For my fellow introverts

EndOfLine@lemmy.world to Lemmy Shitpost@lemmy.world – 589 points –
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Say it with me, social anxiety is not introversion, once again, social anxiety is not introversion.

It's complicated.

If being in a noisy place with lots of strangers feels unpleasant, it's only natural to for one to feel anxious about going to such events as anxiety about something that's going to be unpleasant is normal even in animals.

At the same time, at least until a certain point in their lifes, people also feel a certain fear of social rejection and whatnot if they say no to these things and they think they're suppose to to go to such events to fit in.

Feeling forced to repeatedly do something unpleasant really amps up the anxiety. Again, perfectly normal.

However people need to be careful about confusing anxiety about unpleasant social situations one feels almost forced to attend (you're not, but most people don't really interiorise that belief until their 30s) with anxiety about contact with other people: the former is not at all the latter - it's the event, not the people, that is the problem.

Looks like a wonderful event, creating lots of quiet space elsewhere.

That one was instantly shown to my wife. The real education with that one.

Is this a thing? I get anxious about groups of people I don't know but will need to interact with - parties, joining a friend at the bar with their friends, etc - but a crowd doesn't bother me in the least.