The internet is Wrong About Attachment Styles... by BABILA
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Warnings for: Examples of awfulness against folks with insecure attachment styles (mostly avoidant), video opens on a sarcastic/satire 'bit' but the creator isn't serious, the gender binary (by the examples the creator shows, not the creator himself), traumatic situations that may have happened when any viewers to this were a child, saying all insecure attachment styles are unhealthy (but in a nice way from a place of understanding imo).
Ohey, that's better than I'd expected. Kinda cried a lot during the attachment style descriptions part. Good to know a bunch of people think I'm an evil monster who likes hurting people :3
Now when immediate-ancestors cause unhealthy attachment styles because of their unwellnesses, what do? I'm still really salty about how much of my life I've lost 'cause there was neither fairness nor proper care in my early life. Almost died (arguably several times) because She Who Must Never Be Questioned couldn't handle the thought of anyone else "helping" me. Ungood situation. Plus ungood! Can barely-if-at-all attach any more and it only gets worse.
Two+ decades with little to no recourse or support in case of bad parenting seems like a bad way. Some (many?) won't even know how to spot problems, then it's like "Okay but they were having their own problems too" "Okay so what was I supposed to do? And what do I do now, living in somebody's attic halfway across the country hoping I can get medicaid sorted out and get some kind of care ever and everything's worse because my beginning gave me problems instead of solutions" :-\
... I'm just whinging into the wind I guess. Hard to not blame, I guess is what I'm saying. Need more help going around, and the armchair psychologists labelling and broad-brushing categories of people aren't helping, I think. wobbles, having confused itself; flops over, has a nap