Beehaw is just... doing their own thing. They even removed down votes. Like Tildes, they have a specific vision of community and are going against the grain to cultivate it.
I can't say that I agree with Beehaw's direction and decision to defederate. But that's a feature of both Lemmy and Beehaw's vision of community. Some vocal minority of people are taking it too seriously because they are treating Lemmy as normal social media and perceiving this all as slights. We don't need to be tribalistic. And, if one does want to be tribalistic, they are free to go try and join one of the cut-off tribalistic instances like Beehaw. I have an account there and... it does feel different. Lemmy in general is calmer and more prone to high quality interactions. Beehaw is, too. But Beehaw is the "this is a Christian Minecraft server!!" of Lemmy at the moment.
Can't forget the part where his personal YouTube channel also has an extensive watch list ("videos to make your noggin' bigger" or something similar) full of full-on anti-semitic conspiracy theories. Such as Jews secretly orchestrating 9/11.