Have an appointment tomorrow. Don't know if it constitutes legal discrimination, but I'm almost tempted to bring it even if it's not a slam dunk. They care so much about reputation a lawsuit would hurt them more than I ever could.

As a trans girl, I get a lot of interest from other trans girls, so it checks out for me.

Thank you. Already had a meeting scheduled with a lawyer tomorrow.

I just wanted to do some good. I didn't even get a chance to pass off my patients.

Anyone. It isn't about my physical characteristics. I just want to help people and instead I just get ridiculed and critiqued. I'm tired of being alone and sad. My cat is the only reason I haven't killed myself, and I don't know how much longer he can hold that dam.

I'm working to set up connections to folks in Canada that will be willing to relocate LGBTQ folks across the border.

Grindr. Cause I'm sure you want to see the ads, lol

Just want to comment on the "trap is ok/not ok debate."

It's totally cool if you or your partner(s) identity as a trap. As an older trans girl, being a trap was a badge of honor. It meant not only do you pass, but you're fucking hot. Almost like a trap/not trap distinction of attractiveness (which is also horribly misogynistic and demeaning), but it was a qualifier.

So I get it, part of me likes the idea of being called that - in a private, contextual sense. But the problem is the word and the connotation it has in the general zeitgeist, which implies that a trans person (typically a trans woman) "tricks" a man into having sex with her, and then deserves whatever happens to her, regardless of how dehumanizing it may be.

It is the horrible, completely unjustifiable rationale behind the Panic Defense, and that's why it is a term that needs to be buried. Continued use of it is an unconscious signal that trans women are perpetrating some kind of deception just by existing in a man's field of vision (if, of course, she comes close enough to cis white heteronormtive standards of beauty).

Be woke. Don't say trap (except in the bedroom. And then smack my ass a little 😋).

Your typo gave me the mental image of my cat as an autobot. 10/10

I don't think it helps the manager I reported to doesn't work with trans patients, and I only saw her when I needed something (like an IT request). Definitely put her subconscious interpretation of me as "someone needy".

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I'm trans and work in Healthcare, and I often just queer as a catch all phrase instead of using the whole acronym. It's easier to say and most queer folk are not offended by it.

That being said, I try to use the specific group names when I am personally talking to patients, as I think it's empowering to hear them in a way that doesn't assign normative value.

I did acrylic nails for the first time, and I can barely stop looking at my hands! It's amazing how much more feminine they look with just a little extra length

Yeah, I was going to give this a watch, but 6 hours? I think I got the main points from the synopsis.

I love to rag on Star Wars as much as any salty millennial, but fucking get on with it.

Congratulations! You're first visit should be pretty chill. They should talk to you about how long you've felt this way, if you've taken any steps to transition, a health history, and if they're good, they will ask about your support system.

They should go over all the potential risks and effects of feminizing hormone therapy, including what's 'permanent', how long changes take. You should also be open if you smoke/vape - it won't preclude you from taking E, but if you smoke you shouldn't take it orally.

You should have some labs drawn for baseline levels. Usually they check estrogen, testosterone, a complete metabolic panel, a complete blood count, and they should probably do prolactin and a lipid panel (lipid is a fasting panel ideally, but if you're not used to having your blood taken make sure you eat something before the visit).

You can usually start the medications before getting your labs back, unless you have a medical history that warrants waiting, although that's kind of up to the prescriber.

Visits should be every 3 months the first year, then 6 months the second year, and them yearly. You may need slightly more frequent visits if you change the route of your medication, or if you're labs aren't in the goal range.

It's important to look into minority stress and see if they have any resources or groups they can connect you with. Trans folks have higher rates of mental illness - that's not because there is something inherently wrong with us. It's because we live in a society that can be very hostile to us, even in places that are considered progressive. Start working on resilience now, and try not to do it alone. It's a lot.

Finally, my personal recommendation is to look into voice lessons, especially if you are not socially out. Not only is it rewarding to have your voice reflect who you really are, having the space to try out your identity, name, pronouns, presentation, etc. in a safe and affirming space can be just wonderful. It really helped me figure some things out when I wasn't sure exactly where my path would lead.

And, in the ancient wisdom of our people, just remember - you got this.

I do, the longer it's been the shorter they are (almost 10 years now). My trigger is seeing someone, usually in a TV or movie, take that long, exaggerated drag.

Women of color actually have really high rates of HIV compared to the rest of the population. Working to de-stigmatize both the infection and prevention treatments is a really important part of reducing overall numbers of HIV.

It's actually a very good strategy to come out to people a little outside your main circle before coming out to the people closest to you. It's like a dry run, and if they aren't accepting, it's not quite as hard as it can be with close friends and family.

It sounds like your mum might have an idea you are somewhere in the lgbtq umbrella, and it sounds like your sisters either won't care or will be supportive.

Coming out to ANYONE is a big deal, and you should be proud of yourself for that. It's a process, it takes time for some of us.

When you think you're ready, figure out one family member you feel is the most likely to be accepting, and go from there.

The only caveat is if you might get kicked out or otherwise cut off financially, if you rely on them. Safety is the #1 priority at all times.

Good luck! You got this 🏳️‍⚧️

It's not as punk, but the last three albums by Metric are brilliant in how they discuss the current state of the world.

