How do I tame my frustration toward my aging parents?
My parents are 57 and 63. My mother is erratic, forgetful, and when she gets mad she sometimes screams and throws things. My father is slowly going deaf, getting slower and more stubborn and forgetful as well. They can be infuriating sometimes, but I know that they're aging and I can't be mad at them. How do I deal with this, especially early on in preparation for further down the road?
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Treat them how you would wish to be treated when you are old, forgetful, stubborn, deaf, and slower. Getting old can suck. It's angering. It hurts. They are humans with emotions. Don't forget that.
if they have helped their son to raise sooner on his feet and could afford to live by himself , he could have been at least remotely able to make their life a smooth sail..but when u stuck living with them and has to deal with their shenanigans with nothing significant to expect in return in the future then thats the infuriarating part
He never said he isn't capable of paying rent or wants to live away from his parents. Even then they are parents, you can't just neglect their problems because you don't have to deal with it. Unless your parents were terrible and you genuinely hate them, take care of them even if it's only visiting once in a while.
we are both making assumptions while op is mute. its good to debate but its futile.
What about taking the tiniest bit of personal responsibility?
it took two to take care of one person. it took only 10 years for me to become almost autonomous, but still only financially dependant. i cant as a single person take care of two people, not only 10 years, but basically 30 years or how long they will last while becoming more vegetable. at least i was a vegetable for the first 4 years..the nerve of some people..personal responsability..what does it even have with all of this ?