GrymEdm

@GrymEdm@lemmy.world
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"It’s easy for her to talk, sitting far from where the death scenes take place, but put a gun in her hand, and let her go fight, and she’ll say, ‘No thanks!’” This from a guy who discusses deploying troops in America against Americans, yet dodged the Vietnam draft with fake medical issues.

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If Christian parents were really concerned about their child's safety they'd let them go to library book readings and keep them away from church groups and camps.

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  • If you're the owner of the home, know what bylaws there are regarding snow removal near your home. Where I live you can get a fine + snow removal costs if you aren't reasonably prompt getting snow off the sidewalk.

  • Snowy surfaces (sidewalks, driveways, roads) are often icy surfaces = slip and fall hazard. This is especially serious for older folks but it can hurt/injure at any age. This gets worse if it snows then melts then refreezes. Don't run if you don't have to. Sand/grit on these surfaces can help, and in my area you can get sand for free at certain town facilities.

  • Frostbite on exposed skin is a genuine hazard. Look up the weather forecast when it's cold and take time-to-frostbite warnings seriously.

This is persuasion done correctly. "I understand how you are feeling. Israel's crimes and US support of them should be important to all of us. You aren't wrong to have your reservations, and I agree change is needed. That being said, please let me tell you why it's important to participate." No insults, readily apparent empathy, and a sound argument.

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Looking at that 2nd point: it's so odd that Trump's Republicans include hardcore Netanyahu-style Zionists AND unrepentant antisemites. It's like they want to cover all possible approaches to the wrong side of history.

As to the meat of the story, Legal Eagle made a video about the legality of the Musk lottery. It seems pretty clearly forbidden, but we've been down this road with rich Conservatives many times before...

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The only thing he he should be allowed to do is retake whatever high-school civics course he failed that covers how laws protect anonymous and uncoerced voting.

Reddit:

  • It has a much larger user base and many heavily specialized boards that nevertheless stay reasonably active.
  • It's a collection of echo chambers. Dissent is usually stomped out by mass downvoting and heavy moderation/bans. It's rare to find a board that allows arguments for a long period of time. Agree with the board's users/mods or get silenced. Posted rules do not matter, and you can definitely be hateful in ways that violate posted rules so long as that type of hate is acceptable on that board.
  • So many users mean that getting content to succeed is a crapshoot. Often posts become lost in the noise, especially on busy boards.
  • I left about a year ago, but apparently there's a lot of bot/AI slop on boards now.

Lemmy:

  • Much smaller user base. Heavily specialized boards move slowly if they exist at all. It's not unusual to see boards where it's just one/a few people posting with days in between new content.
  • More ability to have disagreements. Whether it's because moderating a smaller # of users is easier, the mods are less authoritarian, or whatever you are more likely to be able to disagree. Don't be blatantly racist, celebrating violence, clearly trolling, etc. and you'll probably remain able to participate. I'm sure this isn't universal on all boards, but it's my experience on many boards.
  • For all that I believe the above point, there are still "echo chamber" moments on Lemmy. Sometimes it seems people may be downvoted simply because they are already downvoted. It's still way less egregious than on Reddit, and such is human nature I suppose.
  • Fewer users means you are more likely to get some engagement on your post, at least in my experience. I never sorted my feed by new posts on Reddit because it was an avalanche of posts of questionable quality, so I only saw whatever content had already succeeded. On Lemmy I can look for new posts and see most if not all content on the boards I enjoy.

Ryan James Girdusky, the POS in this clip, just posted on X: "You can stay on CNN if you falsely call every Republican a Nazi and have taken money from Qatar-funded media. Apparently you can't go on CNN if you make a joke. I'm glad America gets to see what CNN stands for." (I'm not going to post a link because fuck that platform.)

"Oh I was joking". If you were joking you wouldn't have told people you responded because you thought Mehdi said Hamas (which you didn't think, you heard Palestinian and got angry). You would have said it was a bad joke. What a typical Nazi crybully Girdusky is.

