The toxic beliefs that are taught are part of the trauma. Certainly not an excuse, no, but good to be aware of if we want to help people break the cycle.
As far as the whole "sleep on the couch" thing, I don't tend to think grown adults should be telling one another where they're allowed to sleep just because one of them is upset, but that's a different topic.
The toxic beliefs that are taught are part of the trauma.
Sorry i punched you in the face, i thought it was okay because daddy did it
Pretty much...
Excuses
Explanations aren't excuses, and without explanations we can't fix the problem. Villainizing can be useful and certainly feels good but it doesn't accomplish much else.
If you're looking at this pic and thinking it describes a normal relationshio dynamic, yeah, it's being used as an excuse.
If you look through my comments in this thread you'll see that nowhere have I said anything like that. In fact at one point I said that neither adult in a relationship should get to dictate where the other person sleeps.
The toxic beliefs that are taught are part of the trauma. Certainly not an excuse, no, but good to be aware of if we want to help people break the cycle.
As far as the whole "sleep on the couch" thing, I don't tend to think grown adults should be telling one another where they're allowed to sleep just because one of them is upset, but that's a different topic.
Sorry i punched you in the face, i thought it was okay because daddy did it
Pretty much...
Excuses
Explanations aren't excuses, and without explanations we can't fix the problem. Villainizing can be useful and certainly feels good but it doesn't accomplish much else.
If you're looking at this pic and thinking it describes a normal relationshio dynamic, yeah, it's being used as an excuse.
If you look through my comments in this thread you'll see that nowhere have I said anything like that. In fact at one point I said that neither adult in a relationship should get to dictate where the other person sleeps.
I know you didn't. I'm not accusing you.