How do I cope with the idea I'm unattractive and that's unlikely to change CW NEGETIVE POST

skymtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone to Transfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone – 33 points –

::: spoiler spoiler Ive kinda considered quiet quitting mg transition, I feel like few take it serrious, and my friends that do it feels like they are just being nice to me cause they feel bad that my dreams just are not possible. At this point ive kinds reached the idea that I'll just boymode forever and hope they silently change my ID back to male so I can just go back into the closet while still on HRT since its so far in the past 2 years made virtually zero difference for me. I dont wanna get off hrt but at the same time, I know I'll never be seen my general population as a women. I just feel like its too late since I started at 200+ lbs and fat couldn't redistirube properly so ive permently missed out of stuff like hips and more femine views. Someone here acually said I didn't look a day over 35, I'm 22. I just feel like being in the closet and just looking like a nobody dude, who avoids talking to people is the best course of action. If I'm lucky the second hand smoke I grew up with will kill me when I'm 40. :::

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I was overweight when I started hrt too. Your fat can still redistribute. The fat you have isn't going to move on its own and that's the case for everyone. In order to get fat to move you need to lose it and then gain it again. I started dieting and exercising after I got on HRT and I lost a lot of weight from my waist and that's already made me feel more feminine.

From my understanding, your body is going to be using fat and re-building fat deposits even if you aren't losing weight, which given enough time should eventually move fat deposits. But if there's a lot of fat to be moved, then "eventually" might not be on a timescale that's useful. Forcing the body to burn more fat while on HRT of course speeds up the process.

Yeah. My understanding as well is that weight fluctuates throughout the day which slowly causes weight redistribution. I neglected to mention it just because it is a very slow process and I find exercising to be a better way to get weight redistribution instead of just waiting.

I think I should get off hrt until I loose weight

Losing weight while on T is going to cause your body add/remove weight in masculine areas. It's much better for you to stay on HRT while losing weight so that way you end up with a feminine figure.

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What I'm gathering eaother way I'm gonna be stuck with this for a few years regardless, and since I lost at the genetic lottery I I feel like its not possible once so ever

Time marches on regardless. You could work on yourself or you could do nothing. Do you want to be where you are today 5 years from now?

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