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"I was shown the satellite pictures. I was like, 'Wow that's a lot of water. So much water. I know, I grew up around the best water.' Let me tell you - it's not even American water. American water is beautiful and pure and none of it comes from the floating trash heaps outside our borders. That water hurricane came to America illegally and it's killing people's cats and dogs. Biden let the water in - I wouldn't have let the water in. It's soaking couches in multiple states - I showed Vance the photos and he started crying. Now those tears are American water."

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Edit: I'm changing my stance on how common this is after a few hours looking at top election posts and comments across boards. The abuse definitely exists, but in most places it WASN'T at the top. While "vote bullying" happens, I was wrong about how much support it gets. I'm happy to be wrong and glad to see that people usually are pretty decent about presenting their arguments. I still think OP's article shows how people should be convinced.

I get what you are saying and half-agree. Where I respectfully disagree is that people have always been this reasonable. By writing "this is how it's done correctly, with respect and logic" I'm juxtaposing Sen. Sander's approach vs. "vote with us or else you're -insert insult here-" posts, comments, and memes. I've seen tons of some attempts to dehumanize or discredit critics of Biden/Harris/Dems on Lemmy and other platforms. You are right that some most have always tried to be empathetic and civil.

I also agree high-profile endorsements matter. That bugs me a little bit because I think arguments should succeed or fail on their own merits and not reputation. But I know I'm a consciously "have no heroes" person because I believe everyone is fallible. I definitely have people I respect a lot, but no one that I'll agree with all the time.

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Because of his billionaire background, he already knows where he can grab them to keep them close at hand. He's been practising for this policy with several reluctant women over the years.

Occupational safety may be punk rock, but breaking forklifting rules is early-2010's dubstep.

  • Take time off from social media once in a while, or at least avoid doomscrolling all day. Bad stories generate FAR more engagement than good stories, and every form of media knows this. If 100,000 people in your area have an average-to-good day and 5 people have terrible days, all 5 stories presented to you will detail how things are in your area are terrible.

  • Physical health affects mental health and vice versa. Eat healthy (or healthier). Stay hydrated. Get 7-9 hours of sleep regularly and use sleep hygeine. Get 90+ minutes of exercise (anything that raises your heartrate) a week which is like 15 minutes/day. Don't worry about doing it all immediately - if you try to change everything at once you're more likely to get overwhelmed and burn out. It's way better to make slow, sustainable changes over months than it is to do a difficult crash course for a short time and get fed up with the process.

  • Do thankfulness exercises. When I go to bed at night I think of 3 things I'm thankful for in the day. On average or bad days it may be that I wasn't in constant/chronic pain, that I got to eat and drink, and that I'm in a safe place and a soft bed. Just remembering those basics (that many of us take for granted) helps keep me aware of good things in my life.

  • Find ways to enjoy hobbies that require participation - arts, sports, board/video games, whatever. Just something other than passively taking in TV/online media. This will help you feel engaged and double points if it's something that allows for improvement because you'll feel rewarded as you get better.

Cruz should receive whatever penalty exists for inciting violence/harassment against a minor, because that's what he's doing. Not only is he bullying teens from a position of power, he didn't even do so competently given neither cis girl is transgender.

Dude realizes he said a heartfelt, knee-jerk "quiet part out loud" and frantically tries to walk it back. It's SO obvious that in his heart all Palestinians, and anyone who supports Palestinian rights, is a) Hamas and b) a valid target.

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"What do you do?"

"I'm a nunya."

"Do you mean a nun?"

"No, I mean nunya goddamn business."

Every night before I go to bed I do a mental health exercise where I list 3 things I was thankful for that day. It's a habit that is supposed to make you appreciate the good things and help get past the bad.

