I just get enjoyment and often an almost "tickling" sensation in my ears. But it's completely separate to the feeling I'm talking about. And besides that, I'm capable of getting the feeling mentioned in the post from my environment in a noisy environment, it's just uncommon.

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Almost sounds like goosebumps from music that touches something, like a full body primal tingle

Probably, most people will give you answers from a psychological point of view. And probably most people will downvote me. But I encourage you to inquire this aspect of your being from a spiritual perspective. This may be a thread that could lead you somewhere. Have you learned buddhist/mindfulness meditation for example? (This is not necessarily "spiritual", though, but it is certainly beneficial). There are other realities/worlds happening and you may here have something that connects you to that. Keep deepening into this! Congratulations for being aware of it.

I'm a Christian and believe in the existence of spirit, so I agree this is probably something spiritual.

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