How do I stop a crush from developing further?

throwawaysalami@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world – 169 points –

I think I got a crush on my dance instructor. Which fucking sucks for all the obvious reasons. Normally I wouldn't be so worried. BUT I JUST HAD A GODDAMN ROMANTIC DREAM ABOUT HER. Seriously I just woke up from a dream about her confessing her love to me and me eagerly doing the same about her.

So how do you stop a crush from developing further? Because this is a well from which only disappointment may be drawn.

Edit: I am single btw.

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Tell her. Then she likely rejects your feelings, and you distance yourself from her to kill the feelings.

This is what I was thinking.

Either she rejects and that's a big turn off for the very obvious reason of her not wanting to be with OP (or it should be), or she accepts and it could be great. Nothing to lose.

Yeah. It's super scary but it's really the most optimal route. I fell in love with a friend, told her, she said she doesn't feel the same way but we still remain friends and after a period of awkwardness it got back to the way it was before. We live in different parts of the world most of the year so nothing would really change one way or another, but still, it was easier to get things out in the open.

Just should tell her in a non-creepy casual way and it should be fine.

That would most likely make being in the class awkward as well.

Lol that's not even close to real awkwardness of letting romantic feelings develop to crazy levels and end up friendzoned or worse. We need to be men and avoid falling a victim to our own naivety.

Also, that's also why I said to distance from her, which includes not taking classes with her anymore.