On unremarkable or bad days the list is that I wasn't in constant/chronic pain, that I got to eat and drink all that I needed, and that the day is over and I'm in bed and statistically very safe. It may not seem like much on bad days, but if you've ever been missing one or more of those 3 things then you know it's a HUGE set of problems to appreciate not having.

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I feel you. I completely agreed until sometime in spring, when Sen. Sanders first posted an argument very similar to OP's linked article. One of the major reasons I switched stances was environmental damage and global warming which is threatening horrible suffering for hundreds of millions at least. If for no other reason than that Trump must lose. Afterwards those who stand for ethics and proportional response can try to drag the Western leaders out of complicity with war crimes. Never stop criticizing such unethical and illegal policies, but if you're American please vote Democrat.

"Ara Ara! Popu-Sensei is so kawaii!" /s Too bad there are so many cases where Catholic anime turns into the darkest type of hentai.

I really wish the USA was just seeing the end of a double-term Bernie presidency. I'm not dumb enough to pretend that it would have all been roses and prosperity (especially with the pandemic), but missing the setbacks of that 1st Trump presidency alone would have been pretty great. I -think- I'd prefer a younger president, but if an older president had to be chosen then Bernie seems articulate and compassionate.

I like that it's moderated fairly lightly but reasonably. Often I can have an actual discussion with someone who doesn't agree with me without either of us getting banned by a mod who likes one side or the other. From what I see generally a user needs to be very obviously abusive/racist/violent before a mod steps in, even if the content is controversial.

I dislike that I've needed to heavily restrict my use for my mental health until after the election. A lot of people (not all by any means) believe it's ok to bully and abuse other users because their cause is righteous - it's already shown up in this thread. E.g. the daily posts and comments, with a lot of upvotes/support, that label anyone who disagrees with or criticizes Kamala (used to be Biden)/Democrats a bot, idiot, worse than useless, foreign agent and so on. I'm not talking about downvoting which is just expressing disagreement - I'm talking about outright insults and upvoting those. The attitude of "vote with/support me or else" has no place in a democracy founded on free voting without persecution, even if the bully is sure they're right. If I didn't mention it, perhaps even though I have, we might see a version of "but it is actually ok this time" and reasons why. It's happened before.

Guess what? Very few "policy bullies" think they are evil - they're positive it's justified. Christians demand abortion bans, Muslim deportation, religion in schools/government and so on because they truly believe they are saving eternal souls. I was raised in that environment. That a sizable amount of Lemmy users believe it's correct/admirable to insult others into "proper" behavior makes them very similar in character to those religious extremists IMO. Apparently when the issue is really important abuse is ok.

I'll end by saying Gaza/Palestine is incredibly important to me - I am legitimately very upset frequently by the stories and media. However, Bernie Sanders convinced me to support Biden and then Kamala. Bernie laid out his argument with logic and facts and did not once insult my position. I also doubt the aggressive posts/comments are winning over undecideds. "I wasn't sure if I should vote Democrat until I was called a harmful idiot and had my concerns dismissed as being in bad faith".

Edit: While I stand by what I say below about the sentiments being genuine, when actually reading top comments across boards - in most threads the top comments are pretty civil and reasonable. I was wrong.

I believe the meme and comments actually reflect the views of the people posting them. Perhaps I'm wrong, but the sentiments come across as very genuine and so I don't think it's accurate to dismiss them as "just joking". I also picked it because I remembered it and so it was faster than trawling through other threads for examples.

The Count is going to start teaching kids about corporate profits. "One billion extra dollars untaxed! Ha ha hah! 2 billion..."

Oscar the Grouch is going to be a working homeless who is forced to move his can every week by police.

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I have zero proof of this so take it for the musing it is, but the Internet Archive/Wayback Machine can be used to view articles that have been taken offline (sometimes for political reasons). The IA is a very accessible way to prove that once something is on the Internet, it's out there forever. I used it in a recent post to show an Israeli newspaper article that argued Israel had a right to not just Palestine, but Lebanon, Syria, Iraq, and other territories. It was taken off the newspaper's website a few days later, but IA had it.