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I miss beat saber so much. Really got great Euphoria playing that with a skirt right before I started transitioning.

Some of the other comments have mentioned Joanna Harper, who is trying, but lacks enough data to make meaningful conclusions.

I recently did a presentation on the political side of this, and one thing to note was that with 1 or 2 exceptions, not a single state legislator could identify an instance of a trans woman dominating her field (because the anti trans movement is astroturf and designed to prey on people's fear).

If you would like my sources for the presentation, DM me. I only had a couple on this subject, but some of the auxiliary sources might help too.

Thank you

Existentialism, and Camus in particular have a lot of influence in my thought patterns. But to Camus, love was one of the central pillars of deriving meaning from nothingness.

And I don't have that.

In fact, I have significantly less love than before.

I have people that say they care, and in the moment, they mean that. But at the end of the day, I don't matter enough to check in on, unless I warn them.

I just thought for the first time in my life I would be celebrated and appreciated for who I am.

But the reality is, no matter how much they front or posture, the "normals" will never accept me.

I could offer them salvation on a silver platter, and still be met with disdain.

So, again, what's the point? What's the point in trying?

Doubly so, because my nursing certification is an associate level. Everywhere I looked requires a Bachelors.

That's what I did last night. Complimented outfits, hair, shoes. I had my pride pin on (necklace, technically), but no one wanted to engage more than just saying hi.

As long as they aren't getting medical advice from you, I'm good with it.

For the first time, I am content. It's honestly a wild feeling - less then a decade ago I was about a half step from homeless and an opioid user. Now I've successfully transitioned, gotten my dream job, and have a super cute fat kitty. And I just got a message from what seems like a genuinely decent guy who I'm meeting for coffee.

It's fucking wild. Every day I just appreciate all the small things so much. It's really made me refocus my goal to try to help people as much as I can now.

Rootin for yall. I hope everyone gets to feel this way.

I did at the restaurant I worked at when I transitioned, although I switch to initials instead of a female name. Everyone was super cool about it, just went, "ok cool."

Don't be surprised if people mess up, especially people that know you better - it can be harder for people that know you better to make that initial switch. But if your workplace seems cool with it, it probably will be.

Good luck! This is one of the most nerve wracking parts of transitioning, but also the most rewarding. Reach out if you need any help processing when it's over!

No, like my initial comment said, number and types of partners are important, as are your partners' partners.

If you actually read my comment, you can see I'm trying to get people to look past the stigma and actually determine what kinds of risks they have and make safer sex decisions accordingly.

PrEP can have some uncomfortable side effects, and not everyone is able to tolerate it. There are very, very few things in healthcare that we can say "everyone" in a certain cohort should do, and PrEP is no exception.

Your response, which characterizes my post as misinformation, is inaccurate, as I have shown, but I do appreciate the chance to talk about sex and try to normalize it as part of the healthcare discussion 😊

Is there a joke? Or is the artist's intention not to be funny?

Honestly, that's probably just your self perception. I always think my hands look masculine, but none of my cis female friends think so. We are often our own biggest critics.

I have professional help

I am 100% with you! CeraVe is definitely not a bad option, but once I was able to find Cetaphil in my area I started using it and haven't looked back.

The job was to help develop the program and department, at least that's how they sold it to me. I was specifically told management is receptive to input from my position, and it was well within my purview to consider these issues. And, given that I don't think ever worked a full 40 hour week, I wouldn't say I did anything "double time".

I did give them a reasons to get rid of me, in that I showed there wasn't actually enough clinical level work for a nurse at this position, at least with how they structured it

Support is important. Being trans means being a minority, and that means being exposed to minority stress. There's a significant segment of the population that hates us (not because they really do, but because they've been conditioned to).

Being trans, especially during the transition period, is fucking hard,and it's about 10x worse when Fox News is shoveling hate as fast and far as they can.

I've had a lot of really negative experiences since transitioning, especially in the workplace. But I've also found some of the most meaningful relationships and a career that feels like I've found my purpose.

There's lots of good and lots of bad, and that's why support systems are . If you're in an area that is hostile with no support, you might want to look at non-social forms of affirmation. If you're in a supportive or even neutral community with some kind of pereonal support system, then you have a real chance of living your best life.

If you're somewhere in between, I suggest weighing the risks and benefits and going from there.

I've had really bad experiences with LGBT groups/events, especially trans events, in the past. Working in a professional capacity has been the most rewarding way for me to feel connected, while also (hopefully) using some of the privilege I have to help others.

I'm working on online guides at work right now, so maybe I can upload those at some point if folks are interested.

Depending on where you are, you might not need a diagnosis. In the states, any physician that works in gender care can diagnose you as long as they follow the Endocrine Society/WPATH guidelines. Planned Parenthood is a great resource to get started (if you're US, apologies for my assumption. I'm an American on the internet, everyone else must be too, lol)

It might be too much butter, but I think you're also light on flour. If you're using cups, make sure you scoop it a little over-full and then level it off. You can also try measuring if you have a kitchen scale.

I mean, this is probably the right answer, lol

Has anyone made a Simpsons shitpost thing I can join? That's pretty much all I miss from reddit. That and Slay by Comment