This may explain why no one is taking credit, and there are no demands. Or it could very well be another reason, including people just being assholes.

If you want to know why Americans are bummed out about their purchasing power, just look at this chart about how wages abruptly stopped increasing with productivity 45 years ago. People are accomplishing more than ever before in history and being left with less buying power. In many cases wages don't even keep pace with inflation because companies pay based on what they can get away with, not what the work is worth.

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There is no way that murdering top Iranian officials in an Iranian embassy on Syrian soil was ever going to be anything but a gauntlet thrown down. If it was almost any other country than Israel the world would be outraged. Countries like the USA and Germany didn't pull support because of things like destroying hospitals and killing innocents, so bombing the embassy of a country as reviled as Iran inside Syria wasn't going to stop them.

Netanyahu knows his days in power are done very shortly after Israel leaves a condition of all-out war. Biden has told him that, his polls tell him that, and protestors tell him that. I think he's poking the local bears to escalate and stay in power by extending the conflict. Both Biden and Trump have promised support so Netanyahu is acting with the backing of the world's largest military no matter who wins. Pulling the USA and other Western countries into another war in the Middle East is his best bet of pushing that day of reckoning way down the road.

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So in addition to all the other forms of control, Israel collects and can restrict Palestinian taxes. Tell me again, Israeli propagandists, how Israel doesn't actually occupy what is rightfully internationally known as Occupied Palestinian Territory (OPT).

I really, really hate that it feels like there's a new ethnicity it's ok to distrust/suppress/wish harm upon. The article talks about official efforts to ban Pro-Palestinian voices, including (ironically) Jewish Voice for Peace. I am so much happier on Lemmy because there are far fewer posts with opinions like "Palestinians are only getting what they deserve because of Hamas" etc. Even though people have disagreed with me (albeit not often) I have yet to debate anyone making those kinds of arguments.

I'm frustrated waiting for the rest of the world to catch up and realize that there's no "ok race" to assume is some brand of evil. There's no ethnicity that it's bad to advocate freedom, happiness, and healthiness for. E.g. even though I post a lot about Israel, I take time frequently to make it absolutely clear that I know Israel doesn't represent all Jews and that judging based on ethnicity or birthplace/residence is wrong.

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Exactly. "I thought -I- would be allowed to get an abortion when I needed to, because I'm not evil or poor like the babykillers I talk about in church. I'm a good person - it's just a baby would ruin my life (usually = disclose my cheating/premarital sex/be inconvenient) so it's different." It's the classic "rules for thee but not for me" of extremists.

Good on the interviewer for exposing these two as ignorant clowns. If they demand to be taken seriously they should have to provide serious evidence. As it stands they have trouble even articulating exactly what they're angry about. If this group is serious about wanting to stop grooming, they should start protesting churches, not libraries. "In the average American congregation of 400 persons, with women representing, on average, 60% of the congregation, there are, on average of 7 women who have experienced clergy sexual misconduct." And that's from a Christian watchdog group.

The outrage about indoctrinating children coming from within the echo chambers of homeschooling, religiously affiliated schools/camps, and and other child/youth groups is tragically ironic. I know, I grew up inside that system.

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Oh FFS. This had better be an extremely limited response to Iran's response to Israel's bombing of an embassy. Here's hoping it's just the same type of symbolic attack that Iran made last weekend - all show and no intent. Just Israel refusing to let anyone else have the last word.

Anything more serious and things are about to become very messy and even more expensive. Although it would explain why Israel is suddenly arranging to get dozens of jets from the US in the last month or so. Lord knows they don't seem necessary if the only goal is to keep blowing up Palestinians.

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Pro-Israeli interests have sometimes settled for manufacturing a helpful "truth" when it doesn't exist. The latest version seems to be that protesters are widely violent, hateful, and make campuses/cities unsafe. Here's a 4-minute message from a Jewish Holocaust survivor about his time in the front lines of pro-Palestine protests: "When the right-wing section of the present government is trying to press for the banning of these marches on the grounds that they create 'no-go areas' for Jews and they are anti-Semitic - we know that this is complete rubbish and the very opposite is true." He encourages "the brave student protesters" to keep going, and talks about how well they have been treated and celebrated even while wearing placards that identify them as Jews.

Here's a Jewish Londoner talking about how he's been attending UK pro-Palestine/ceasefire marches for months with a large Jewish bloc and they've "been received very warmly". The interviewer then disagrees with him, telling him that he's in danger and the marches are anti-Semitic in spite of the person who's actually been going to months of protests saying it's the opposite.

Here's a video of a woman who walked into the middle of a protest calling 911 and trying to invent a dangerous situation while everyone around her keeps their distance and assures her she is safe to leave.

Here's a study about how false claims of crimes hurt the cases of, and empathy for, real victims of crimes. Similarly there are real anti-Semites out there, and there are true cases of racially motivated aggression against Jews. However, such obvious attempts to invent anti-Semitism is "crying wolf" and damages the credibility of genuine allegations by making it easier to believe it's made up. The people trying to manufacture the situations they claim to fear need to examine their commitment to truth and the harmful impact of their obvious deception. On the protesters side, it's good they are booing and otherwise publicly rejecting anyone who steps over the line into hatred (whether genuinely or as a false flag). That's something they absolutely must stick to in order for the protests to stay ethical and also to avoid being discredited as racist.

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Kids can't protect themselves. They don't have the ability to make their own informed choices. Please don't destroy the evidence-based protections we have that keep them from dying, being crippled, having to get a machine to breathe for them permanently, etc. We have decades of data and it's overwhelmingly clear: vaccines save lives and do so incredibly safely.

Every time a child is seriously harmed because a parent ignored vaccine guidelines the parents should be charged with criminal neglect. It's no different not different enough than if you fed your children say, mercury, and then claimed you believed it was helpful because of Facebook gurus or similarly unaccredited sources. In both situations a child is being permanently harmed due to choices they have no ability to understand, resist or protest and thus we need laws to protect them.

Also, not only are the anti-vaxxer parents endangering their own children, but also everyone else's by increasing risk of their kids becoming vectors/reservoirs for infection and potential mutation into new strains that could evade current vaccines. "High mutation rate is an important characteristic of viruses that can enable them to evade immune responses and propagate infection." So not only are anti-vaxxers making choices for their own kids, but potentially also others' kids. It's not guaranteed but it's rolling some high-stakes dice.

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Yeah, good luck with that.

Seriously, hope it works out for you. Live the dream.

I can empathize that this sucks to go through because I haven't read anything to suggest she had murderous intent, but even accidents have consequences. There have to be penalties for setting up dangerous conditions to make sure that happens as rarely as possible. It's why charges like "involuntary manslaughter" exist.

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Here's a 2-minute video Rich Seigel, a brave Jewish man from New Jersey. In that video he protested what he called the illegal property sale (perhaps one of the ones mentioned in the article) of Western Bank homes in a racially-restricted event. He also succinctly describes how the March 10th event broke both US and international law and why he refuses to let ethnicity = justification. "As Jews, we don't get to fly under the radar and break the law and hide it in a synagogue."

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"Woman" is hilarious to define as an agenda - like there's no clarification required to toss half of humanity under the bus. So I watched the video (I don't know Coney, but it's just him making fun of this insane preacher) and it's essentially that bad. The preacher says, and I quote, "She's headstrong and stubborn, constantly arguing with Ash. Typical woman" then laughs and apologizes but never says anything else about her. The mental athletics involved in the preacher's conclusions would make him a master of any gym.

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